{"id":40445,"date":"2020-10-16T05:38:00","date_gmt":"2020-10-16T04:38:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/?p=39400"},"modified":"2022-01-27T17:02:42","modified_gmt":"2022-01-27T17:02:42","slug":"self-doubt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/self-doubt\/","title":{"rendered":"The Ultimate Guide To Self-doubt and How To Let Go of Its Grips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you have an inner critic? An annoying little voice of <strong>self-doubt<\/strong> inside your head? It always seems to highlight your flaws and wipes out your confidence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone, at some point, gets themselves into a mental battle with their inner critic. When something great happens to you, it whispers in your ear, \u201cYou are not worthy.\u201d When life gets hard, it makes you feel like everyone else is doing well. Of course, you are the only one struggling. It makes you question your capacity to make good decisions when things don\u2019t go exactly as expected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Experiencing self-doubt from time to time is normal. However, if you let it get out of control every time it visits you, it can limit you as a person.&nbsp;With that being said, all is not lost.&nbsp;You can<em>\u2014if you want to\u2014<\/em>learn how to talk back to your inner critic.&nbsp; Learning to do so is crucial. Otherwise, it can stop you from taking clear and confident action when new opportunities come your way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By the end of this article, you will learn:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"#What-is-self-doubt-and-where-it-comes-from-toc\">What is self-doubt and where it comes from<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#An easy method to spot it before it spirals out of control\">An easy method to spot it before it spirals out of control<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#The-three-rules-of-the-mind-and-how-you-can-use-them-to-let-go-of-self-doubt-toc\">The three rules of the mind and how you can use them to let go of self-doubt<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s get started.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"What-is-self-doubt-and-where-it-comes-from-toc\">What Is Self-Doubt?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_173853119-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\"What Is Self-Doubt?\" class=\"wp-image-44740\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_173853119-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_173853119-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_173853119-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Self-doubt is an anxious feeling of uncertainty about an aspect of oneself.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It occurs when you lack confidence or feel incapable of doing something you need to do that is typically outside of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some people assume <a href=\"https:\/\/firststepbh.com\/blog\/is-it-self-doubt-or-depression-reasons-it-might-be-a-mental-illness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-doubt to be a mental illness<\/a>. However, it is actually a natural part of being human, and in some cases, it can be a good thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-healthy-self-doubt-an-example\">Healthy self-doubt: An example&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>When you venture off to explore something unfamiliar for the first time, your mind uses a small and healthy dose of self-doubt as a way to keep you safe. It assumes that your unfamiliarity with the task can pose a risk, so it discourages you from pursuing it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this scenario, self-doubt is a useful tool as it motivates you to gain more clarity before blindly jumping into something unfamiliar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The problem happens when this inbuilt response gets out of control.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If left unchecked, self-doubt can become a limiting factor in your life. Moreover, it can hold you back from taking action and seizing opportunities.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>It makes starting and finishing things harder than it needs to be.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of keeping you safe, it chips away at your confidence and makes you overly question yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-unhealthy-self-doubt-an-example\">Unhealthy self-doubt: An example&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After working hard at your job for many months, your efforts finally started to pay off.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You were assigned a new leadership position for an important project that could break or make your company\u2019s bright future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the ideal world, you simply take it as a recognition of your exceptional performance and smoothly step into your new role.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of doing that, your thoughts go into overdrive:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat if I mess up?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI will look like a fool when they find out I don\u2019t have what it takes.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat will people say?&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI just don\u2019t think I\u2019m smart enough to do this.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This type of self-doubt is not healthy and counterproductive to helping you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&#8217;s take a deeper look at the different forms of unhealthy self-doubt. This way you can better recognize and overcome it, should it occur.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-spot-unhealthy-self-doubt\">How To Spot Unhealthy Self-Doubt<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_1368244247-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\"How To Spot Unhealthy Self-Doubt\" class=\"wp-image-44741\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_1368244247-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_1368244247-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_1368244247-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Think of unhealthy self-doubt as a parasite. In order to survive, it seeks nourishment by feeding off its host\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/how-to-be-more-confident\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-esteem and confidence<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>It shows itself in the following forms:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-self-fulfilling-prophecy\">The self-fulfilling prophecy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>&nbsp;\u201cI can\u2019t do it<\/em><\/strong><strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u2014this attitude can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you do not believe something can be done, why would you put the effort to do it in the first place?