Record and control the memory usage for index join's build range phase

## Enhancement

When the SQL is something like `.... from t1, t2 where t1.a=t2.a and t2.b in (...)` and the IN CLAUSE is rather big, we may consume a lot of memory to build the index ranges if we choose the index join and `t1` is the driven table.

We need to record these memory usages and design a way to control its usage to avoid the possible OOM risk.