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| Sunday, December 10th, 2006
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Strange thing to put as an update, but I figured it might as well not go to waste. (I chose "egg yolk," btw, Paul. I see that made all the difference. :P I don't think it is any more accurate than the first reading, heh. Maybe third time is a charm!).
Freak- INFJ
33% Extraversion, 60% Intuition, 33% Thinking, 60% Judging
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Well, well, well. How did someone like you end up with the least common personality type of them all? In a group of 100 Americans, only 0.5 others would be just like you. You really are one of a kind... In fact, I do believe that that's one of the definitions for the word "FREAK."
Freak's not such a bad word to describe you actually.
You are deep, complex, secretive and extremely difficult to understand. If that doesn't scream "Freak!" I don't know what does. No-one actually knows the REAL you, do they?
You probably have deep interests in creative expression as well as issues of spirituality and human development.
You've probably even been called a "psychic" before, because of your uncanny knack to understand and "read" people without quite knowing how you do it. Don't fret. You're not actually psychic. That would make you special and you'll never accomplish that.
You're also quite possible the most emotional of them all, so don't take this all too hard. Nevertheless you most definitely have the strangest personality type and that's not necessarily a good thing.
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If you want to learn more about your personality type in a slightly less negative way, check out this.
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The other personality types are as follows...
Loner - Introverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving
Pushover - Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging
Criminal - Introverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving
Borefest - Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging
Almost Perfect - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
Loser - Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving
Crackpot - Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging
Clown - Extraverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving
Sap - Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging
Commander - Extraverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving
Do Gooder - Extraverted Sensing Thinking Judging
Scumbag - Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
Busybody - Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
Prick - Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving
Dictator - Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging
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My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: | You scored higher than 99% on Extraversion | | You scored higher than 99% on Intuition | | You scored higher than 99% on Thinking | | You scored higher than 99% on Judging |
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| Sunday, December 11th, 2005
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12:11 pm - Update on Evangeline
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Just a brief update to let you know that Evangeline is doing well and is still in the same place that she has been for some time now. She and her family have decided to stay there through June to keep from putting their son through more upheaval in terms of changing schools again. They aren't sure yet where they will relocate to permanently, but will be looking during the next couple of months. They aren't sure what more can be salvaged from their house in the New Orleans area, but may still return to look for a few more things. Evangeline really appreciates all the supportive, caring wishes she's received from people and hopes to return to the lj community next month. She just hasn't had the heart to write much about her experiences yet.
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| Tuesday, November 1st, 2005
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10:58 pm - Update on Evangeline and comments on Katrina
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I am so behind! Eva has been in contact with me quite a few times since I last posted, but I've been so swamped with school work that I just couldn't get to it.
In any case, many things have happened since I last posted. First, Eva has returned to her house to see what could be salvaged. Here are some excerpts from her email and our phone call about it: “My husband, my dad, and I went back home Sunday to see if anything could be salvaged. There are no words for the devastation we saw. And the smell!" She said that she didn’t know where to begin when she walked into the house – everything is strewn all over the place – their appliances and furniture are turned over and moved from their normal positions. She said it was dangerous to be in there, really, “nails were sticking up and the danger of snakes is really high.” She said that she had to climb over things (like her refrigerator) to get to other things (like her china cabinet where she hoped to salvage a few dishes. No luck, she couldn’t even pry it open. It was an antique that her mother had given her, now it’s thrashed). So as she was sliding down her refrigerator, she was thinking “this is really stupid…my son would rather have his mommy alive than some silly little animals” And she was worried about the mold spores being spread all over the place when they moved anything. There is that ceiling insulation all over the place – this awful pink mushy stuff now.
