Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

Flight server side header acceptance limit is 2kb whereas client can send header size upto Integer.MAX_VALUE resulting in request failure .
In flight client builder we can set header size limit but this is missing in flight server builder.
Also default size at client side is set to Integer.MAX_VALUE which allows client to send bigger payload in header but server side request is getting failed and no option to modify default size
Client side config :
https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/main/java/flight/flight-core/src/main/java/org/apache/arrow/flight/FlightClient.java#L777C1-L778C1
https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/main/java/flight/flight-core/src/main/java/org/apache/arrow/flight/FlightClient.java#L805

Server side :
https://github.com/apache/arrow/blob/main/java/flight/flight-core/src/main/java/org/apache/arrow/flight/FlightServer.java#L224

Component(s)

FlightRPC, Java