cmake: wrong argument in add_apple_compiler_options() calls

relates #3292

```
add_apple_compiler_options(the_module)
```

doesn't pass the module name and macro doesn't expect variable there.

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`-fobjc-exceptions` is not added to .mm files.

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OBJCXX is supported by [CMake 3.16+](https://blog.kitware.com/cmake-3-16-0-available-for-download/). Previous version should reuse C++ compiler.