She went into her son’s room, hoping to find a box of plastic animals that could have survived, but it was nowhere to be found. She says that something caught her attention stuck up in the curtain rod and she identified it as a bag of play-doh that she’d put away in the room somewhere. It just looked so ridiculous that she started to laugh hysterically. She just couldn’t stop. When her husband came in and asked if she was all right, she realized that she had been crying. She doesn’t know how long she was standing there when her husband came back in asking if she was all right. :( She's been back again, but there is very little that is salvageable. Her parents' house was under a little less water than hers was, so they could salvage a little more, but it's still a terrible mess.
Meanwhile, her family continues living at their relatives' house and she continues at her library job. She is doing Red Cross Application Intake -- meaning she's helping register people for Red Cross relief there. She noted that the FEMA people had still not set up tables to register everyone in her area -- there are so many evacuees staying around there that still haven't gotten aid. Eva and her family have received their insurance money, so they were able to replace their lost truck so her husband and dad can each get to work more easily. Eva's husband's work is right in the New Orleans area, so he has a difficult commute. The first days that they were going in on a weekday, it was taking anywhere from 3-5 hours to get into the city from the outlying area where they are staying.
They also got their insurance check covering their home -- it will pay off their mortgage and leave them some left over to put a down on a new house when they are ready. It's "just like when we were starting out when we just got married," she said. They are still considering where they want to move -- her husband wants to be closer to his work, but Eva is worried about moving somewhere like where they were, since so much of the New Orleans area is at or just a little above sea level.
There was an interesting bit of news on PBS tonight: New Orleans is childless at the moment. The public schools are empty -- schools which would house 7000 students are working on reopening, but only expect 3000 of them to return. People have moved out of the area and many have no intention of returning.
I also saw a little piece about a business which makes floats for Mardi Gras parades. The floats that were under construction were all destroyed by the flooding, but the owner is determined to rebuild and apparently people like him are all talking about getting things organized to hold Mardi Gras next year.
National Geographic had a special called "Inside Hurricane Katrina" which examined the preparation for and follow-up to the Katrina crisis. I felt it was done in a fairly balanced way. I'm still left wondering just what kept the right agencies from getting in there and doing what was needed faster (or before the storm even struck!). It leaves me thinking that I will expect no help from anyone for ages if there should be a bad earthquake here. I know people will get on it, but we will all have to really look out for ourselves. :/ And don't expect anyone to listen to authorities out here either -- our recent earthquake drill at school indicated that in the event of a real emergency, it will be pretty chaotic. The kids don't listen when you ask them to stay with their assigned classes during the drill, so I don't expect that they will listen in the real thing.
On a brighter note, little kids do listen. My son knows all about what he should do and assures me that he will do whatever the teacher says during an emergency. So at least I can relax about him...for now.
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| Sunday, October 2nd, 2005
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5:59 pm - Update on Evangeline
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I've spoken to Eva twice since the last post. She continues to be doing fine at work and her son is happy in his pre-school. Eva is able to take her lunch right when he gets out of school and spend that hour with him. Then he goes home with Eva's mom. Eva's dad is back working at the Winn-Dixie and her husband is working out of the Baton Rouge office of his work. He will have to go back to the New Orleans area branch soon, so they will probably be looking for somewhere to stay closer to there. Eva loves her job, so is very torn about that. She's not sure what they are going to do yet exactly.
Her husband was able to go see the house (and those of their families who lived in the area too) and take some film of them. He went from room to room and the place was just a mess. Eva could scarcely recognize which room was which. Furniture is all over the place, upturned or fallen down; the walls are covered with mold and mildew, and that pink insulation stuff from the ceiling is all over everything. She was hoping that they'd be able to retrieve a few things that she had in plastic containers, but found that she lost hope when her husband returned with a small plastic alligator of her son's that had been in one of those boxes. Clearly that sort of box isn't entirely secure either. :(
They are still waiting on word from their homeowners insurance on whether the house will be covered under that or flood insurance. If it's under flood, they will only get enough to cover the structure. If it's homeowners, it will cover the contents as well. Either way it could take months as it all gets decided. And that is the story for so many families. They did get an advance on the settlement, so at least they have that to put into whatever they move to, but it's still going to be difficult. I presume that they still have to pay off the note no matter what happens.
