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Healing in My 20s
Raw notes from a woman learning that emotional wellness isn't a destination, it's a daily relationship with herself.
May 30, 2025
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Kathy ♥︎
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When You Miss the Person Who Hurt You
“I hate what they did to me. And still, some nights… I miss them. I miss us. And I hate myself for it.”
Aug 30, 2025
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Kathy ♥︎
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The Panic Between Texts
They read it. You wait. Minutes pass. Then hours. Then a spiral. You’re not crazy. That’s your abandonment wound talking.
Jul 29, 2025
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Kathy ♥︎
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When You Miss the Person Who Hurt You
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The Love You Didn’t Get
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Why You Keep Going Back
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When You Blame Yourself for the Break
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The Loneliness After the Break
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When Peace Feels Boring
You say you want peace. But when someone gives it to you… you flinch. You sabotage. You run.
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The Love You Didn’t Get
The pain you feel in relationships isn’t always about them. It’s about what you never got before they even showed up.
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When You Blame Yourself for the Break
“They hurt me. I left. So why do I feel like the villain?”
Jun 23, 2025
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Why You Keep Going Back
“You know it’s not good for you. But something pulls you back. Again. And again. And again.”
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Trauma Bonds Aren’t Love
“You keep going back because your nervous system thinks survival lives there. Not because it’s love.”
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The Loneliness After the Break
“People talk about the heartbreak. They rarely talk about what comes after. The stillness. The silence. The suffocating quiet.”
Jun 10, 2025
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Healing From Traumatic Love
“I don’t know how to let someone love me without panicking. I don’t know how to be touched without scanning for danger.” — Someone who survived
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Healing Trauma Within Love
"You don't just love someone with your heart; you love them with your history." — Kathy's Inner Voice
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