Before You Burn the House Down

Before You Burn the House Down

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The word that found me this year
About five years ago, I was scrolling IG when I saw a post by a friend who talked about choosing a word to solidify the intention of her year.
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
What regret can mean and how to deal with it
What makes regret so complex and what we need to be looking at in order to move through it
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
The most crucial component to relationship work is self work
Critical components of change in a partnership lay in our ability to face our own defenses and stand in our vulnerability over and over again.
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
Saying the word "vulnerable" doesn't make you vulnerable
“Can I be vulnerable for a second here?”
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
"I think I married the wrong person."
What happens when we find ourselves reckoning with regret over our partner choice and what to do about it first.
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
hold unfolding just unfolded itself into a new name
If things look a little different around here, they should. hold unfolding is now before you burn the house down
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
Matters of the heart are the most tender matters that exist in our human being
They require the most love
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
I know these feet. I know this ground.
The wave that had come was no longer my concern, the only concern I had was where my feet were. In a micro-moment of holding, I’d undone.
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
Holding the unfolding in a crisis of identity. Daily.
The work never ends and sometimes, somedays, that's brutal. But then there's a shift, ever so slightly, and you begin to realize, it's actually…
 • Lisa Bzdon, MS, LMFT
Before You Burn the House Down
Before You Burn the House Down
Clarity around the complexities of love from a couples therapist.
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