Working at the library, she spends her days helping people just like her who need to find information or register with FEMA or the Red Cross. She says that it can take as long as 7 hours on the phone waiting and talking to Red Cross workers. People get on and take turns waiting on hold and then it takes about an hour for each family to register. She told me about a woman she met there who also lost her house but didn't have flood insurance (it wasn't required where she was...it wasn't supposed to be a risky area!). So unless her homeowners kicks in, she will have lost even the insurance. A man she talked to is living from hand to mouth as he has to be in a more expensive place where he is now, but is on the same fixed income. Still another can't get his checks (Social Security, I believe) because his home was destroyed along with all of the papers that would prove who he is and that he lived there. Presumably there will be ways to sort this out, but the government is so slow about it that it isn't happening fast enough to help people with their immediate rent and food needs. FEMA keeps telling them at the library that they will be there soon to set up tables and register people by hand, but they haven't come yet (it's been an entire month since Katrina!). Two FEMA guys came in the other day and were surrounded by the library staff trying to get information. They assured the staff that they were coming soon, but Eva says her colleagues and she just stood there looking at them thinking, "right, we've heard this before." Very frustrating.
I asked her if she was finding this discouraging or depressing and she said that at least she feels like she is doing good...the people really need her help -- some have never used a computer before. She is busy from morning until evening and knows her skills are being put to good use. She is so tired in the evenings that she hasn't got the energy to reflect a lot on it as she might do otherwise. She spends her time with her family and feels grateful that she's got them and a nice place to stay. So many people that she sees don't.
I am still plotting something big to help her out -- she may protest, but I think it would be really helpful and something she wouldn't do for herself for a long time. If you are interested in being involved, just email me and I'll let you in on it. :) She's been so overwhelmed by people's generosity and good wishes. I'm sure she thanked you individually now that she's gotten to check her email (she's not able to be online much since there is only a little time right after she gets off work to use the computers in the library and there are so many patrons needing them that she feels uncomfortable taking very much time for herself). But she mentions it and sends her biggest hugs to you all for keeping her in your thoughts.
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| Wednesday, September 21st, 2005
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5:31 pm
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I spoke to Eva again this weekend…she’s still doing okay, but has learned a bit about her house. Her cousin is in the National Guard and was able to go to her house and see what condition it is in. The water in that area has actually been drained off now (I’m not sure if it’s completely dry or just down low enough that guardsmen can wade in there). He reported that the front door was impassable because of furniture blocking it, having gotten shifted around in the flood. He tried to get in through the front windows which had gotten all broken out from the storm, but the ceiling had fallen in and he couldn’t even get in and look for any valuables that might have survived. Eva holds out some hope that as they dig out, they will be able to find some things she’d stored in plastic containers. They are scheduled to go look at the house next Sunday, Sept. 25 (the authorities are doing this in waves and under escort, I believe. Eva’s parents are scheduled to see their home, just a few minutes away from Eva’s house, on Wednesday).
On a happier note, Eva’s little boy started preschool again and the school is right by Eva’s work. So that makes things easier for her. Some people donated uniforms, so she didn’t even have to worry about that, thankfully. Apparently things are still hectic at the library, so although she did get online very briefly one day last week, she wasn’t able to stay on very long. She was able to check her email briefly and answer just a few of them before she was had to get off to make way for another patron. So she wanted me to tell you that she appreciates all your support and warm thoughts and that she looks forward to being able to at least participate in the lj community again soon.
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| Tuesday, September 13th, 2005
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6:20 pm - Evangeline Update
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I am so behind! I called Eva last Friday night and talked with her for some time. She is doing okay, although perhaps the shock is wearing off a bit and she is facing reality a little more. She continues to be quite happy at her work and I can tell she is a great resource to the other evacuees coming to the library to register with FEMA and the Red Cross. She is very busy there and comes home quite tired -- on her feet all day running around helping so many people. They've also helped by having the unemployment office come set up on a day so evacuees can register with them and get checks. So she's certainly feeling immensely needed in all this.
