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The Lovette Jallow Perspective

The Lovette Jallow Perspective

Essays on race, autism, ADHD, neurodivergence, matriarchy & intersectional justice; by Lovette Jallow, award-winning author & strategist.

Top posts

Neurodivergence in Ancient Africa: What History Forgot but Our Ancestors Knew

Apr 25, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women

Feb 14, 2025

Why We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships Anymore

Jun 27, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

How Black Matriarchies defined Polyamory as Structure, Not Sexuality

Aug 1, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why Men Don’t Marry the Women They Desire

Jul 28, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Recent posts

Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy

What Western Feminism Got Wrong About Matriarchy. Ancestral matriarchies are not reversed patriarchy. Lovette Jallow explains what the West…

Apr 16, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Community Is Not Transactional for Black Queer Disabled Women

Community doesn’t mean access. People don’t just extract labor, they extract presence. Especially from those who’ve never been taught to say no.This…

Jan 23, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why Do People Make Promises They Don't Keep?

On broken promises, false generosity, extraction & why continued interaction without repair damages trust. Why ADHD doesn't excuse silence. By Lovette…

Dec 21, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why Late-Diagnosed Women Copy Those They Admire

Why do late-diagnosed autistic women mirror those they admire? Explore how masking creates identity loss, therapeutic reproduction, and the path to…

Nov 18, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

The Freelancer Who Weaponized Neurodivergence to Justify Taking Payment Without Delivering

How Davina Campbell of Digital Davina Designs disclosed mental health struggles to gain trust, then stigmatized mental health to silence accountability.

Nov 9, 2025

Why Autistic People Over-Explain: Trauma, Safety, and Breaking the Harm Loop

Autistic over-explaining isn't clarity, it's survival. Learn the neuroscience of trauma loops, workplace strategies, and how to speak less without…

Oct 28, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Patriarchy

Why Men Don’t Marry the Women They Desire

This essay unpacks how white supremacy and patriarchy condition male desire, using the Sydney Sweeney x American Eagle campaign as a case study in how…

Jul 28, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

What You Call Matriarchy Is Gynarchy - And It’s Still Patriarchy

“Matriarchy isn’t patriarchy in pink. It doesn’t invert power—it refuses it.” In this essay, Lovette Jallow redefines true matriarchal leadership.

Apr 30, 2025

Are You Practicing Feminism or Just Gynarchy? | Matriarchy vs Patriarchy Explained

Listen now | Are you practicing feminism—or just patriarchy in reverse?Lovette Jallow breaks down why gynarchy mimics domination, while matriarchy…

Apr 22, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

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Matriarchy Is Not a Mirror of Patriarchy

What Western Feminism Got Wrong About Matriarchy. Ancestral matriarchies are not reversed patriarchy. Lovette Jallow explains what the West…

Apr 16, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

When Men Protect Boys Instead of Naming Harm, They Don’t Disrupt Violence—They Preserve It

How Netflix’s Adolescence Exposes the Incel Pipeline, and Why Fragile Men Can’t Lead Anyone Out of It.Adolescence shows us how male entitlement begins…

Mar 31, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Sweden

Stockholm Syndrome: How Systems Blamed Survivors to Protect Power

The Stockholm Syndrome story isn’t about loving your captor. It’s about how systems betrayed survivors and then blamed them to protect power.

Apr 26, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Teaching the Children We Were

Anti-Racism in Swedish Schools Through the Eyes of a Former Student, Educator, and Advocate. Anti-racism in Sweden can’t begin until we stop masking…

Mar 21, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why Sweden’s Reputation as an Inclusive Country is Misleading

Sweden promotes itself as progressive and inclusive, but why do so many foreigners struggle to belong? The reality of workplace bias, social exclusion…

Feb 24, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Black Women in Sweden: Erasure, Media Bias & the Fight for Representation

Who gets to represent Blackness in Sweden? With 600,000 Black Swedes, why are dark-skinned Black women erased from narratives? This post explores…

Feb 24, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women

The Incel Mindset, Male Entitlement, and the Weaponization of Resentment. Men aren’t failing because of women—they’re failing because of patriarchy. But…

Feb 14, 2025

ADHD

Why Do People Make Promises They Don't Keep?

On broken promises, false generosity, extraction & why continued interaction without repair damages trust. Why ADHD doesn't excuse silence. By Lovette…

Dec 21, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

The Freelancer Who Weaponized Neurodivergence to Justify Taking Payment Without Delivering

How Davina Campbell of Digital Davina Designs disclosed mental health struggles to gain trust, then stigmatized mental health to silence accountability.

Nov 9, 2025

When Childhood Wounds Drive Adult Relationships

How unhealed trauma, whiteness, and emotional displacement keep people recreating the same unsafe spaces they claim to escape.

Oct 6, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why CBT Fails So Many Autistic People

CBT often fails autistic people by ignoring trauma, brain rigidity, and lived experience. Here’s what worked instead and what I wish someone told me…

Aug 19, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

Why Small Talk Exhausts Autistic and ADHD People

Vagueness isn’t harmless it’s often a tool for control, extraction, and gaslighting towards neurodivergent persons.

Aug 17, 2025 • Lovette Jallow

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