options apply should not lazily

a history debt, deprecate this by `experiments.rspackFuture.disableApplyOptionsLazily` in 0.5.0 and remove it in 0.6.0

https://github.com/web-infra-dev/rspack/blob/fc6ad596398fc806325053bdae26596468281582/packages/rspack/src/rspackOptionsApply.ts#L43