She continues to live at her cousin's camp home and her spirits are lifted by the beauty of that region. Her little boy has settled in nicely there and really likes it, so he is comfortable. He has his grandparents with him during the day and Eva can't wait to come home to him each night. They are still up in the air about what they will do long term and are just taking things one step at a time for now. Eva is not optimistic about moving back when the flood waters recede -- there is so much talk about the toxins that will be left behind in the area. So they will have to see how that develops.
She talked again about missing her fic and said she hopes to get online and read some LJs soon, but the library is so busy with evacuees right now that that will still probably be difficult for a while. She hopes to get back to writing her fic, so I hope that can be possible too for her. Meanwhile, I hope you will all keep writing away and posting things that you know she will like -- let me know if you've put up new things that she might like and I'll print them out and send them to her. Or, if you would like to do it yourself, just email me and I'll send you her address. Remember I'm at heidiweidel at comcast dot net.
If any of you still want to do something very direct for her, please contact me...I am plotting something that I think will be very welcome. :D
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| Monday, September 5th, 2005
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2:04 pm - Evangeline Update
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I called Eva yesterday and learned that she’s already started her job at the library and is loving it! “It’s the BEST job…I love the people, love the area…wish I could relocate here!” She sounds very happy with it and I get the feeling from both her and her mom that they are very reluctant to rebuild back in St. Bernard Parish again. They both feel that the chances of this happening again are too great. She’s actually serving the hurricane refugee population there in her work – so many of the library patrons are there to use the computers and fill out the FEMA forms and since she’s already done that for her own family, she is able to help them. The other librarians have introduced her to some patrons as “our ambassador – she’s a ‘floodee,’ too!” (some people are protesting the word “refugee” and have coined “floodee” instead). So she not only has a job in her field, but she feels she is really helping people in the job.
Her son is doing fine at this new place and Eva is thinking of putting him in school. Meantime, he can stay with her mom, who is retired, while Eva is working. Her husband will be able to work out of Baton Rouge at least temporarily, although I don’t know when he starts – I think he has to wait until people are allowed to go back into the New Orleans area so he can get the computer equipment he needs to work out of the other office. Eva’s dad works for the grocery chain “Winn-Dixie” and has been told that he will continue to be paid and his benefits are in effect despite the fact that his store location is currently closed because of flooding. So that is a comfort to all of them.
After talking to Julie about it, we decided that it didn’t need to be a secret that we wanted to do something to help. So I told Eva about that and she was very “squeed” by everyone’s warmth and generosity, but says she’d feel bad if people spent money on her especially since she now has a job and they are staying with relatives so don’t have rent to pay. She was okay about receiving any hand-me-downs that people won’t be needing, especially since she can pass any extras on to others in the community where she is staying. She did say that she’s missing reading fanfic and that she’d love it if you’d write her some nice dark apocafic or OT3 fic. If you do, I can print it and mail it to her. For the time being, she can’t really go online for her own purposes since the library is crowded (she doesn’t have internet at the house she’s staying at since it’s her cousin’s place and wouldn’t want to impose to do that and she only has her CPU anyway). But maybe in a week or so she’ll be able to be online during her lunch hour or before/after work. She’s not even been able to check her email yet. So any messages you have for her, feel free to either post here or email to me and I’ll pass them or send them on. I do have another idea of what we could do to help, so email me if you want to talk about it. Of course you can still do whatever you like…she can’t stop you! If you have something to send, just let me know and I’ll get you the address. :)
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| Saturday, September 3rd, 2005
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2:18 am - Evangeline Update
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I got in touch with Evangeline today at last, and found that she has relocated to her cousin's house in a little town north of Baton Rouge, Louisiana. She and her husband, son, and parents are all very comfortable in a lovely house. And get this...ready? She found a job!!!!! She walked into the library there, which is new lovely, and asked if they might have any work, told them she had a masters in library science and they hired on the spot! They'd had a position flown for some time but no one wanted to come down there! So she's got a full-time reference librarian position! Is that serendipity or what? Talk about silver linings.