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you don\u2019t put in the effort required, you are less likely to get the result you want. As a result, you affirm your initial thought: \u201cI can\u2019t do it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-self-sabotage\">Self-sabotage<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u201cI do not deserve this\u201d<\/em><\/strong><em>\u2014<\/em>self-sabotage comes from <a href=\"https:\/\/rtt.com\/atychiphobia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">fear of failure<\/a>. If you are afraid you won\u2019t pass the test, you might be tempted not to study at all. Therefore, if you fail, you can blame it on not studying.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this case, you can shift the blame from yourself to some external circumstance. For example, it was not your capabilities that failed, it was the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-imposter-syndrome\">The imposter syndrome<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u201cWho am I to do this\u201d<\/em><\/strong><em>\u2014<\/em>the strong feeling of inadequacy comes together with this type of mental dialogue.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might be afraid of being discovered as a fraud. Because in your mind, your achievements are due to pure luck rather than personal accomplishments. This may happen even if you already demonstrated you are more than adequate to get the job done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-feeling-of-unworthiness\">Feeling of unworthiness<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>\u201cIt is not good enough\u201d<\/em><\/strong><em>\u2014<\/em>in this case, you habitually deny yourself the sense of achievement. You lack <a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/self-love-yourself\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-kindness<\/a>. Therefore you believe that no matter how great your accomplishments are, they are never good enough. As a result, you experience harsh self-judgment that keeps you permanently stuck in a spiral of self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The way you talk to yourself is critical as it creates neural pathways in your brain.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you allow the voice of self-doubt to repeatedly undermine your achievements by telling you \u201cyou cannot do it,\u201d \u201cyou are no good,\u201d \u201cyou do not deserve this,\u201d those thoughts will become your default state of mind.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Over time those thoughts will form a self-perpetuating feedback loop. Consequently, it will keep you stuck in the same situation finding it more difficult to break out of it as time goes by.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-where-does-self-doubt-come-from\">Where Does Self-Doubt Come From?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_695447053-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\"Where Does Self-Doubt Come From?\" class=\"wp-image-44743\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_695447053-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_695447053-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_695447053-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>There are a number of reasons behind your self-doubt. for example, some find their roots in traumatic past experiences. Others, on the other hand, can be directly tied to the inner dialogue you have with yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lets elaborate on each type so you can better understand where self-doubt comes from.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-negative-past-experiences\">Negative past experiences<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Going through difficult situations is a normal part of life. However, the way we interpret them will determine how we deal with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This can also include possible negative experiences you might have been exposed to as a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, If you were raised by parents that were overly critical, chances are you grew up with a continual nagging of self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Those experiences might have left you scarred. Therefore, today you need to learn how to cope with them without hanging on to the pain they caused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-comparing-yourself-to-others\">Comparing yourself to others<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>In the age of <a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/instagram-vs-reality-how-social-media-affects-self-esteem\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">social media, comparing yourself to other people <\/a>is almost unavoidable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As you scroll through your social media accounts, you end up seeing other people\u2019s unrealistic and \u201chighly curated\u201d highlight reel of their best moments.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The comparison you make in your mind may end up making you feel somewhat inadequate and plant a seed of self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All of those different reasons make it seem like the problem of self-doubt is complex and can take forever to fix.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>In reality, it is not as hard as you think, and here is why:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is only one common root for all those reasons we mentioned earlier.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is this heavy feeling you get inside of \u201cnot being enough.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Marisa Peer, a world-renowned therapist with over three decades of experience, has helped thousands of people, including CEOs, rock stars, and Olympic athletes, to <a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/overcoming-fear-or-phobia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">release their fears and phobias<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having worked with many clients, she discovered that <strong>the root of most people&#8217;s issues<\/strong><strong><em>\u2014phobias, insecurity, anxiety, fear, and many forms of addiction\u2014<\/em><\/strong><strong>stems from the need to fill the inner emptiness of not feeling enough.