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When a consumer in {connected, deactivating} state had its node
disconnect, it would transition to {disconnected, deactivating}.
This state blocked rebalancing because is_active/1 returned true,
leaving the group with no active consumer indefinitely.

Changes:
- handle_group_after_connection_node_disconnected now transitions
  {connected, deactivating} to {disconnected, waiting} and triggers
  rebalancing, since the deactivation handshake cannot complete
- handle_group_connection_presumed_down applies the same fix as
  defense in depth for {disconnected, deactivating} consumers
- handle_connection_node_disconnected updated to accumulate effects
  from group processing
- bump stream coordinator machine version to 6 and handle backward
  compatibility

Added test cases covering:
- Node disconnect during deactivation (simple and super streams)
- Connection down during deactivation
- Multiple consumers from same connection with one deactivating
- Reconnection after disconnect during deactivation
- Presume down with deactivating consumer (simple and super streams)

References rabbitmq/rabbitmq-stream-dotnet-client#447

(cherry picked from commit cd87226)