Her husband found out that his branch of the company he works for was not inundated (or at least not beyond functional operations) and they company is letting him go there to get the computer equipment he will need to operate out of their Baton Rouge office, at least temporarily so they can live up there (he worked in a suburb of New Orleans…apparently on a bit higher ground than some places). So their job situation and housing is in good shape for the time being.
Also, she said that they may be able to start their son in school as planned since he was going to a Catholic school and the ArchDiocese has said that the money they paid to the school near New Orleans could be
refunded and they could pay monthly to the school in the new area. So that’s good news too.
She was told that her insurance company will give an advance on their claim, so they will have some funds from that – not sure how soon. She won’t get paid until the end of the month…I don’t know about him. I guess they were able to get some cash from the bank, but it seems to be messed up because of the hurricane, too, so they have to be careful right now. So I think the gift card idea will be a great idea – I didn’t mention it to her yet, but Julie and I don’t think it needs to be a surprise. She confirmed that there is a Wal-Mart right in town, so we can do that or the other idea.
She told me that all around the area where she is staying there are families coming in who evacuated. I told her that we wanted to send her some things and that if we send too much she could distribute what she doesn’t need to the other families, some of whom have several children. She will be happy to do that.
Eva asked me to thank you so much for all your warm wishes. I’m sure she will do so herself as soon as she can get online again. The internet was down at the library today, wouldn’t you know.
She was in very good spirits today with such good news and I got off the phone feeling elated for her, despite the grim reality of the loss of her home. She loves the rural area where they are staying – the house overlooks a lake and she said she was telling herself “Embrace what you have” right now. Is this the girl who writes darkfic??
Anyway, I’ll be calling her again later this weekend and I’ll update you again then. If you want to contact me, just add “comcast.net” to my nick (think that will stop the bots?).
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| Wednesday, August 31st, 2005
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4:52 pm - Evangeline Update
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I spoke to Eva yesterday (Tuesday, 8-30) and she is doing okay, although now facing the reality that she has lost her house. It is completely submerged and won’t be even accessible for weeks or perhaps months. She was able to tell this from film footage and from this photo of the area (she told me that her house is in the upper left corner, in that sort of L-shaped patch of water before a thick stand of trees -- her roof is not even visible above the surface):
http://www.st-bernard.la.us/emprep/katrina/chalmettephoto-med.bmp
(there’s more about her area at http://www.st-bernard.la.us/ )
She and her family are leaving the hotel they were in and going to the Alexandria, Louisiana, area where they have relatives. She says that from there they will be going to her uncle’s camp near Baton Rouge. It is a house, so it will be nice and comfortable and her uncle has said they can stay indefinitely. They will be meeting her parents there, so that will be good for her and her son. She doesn’t know how things will be…her husband may not even have a job since the company he works for has also been hit by the hurricane.
She wants to be close to the New Orleans area so when the time comes she can see what, if anything, is salvageable from her house.
She did say that when they were packing to evacuate she didn’t have a lot of time so she was sort of just stuffing things in suitcases. She did get most of their photos, since they’d recently packed them all in a big box, and they did take the CPU to their computer, so she’ll have her records (and fic!) there. She was cheery enough to make rueful jokes about not needing to straighten up her clutter anymore or worry about getting all her shows off their PVR (they left it behind). She was able to enjoy seeing a movie on the VCR in the hotel that she’d wanted to see (“Because of Winn-Dixie”); it afforded them all some escape from thinking about things. And just to show that her spirits are not crushed, I have to report that our irrepressible Evangeline perked right up at the suggestion that as it is likely that her uncle’s place will have a VCR, she’d be able to see the upcoming episodes of Stargate when I send her my tapes of them…SG-1 to the rescue!
