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Soul Ties: a Recipe for Healing

Exploring a “soul tie” connection that leads to intense accelerated healing—if you’re up to the challenge

Feb 1

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Radical Autonomy

Putting you and me before our relationship is what makes it free and safe from control.

Jan 19

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Coercing Myself?

What does it look like to consent to myself and what do I do when my body is saying no to something my mind wants to happen?

Dec 28, 2025

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A Mirror of My Own

Listen now | On attachment and healing all the old wounds that drive us in relationships today.

Dec 14, 2025

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How to Help Victims of Abuse

What it looks like for a victim of abuse when she needs help but is desperately afraid of it.

Dec 7, 2025

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Nat LaJune

Nat LaJune

Lover, Mother, Writer, Poet I write about sex, love, and psychic shit

Always Mending

2:41

When the healing properties of sex are weaponized, it’s not healing anyone. It’s one person siphoning energy from another.

2 hrs ago

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Hyperemesis Gravidarum

When it’s not just morning sickness but something so much worse

Mar 6

2:31

I am the source of my love

This doesn’t mean I don’t miss someone when they leave. I still miss them and wish we had more time together, but I can grieve that loss and move on or…

Mar 4

2:56

Optional Orgasms

My role is to love, not to facilitate orgasms.

Feb 18

2:54

The Pleasure is in the Person

When your value isn’t in someone’s orgasm, life—and love—is a lot more fun!

Feb 18

0:55

Real Intimacy Is

I had a series of videos in 2021-2022 describing real intimacy. It was theoretical at the time, but I have since been able to live it out in…

Feb 16

4:04

The US Has an Abusive Husband

As a country we are dealing with abuse the same way a woman is facing an abusive husband. The lessons she uses to get free are lessons we can use to get…

Feb 11

1:49

You leave your imprint behind on everyone you love. And your love is worth holding even if they can’t appreciate it until you’re long gone.

Feb 7

Listen to Yourself

1:41

Avoiding the Light

The avoidant wants love but love exposes their shadow and they’re more afraid of their shadow

Mar 28

2:41

Avoidance and Abandonment

How a relationship with an avoidant triggers specific wounding to come to the surface to be healed

Mar 6

1:19

Having a broken heart is nothing compared to the pain of ignoring it and pretending it isn’t broken.

Mar 2

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This Valentine’s Day, a shout out to all the first loves who showed us what to look for in the next one. Thank you. ♥️

Feb 14

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I am my own God, not to have power and control over others, but only to liberate myself from the power and control of others.

Feb 12

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Feb 5

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If you’re lucky enough to find a love that triggers the shit out of you, don’t waste it. Do the work. Face your demons. And then come home to yourself.

Feb 1

1:32

I could see him coming, but I decided not to step aside—and I would do it again. 🫦

Jan 31

Poetry

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The Fairy & The Gargoyle III: The Fairy’s Mirror

Part three tells a bit of the fairy's story, what happened to her after the gargoyle left her at the edge of the forest

Mar 16, 2025

The Fairy & The Gargoyle II: A Gargoyle Wedding

After leaving his fairy at the edge of the woods, a broken hearted gargoyle has been listening to his family, but he's beginning to discover this might…

Dec 10, 2024

The Fairy & The Gargoyle

An allegory for love in a poem, and some thoughts on self love

May 18, 2024

The nameless faceless friend who appears to me in dreams. I don't know who he is, but I know him every time.

Jun 17, 2023

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Melanie’s Wish

A dream about a boy and a girl who knew each other a long time ago.

Jun 10, 2023

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Marital Coercion

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Men Using Sex for Emotional Connection

What this looked like for me with my ex and Navy Guy and how they helped me find center.

Oct 26, 2025

How to Help Him Stop Coercing You

You can't. You can only pull back your energy and let him feel the distance enough that he wants to change on his own. And then take care of yourself.

Jan 1, 2024

Proudly Withholding

How this accusation of withholding sex shaped my sexuality, drove me to impotence, and ultimately became the cornerstone of the house I’ve devoted the…

Sep 18, 2023

Maybe it Wasn’t His Fault

All the ways I defended my ex-husband and the systems that rally around men to make their wives the abuser when she is pushed away by coercion.

Sep 5, 2023

Of Fear & Fawning

When you’ve lost yourself to the will of others and want to find your way back to yourself.

Jun 25, 2023

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