A fantabulous night to make romance, 'neath the cover of October skies
Holy gods, I'm updating!
Things have been sooooo crazy-busy that I've not had a lot of inclination to post, but I have not yet abandoned Ye Olde Livejournal. Most of you are on my Facebook, so y'all have a pretty good idea of what's going on in my life. Things like my house is coming along (slowly, but surely!), my ankle is healing fantastically (physical therapist is delighted with my rate of recovery) and the Halloween show is coming up (I'm going as Hans Christian Anderson's "Snow Queen").
What I've not posted about (yet) is the new man in my life. SQUEE!!! Although he is a new FB Friend, it's not "Facebook Official" yet that we are dating. But I'd say 7 dates in 2 weeks qualifies, don't you?
His name is Joseph, and he's been in Seattle about 9 months, a recent transplant from Richmond, Virginia. He's a PhD, and is incredibly smart, with an engineer's brain that my dad is going to love. He works in foot'n'ankle research, so he's totally into what I did to my foot, haha. He fences (German longsword), loves movies, books, snuggling, and makes pizza from scratch. He texts me every day, and we usually talk, too. For hooooours. It's kind of amazing!
How did we meet? He'd posted an ad on Craigslist, copying text from his plentyoffish profile. I was originally just kind of bored and flipped through the personals to see just crazy schite people were posting about themselves. I found myself really intrigued by his profile for real, though, and emailed him. We did that for a couple of days, then met up, and haven't stopped since. I'd never thought I'd actually find a truly amazing guy on Craigslist! Jobs, apartments, furniture... a man???
We seem to be very much on the same wavelength. His post specified that he was looking for somebody to get into swing dancing with (HELLO!) and a possible LTR. Okay, so that starts off well, right? Then, on our first date, I broached the C-word - children. I've come to the conclusion (after a lot of mistakes and a year of therapy) that I need to not be so shy about what I want in my life, and the white-picket-fence thing is a big deal for me. I want to create a family, that's no secret, but I struggled a lot with how and when to approach that with a potential relationship. What I've decided works best for me is to be upfront about it, but try to do it in a non-scary way. With Joseph, I prefaced the question by saying that this is something that's important to me, but I'm not so baby-crazy that I've gone out and gotten myself knocked up for it; I'm looking for the right man. When I asked how he felt about kids, he didn't pause for a second, just immediately said, "Absolutely, definitely want them." It was actually a weight off my shoulders, because I didn't have to worry/wonder about it. Surprisingly, knowing that makes me much less anxious about the relationship in general, and I feel like I can focus on just the two of us, here and now, instead of freaking about the future. It's not set by any means - I'm not so dumb as to jump to the Island of Conclusions and assume that WE ARE HAVING TEH BABBIES TOGETHER NAO! - but now that the conversation about whether or not we individually want them is done, we will need to find out if we want them together.
Particularly interesting, especially for those who know me so well, is that we haven't had sex yet - which surprisingly hasn't driven me crazy! But there's so much cuddling and high-school-ish making-out, and we are both really enjoying taking it slow - although I also enjoy pushing his buttons to be really tempting. And he knows it, too. :) There's some very good, slow-burning sexual chemistry there.
Joseph and I have a lot of the same values, upbringing, tastes, with enough differences to keep things interesting. I am so very hopeful and optimistic and happy, and I don't think I've put him on a pedestal (I do that sometimes, you know). We're going to fight and there's going to be things I don't like about him, and I'm going to drive him crazy eventually. But the foundation, thus far, seems to be slowly and solidly built.
So, that's me today. I'm about to get off work, run home and feed Teddy Bear, then back out to the door to tour the Coca-Cola factory in Bellevue with Joseph!
Things have been sooooo crazy-busy that I've not had a lot of inclination to post, but I have not yet abandoned Ye Olde Livejournal. Most of you are on my Facebook, so y'all have a pretty good idea of what's going on in my life. Things like my house is coming along (slowly, but surely!), my ankle is healing fantastically (physical therapist is delighted with my rate of recovery) and the Halloween show is coming up (I'm going as Hans Christian Anderson's "Snow Queen").
What I've not posted about (yet) is the new man in my life. SQUEE!!! Although he is a new FB Friend, it's not "Facebook Official" yet that we are dating. But I'd say 7 dates in 2 weeks qualifies, don't you?
His name is Joseph, and he's been in Seattle about 9 months, a recent transplant from Richmond, Virginia. He's a PhD, and is incredibly smart, with an engineer's brain that my dad is going to love. He works in foot'n'ankle research, so he's totally into what I did to my foot, haha. He fences (German longsword), loves movies, books, snuggling, and makes pizza from scratch. He texts me every day, and we usually talk, too. For hooooours. It's kind of amazing!
How did we meet? He'd posted an ad on Craigslist, copying text from his plentyoffish profile. I was originally just kind of bored and flipped through the personals to see just crazy schite people were posting about themselves. I found myself really intrigued by his profile for real, though, and emailed him. We did that for a couple of days, then met up, and haven't stopped since. I'd never thought I'd actually find a truly amazing guy on Craigslist! Jobs, apartments, furniture... a man???
We seem to be very much on the same wavelength. His post specified that he was looking for somebody to get into swing dancing with (HELLO!) and a possible LTR. Okay, so that starts off well, right? Then, on our first date, I broached the C-word - children. I've come to the conclusion (after a lot of mistakes and a year of therapy) that I need to not be so shy about what I want in my life, and the white-picket-fence thing is a big deal for me. I want to create a family, that's no secret, but I struggled a lot with how and when to approach that with a potential relationship. What I've decided works best for me is to be upfront about it, but try to do it in a non-scary way. With Joseph, I prefaced the question by saying that this is something that's important to me, but I'm not so baby-crazy that I've gone out and gotten myself knocked up for it; I'm looking for the right man. When I asked how he felt about kids, he didn't pause for a second, just immediately said, "Absolutely, definitely want them." It was actually a weight off my shoulders, because I didn't have to worry/wonder about it. Surprisingly, knowing that makes me much less anxious about the relationship in general, and I feel like I can focus on just the two of us, here and now, instead of freaking about the future. It's not set by any means - I'm not so dumb as to jump to the Island of Conclusions and assume that WE ARE HAVING TEH BABBIES TOGETHER NAO! - but now that the conversation about whether or not we individually want them is done, we will need to find out if we want them together.
Particularly interesting, especially for those who know me so well, is that we haven't had sex yet - which surprisingly hasn't driven me crazy! But there's so much cuddling and high-school-ish making-out, and we are both really enjoying taking it slow - although I also enjoy pushing his buttons to be really tempting. And he knows it, too. :) There's some very good, slow-burning sexual chemistry there.
Joseph and I have a lot of the same values, upbringing, tastes, with enough differences to keep things interesting. I am so very hopeful and optimistic and happy, and I don't think I've put him on a pedestal (I do that sometimes, you know). We're going to fight and there's going to be things I don't like about him, and I'm going to drive him crazy eventually. But the foundation, thus far, seems to be slowly and solidly built.
So, that's me today. I'm about to get off work, run home and feed Teddy Bear, then back out to the door to tour the Coca-Cola factory in Bellevue with Joseph!