She was able to go to the public library in Memphis and get online, so we chatted there briefly, (she finally got through on the phone a bit later). She will be trying to find computer access again when she gets back to Louisiana, but I she doesn’t seem to be able to remotely access her email, so I will continue to let her know that all of you have been sending your kind wishes for her. She said she didn’t think she could write in her lj just now; it’s hard for her to think of writing her feelings about all this “anywhere so permanent” yet.
However, I did remind her that she can use the PM system on the Pegasus Galaxy forums (where she was able to get into chat with me today), so if you want to try to send her direct messages, you can pm her there (I think you have to register, but it’s no big deal). I don’t know how soon she’ll be able to get online again, so please don’t worry if she doesn’t get back to you right away. http://www.pegasusgalaxy.com/forums/ As everywhere else, she is evangeline1138 there.
She really wanted me to emphasize how very moved she is by people’s expressions of concern and offers of help; she asked me more than once to thank you. She said that this fandom will be her salvation in the weeks and months to come.
As for any of you who have expressed the desire to help, please see this thread: http://www.livejournal.com/users/splash_the_cat/179533.html?view=2065997#t2065997
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| Monday, August 29th, 2005
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4:58 pm - To Friends of Evangeline, re: Hurricane Katrina
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An update on Evangeline. She and her family are all safe as they evacuated to a hotel in Memphis, Tennessee. I talked to her yesterday and she was fine, but worried about her house, of course. As most of you know her home is near New Orleans and therefore below sea level. Today she called to tell me that she's heard from a contact down there that the levee in her area has broken and that most likely her house is under water. I heard the same news on the radio today, so it doesn't look good. I wasn't home when she called, so I couldn't chat with her (all the cell phone circuits are overloaded or down!), but in her message she sounded like she's being very strong about it all. I can only imagine what she must be feeling.
It is likely that she won't be allowed to go back for at least a few days, if not longer, depending on how bad things really are. I did hear on the news that people who live in a community near her were turned away when they tried to return today. She's sitting tight for at least two more days she said.
I will keep posting here as she updates me. Also, I'm on AIM if you want to pm me for any reason. I know you'll all be keeping her in your thoughts...she's going to need us more than ever now.
*hugs Eva from afar*
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| Friday, October 22nd, 2004
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4:43 pm - A story in remembrance of Cheryl
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This is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, so I want to share the story of my dear friend Cheryl. She was a family friend that I knew my entire life. She was about 15 years older than me and thus of the age to adore the Beatles and actually attend their Hollywood Bowl concert. As long as I knew her she was the same vivacious, energetic person that I recall exclaiming over how fantastic the Beatles were. She grew up to become a teacher and an artist, combining the two into a an art students' delight. She taught other things as well: English, drama, dance, PE and she was the cheerleading advisor. Cheryl gave of herself to everyone she knew. She was a devoted daughter, sister, wife, mother, and friend. A touch of her hand created beauty wherever it went: her Christmas tree and my wedding bouquet were works of art that left lasting impressions.
She was full of energy...even when dealing with the ravages of chemotherapy and radiation treatment. She fought it and seemed to have beaten it...her five-year mark had just come when she began to have numbness in her temple. She wasn't able to get an appointment right away, and the numbness was intermittent, so she let it go until months later when she it began to get suddenly and progressively worse. Then they discovered that the cancer was back and she had a brain tumor. She survived an operation and chemo with a fighting spirit...even went back to work for awhile. But it had metastasized and was now pervasive. She fought for a few months, but ultimately lost the battle. Every year we remember her during this month, not only because it is Breast Cancer Awareness month, but also since it is the month in which we lost her. We made a promise to her and to her family that we'd not let people forget about her nor to forget about monthly breast exams; mammograms, and annual physicals. Do this for yourself and your loved ones...and remind everyone you know about it. For more information, here is the ACS site: http://www.cancer.org/docroot/SPC/SPC_0.0.asp
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| Saturday, August 21st, 2004
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1:49 pm - The Question
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I had written this fic back in March after reflecting on what might happen with Sam and Pete. It's funny how every time I see them together, and see Sam liking him so much, I stop feeling so strongly about Sam and Jack. But here is what I wrote during a lull.