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The inner emptiness was a chief reason why her clients would second guess their capabilities. Moreover, they self-sabotage their efforts in critical moments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If they could just get rid of that one persistent feeling<em>\u2014not being enough\u2014<\/em>the wall of self-doubt would start to collapse like a house of cards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Before you can permanently remove self-doubt from your life, you need to understand how it works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-mechanics-of-self-doubt\">The Mechanics of Self-Doubt<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_791410492-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\"The Mechanics of Self-Doubt\" class=\"wp-image-44744\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_791410492-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_791410492-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_791410492-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When we experience an overwhelming sense of self-doubt, we tend to lose touch with the most basic thing we should be in touch with, ourselves and our minds.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>According to Marisa, \u201cWe end up doing everything backward trying to control our events when we must first address the root cause, our thoughts.\u201d<\/strong><strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Marisa is a big fan of simple and practical principles that anyone can easily apply to their life to get tangible positive outcomes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One powerful principle that Marisa helped many of her clients adopt is:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Your thoughts control your feelings. Your feelings control your actions. And your actions control your outcomes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here is how it works:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You have a thought: <em>\u201cI can\u2019t do it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This thought will cause you to feel sad, angry, bitter, helpless, or even hopeless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consequently, this type of thinking evokes negative feelings about yourself. As a result, your ability to make sound and proactive decisions is hindered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To put it simply, it puts fear in the driver&#8217;s seat of your behaviors and actions.<\/strong> This makes you less likely to take risks and reinforces the original thought of \u201c<em>I can\u2019t do it.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now you might be wondering,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHow do I get out of this vicious cycle of self-doubt?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Marisa teaches her clients three simple yet effective <a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/how-to-control-your-thoughts-rules-of-the-mind\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">rules of the mind<\/a> that can help anyone take charge and completely let go of self-doubt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"The-three-rules-of-the-mind-and-how-you-can-use-them-to-let-go-of-self-doubt-toc\">3 Simple Principles for Overcoming Self-Doubt<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_556586149-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\" Overcoming Self-Doubt\" class=\"wp-image-44745\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_556586149-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_556586149-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_556586149-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-principle-1-make-the-unfamiliar-familiar-and-the-familiar-unfamiliar\">Principle #1: Make the unfamiliar familiar and the familiar unfamiliar<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Your mind loves what is familiar to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even when the thing that is familiar is not serving you well, your mind thinks, <em>\u201cAt least I know this well.\u201d<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your mind is accustomed to \u201cnegative dialogue,\u201d you will have an unconscious preference for that type of thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People whose inner critic is out of control are familiar with the constant nagging feeling of \u201cnot being enough.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>What you want to do is make the feeling of not being enough unfamiliar<\/strong>. <strong>At the same time, make the feeling of being enough familiar.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here is how to do it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Start by using this simple yet extremely powerful affirmation \u201cI Am Enough\u201d in your daily practice.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This simple phrase can change your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you say and repeat \u201cI Am Enough\u201d on a daily basis, your brain will start to believe it. Gradually, the phrase will sink in, and your mind will accept it as the truth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This simple affirmation will help you feel more empowered and confident. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Choose a powerful affirmation from the list below and repeat it to yourself every day:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>I am confident<\/li><li>Today I am courageous&nbsp;<\/li><li>I am significant<\/li><li>I am capable of dealing with anything<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Saying these affirmations out loud may seem bizarre. Some of Marisa&#8217;s clients were skeptical too, and today they swear by it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Try to incorporate this as a daily routine for as little as five minutes for at least 21 days or more. You will see your self-doubt gradually subside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Practicing affirmations by yourself may sound hard in the beginning. You can try to incorporate audio that can guide you.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/shop.marisapeer.com\/products\/confidence-self-esteem\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Marisa\u2019s guided hypnosis audio course<\/a> can be a great way for you to start your practice. It can help you rewire and reprogram your mind and uncover your inner confidence and self-esteem.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-principle-2-tell-your-mind-what-you-want-it-to-do-for-you\">Principle #2: Tell your mind what you want it to do for you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_282891332-1-1024x512-1.png\" alt=\"what you want it to do for you\" class=\"wp-image-44746\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_282891332-1-1024x512-1.png 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_282891332-1-1024x512-1-300x150.png 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/shutterstock_282891332-1-1024x512-1-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Your mind does what it truly thinks you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you do not communicate clearly what you want, your mind will get confused and work against you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the case of self-doubt, your mind is trying to protect you from potentially dangerous situations. In reality, this could end up hurting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of letting your insecurities get the best of you, be mindful of how you communicate with your mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here is how to do it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Words you tell your mind are like blueprints. Give it direct, crystal clear commands about how you want to feel about yourself in any situation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, as you are working on a tough project and you feel your doubts creeping in, tell your mind:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m choosing to do this,\u201d \u201cI love this,\u201d \u201cI am thrilled to be working on this project.