Closing the Gap by Mike Underell
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Are Women Taught to Be Victims? Of Course Not.
But here’s what this talking point tells us about the men who say it.
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Future Dads: Take Parental Leave Immediately After Your Child Is Born
What I learned from taking paternity leave at the beginning AND end of my daughter's first year
Apr 3
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Social Media Sucks
And it's deliberately shaping boys into men who also suck
Mar 31
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It’s Not Our Wives Making Us Miserable
Nov 18, 2025
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Patriarchy on FULL Display in One Angry Comment
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Do Men Love Women As Much As They Say They Do?
Sep 30, 2025
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My Daughter Painted My Nails. I Took It Off Right Away.
Nov 4, 2025
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Being a Male Feminist is About Playing the Long Game
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What Happened After I Told a Man He Didn’t Love Women.
Oct 7, 2025
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One Man Lifted Up. Another Man Punched Down.
And the one most men default to.
Mar 26
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Teaching Myself (and You) to Believe Women
My 3-Step System
Mar 19
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I Had to Teach Myself How to Believe Women
I hate that I have to write that, but it’s true.
Mar 17
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Being a Male Feminist is About Playing the Long Game
Also, here are three things you can do this week
Mar 10
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The Culture Behind Why Girls Quit Sports
What distasteful jokes have to do with why girls quit sports and what we can do about it
Mar 4
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USA Men's Hockey Team and "Covert" Sexism
Saying the right things in public while doing the wrong things in private
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Practice Discomfort. You’re Going to Need It.
I started by putting my phone away when in elevators
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Strong Enough to Listen
How I stopped letting defensiveness run me
Feb 13
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If “I Hate Men” Makes You Defensive, This Is Why
How defensiveness turns women’s exhaustion into a debate
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Closing the Gap by Mike Underell
I write about how men show up, for the people around them and, most importantly, for themselves.
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