Title: The Question
Author: Heidiweidel
Spoilers: Chimera, possibly Affinity
Rated: G
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Since last night's episode, I know I will be taking a break from S/J writing, but the muse will return. :)
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| Monday, August 2nd, 2004
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12:23 am - Fun quizzes
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Loving Harry Potter this summer...saw the 3rd movie and had to re-read the book since I couldn't recall all that had been left out. Now reading Book 5 (had read 4 several times, so didn't feel like reading it again. Liking how Harry is changing a bit...more like a normal teenager with angst (granted, he has a bit more angst than the average teen). Temper, girl troubles, being harrassed by other kids. So I took this quiz. [irony] What a surprising result! [/irony] Anyone who knew me in school (hmm, or for that matter knows me now) might have guessed this. She's a lot braver than I am, though.
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| Sunday, August 1st, 2004
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4:08 pm - SG1: Zero Hour (804)
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Reading so many deep thoughts about the episode led me to need to put my own two cents in...this is pretty much what I wrote as a comment to someone else's entry and comments, but I decided I wanted to put it here, too. Hope no one minds. Thanks to mattebrit, nanda, and Katy M. for spurring me on.
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| Thursday, July 15th, 2004
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| Saturday, June 19th, 2004
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11:13 pm - Learned something new...
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This may be helpful to many of you...it's psycho-babble for "negative thinking" but it makes sense!
COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS
1. ALL OR NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-
and-white categories. If your performance falls short of
perfect you see yourself as a total failure.
2. OVER-GENERALIZATION: You see a single negative
event as a never-ending pattern of defeat. For example,
you think that your friend's inconsiderate response means
that there is no caring for you even when there have been
other examples of consideration at other times.
3. MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative detail and
dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of all reality becomes
distorted, like the drop of ink that discolors the entire beaker
of water.
4. DISQUALIFYING THE POSITIVE: You reject positive experiences
by insisting that they "don't count" for some reason or other. In
this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted
by your everyday experiences. For example, you don't believe a
compliment because you think it is given just to be nice.
5. JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS: You make a negative interpretation
even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support
your conclusion.
6. MIND READING: You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting
negatively to you, and you don't bother to check it out. "I just know
he thought I was an idiot," even though he acted politely toward you.
7. THE FORTUNE TELLER ERROR: You anticipate that things will turn
out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction about a future
event is an already established fact. "I just know I'm not going to get
the job I want."
8. MAGNIFICATION (CATASTROPHIZING) OR MINIMIZATION: You
exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or
someone else's achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things
until they appear tiny (your own desireable qualities or the other
person's imperfections).
9. EMOTIONAL REASONING: You assume that your negative emotions
necessarily reflect the way things really are: "I feel it, therefore it
must be true."
10. "SHOULD" STATEMENTS: You try to motivate yourself with "shoulds"
and "shouldn'ts" as if you had to be punished before you could be
expected to do anything. "Musts" and "oughts" are also offenders.
The emotional consequence is guilt.
11. LABELING AND MISLABELING: This is an extreme form of over-
generalization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a
negative label to yourself: "I'm a loser."
So the idea is to be aware that you are doing this negative thinking and to get a
handle on it. Start doing the opposite. Good luck! This has been heidiweidel's
self-help LJ forum.
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| Wednesday, June 9th, 2004
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11:26 pm - and my best pal would be...
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11:22 pm - Hmm, I think I have figured this thing out...
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11:17 pm - What if I answered in a different way...
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