Bug: CollaSet updates Pod to-delete label infinitely when upgrading it by recreating

### Minimal reproduce step

Just upgrade a pod, and watch it.


### What did you expect to see?

There should not be a lot of pod update events.

### What did you see instead

There will be a lot of pod update events.
The updated content is the value of label `podopslifecycle.kusionstack.io/to-delete`.

### What is your KusionStack components and its version?

version: 1.5.0