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By doing this over time, your mind will have no choice but to start agreeing with the new attitude you are trying to adapt to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-principle-3-be-proactive-not-reactive\">Principle #3: Be proactive not reactive<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The way you feel about yourself and your situation is the result of two things: The pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are like many of us, as a child you may have often heard phrases such as:.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat\u2019s wrong with you?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cYou\u2019ll never be any different.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI\u2019m disappointed in you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parents use those words with good intentions. However, they are usually not aware of how those words could have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.redbookmag.com\/life\/mom-kids\/advice\/g3649\/things-you-should-never-say-to-children\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">negative effect on their child&#8217;s mental dialogue.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With enough repetition, those messages embed themselves into a person\u2019s self-dialogue. With time, they become a part of how they talk to themselves.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The good news is that it is completely up to you to change it whenever you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here is how to do it:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Whatever situation you find yourself in, you always have the freedom to choose your response.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>There will still be times when you feel like self-doubt is creeping in<\/strong>.<strong> Now you know you can cheat your brain into feeling good by choosing words and pictures in your head deliberately.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, imagine you are driving on a busy highway, and a driver cuts you off. You may feel tempted to lash out and think of all sorts of negative thoughts. On the other hand, you could proactively choose to remain calm. You can do that by taking a deep breath and calming your preconditioned inner dialogue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Start by telling yourself, \u201cI am calm,\u201d \u201cI am peaceful.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This will help you realize that maybe the driver had a good reason to cut you off. So there is no point in losing your cool.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The premise is to keep the words you say and pictures you make in your head in check and in a positive frame.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-let-go-of-self-doubt-a-word-from-marisa-peer\">Let Go of Self-Doubt\u2014A Word From Marisa Peer<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Quote-1024x512-1.jpg\" alt=\"Marisa Peer quotes self doubt\" class=\"wp-image-44589\" srcset=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Quote-1024x512-1.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Quote-1024x512-1-300x150.jpg 300w, https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/Quote-1024x512-1-768x384.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-doubt and feeling insecure is not something you have to live with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you understand how to work with your mind, you will gain the ability to reclaim the inner confidence you were born with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here is your next step:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You may think to yourself,&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cThis is really useful information. But what is the easiest way to put this information to good use and remove self-doubt right when it pops up?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, we have something special for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Marisa noticed that the <\/strong><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/four-traits-of-successful-people\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong><em>successful <\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/marisapeer.com\/four-traits-of-successful-people\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">people<\/a> she worked with all had a common mindset: Their mind was their friend.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their inner dialogue always cheered them on, gave them constructive criticism to do things better, and was always proactively positive. Which is the reason behind Marisa\u2019s extraordinary <a href=\"https:\/\/rtt.com\/self-hypnosis\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">self-hypnosis<\/a> RTT audio course named<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/shop.marisapeer.com\/products\/installing-the-cheerleader\" target=\"_blank\"> \u201cInstalling The Cheerleader.\u201d<\/a>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By listening to this hypnotic audio course, you too can begin the process of reactivating your inner cheerleader today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Remember, it is entirely possible to rid yourself of self-doubt and step into the life and type of person you want. <a href=\"https:\/\/rtt.com\/find-a-special-therapist\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Book a session with a certified RTT therapist<\/strong><\/a><strong> and uncover your hidden full potential.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can also consider participating in <a href=\"https:\/\/challengesbymarisa.com\/confidence\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Marisa&#8217;s 21-Day Challenge<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-21-day-unstoppable-confidence-challenge\">The 21-Day unstoppable Confidence Challenge<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-doubt can be rooted in a lack of confidence, in either yourself in general or your ability to get through day-to-day tasks. 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