FrostFalcon's Musings...

I said yes to a job offer...

2024-05-21T02:14:14Z

It's not where I want to be and it's a bad fit, but it should keep me going for a while until I find something better. I guess I'm just going to have to make sure I keep my mouth shut and try not to get friendly with my co-workers. I'm also going to have to remember that I'm only allowed to put earrings in one set of holes. I guess it's a good thing I didn't go for the cartilage piercing I thought about. This is such a wrong move for me but I don't want to blow through my savings waiting for the right job, it's been 2 months already. I'm just going to have to smile, suck it up, and just do my job without letting anyone get a hint that I'm not a conservative, right wing, type. This is going to be an uncomfortable job... At least it's money, health insurance, and I'll learn a new EMR and I won't have to explain an even bigger gap in my employment history. Fun times....

An update....

2024-05-07T21:46:26Z

I've been unemployed for 7 weeks now. I'm still stressed (I was stressed before this all started, the facility was a shit show) but at least now I'm stressed about picking the next job so it's not a shit show and I'm not being taken advantage of.

I've had several interviews and one offer that I was hard pressed not to laugh at as it was less than what I made right out of school. They did come up to something I'd consider but they are pushing me to make a decision, but when I asked them to put it in writing and not just a verbal offer they took their time and then sent me the benefit info not the offer. They are my third choice but so far the only offer I've gotten.

The first choice is with the same parent company, 100% virtual, and the focus is pretty much the entire reason I got into healthcare. I've had two very long interviews and I really feel like this could be a great position that I could thrive in and make a difference in people's lives. They are being a bit slow on making a decision and if I wait for them I'm worried I'll miss out on something else if you don't choose me...

The third option if I don't get the one I want is to go back to being a contractor in long term care. The money is good, the benefits are good, and as a contractor I wouldn't be directly involved in the facility so they couldn't make me do the kitchen work that the previous two places have done. I'd take care of the clinical, the charting, some audits, and maybe a meeting or two but not the day to day crap when you actually work for the facility...

I really hope that the job I want comes through, that would be the best fit...

The Ides of March....

2024-03-15T23:04:04Z

So yeah, I feel stabbed in the back... Got terminated this morning. They said I wasn't doing enough and wasn't taking care of enough of the issues with the patients. Considering I had more than double the recommended number of patients for my specialty (they recommend 1:65 or 1:75 unless it's critical care then it's 1:30 and we had an average census of 150+) I thought I was doing well. Yes, I was behind, but not that far and some things got a lower priority... Taking care of patient related stuff came first, then required billing/insurance related documentation, then educating nurses and CNA's on stuff they should already know came last.

I was thinking about leaving anyway as the new administrator and director that came in a few months ago didn't like me and were playing favorites... we had 5 of our best people leave and the new people they brought in seemed to already know the director from other facilities... I think I'm leaving the rehab and LTC area and am going to try hospital and acute care again. Someplace big enough that I'm not expected to be the entire department on my own or be expected to come in at 6am because they had a call out and needed someone to cover the mornings.

I mean, they lied to me right off the bat about several aspects of the job so I knew this wasn't my forever job and should have expected something like this.

Considering making an offer on a house...

2024-03-02T19:35:34Z

I think that if the tour goes well tomorrow I may just go ahead and make an offer. The house needs some cosmetic help but the structure itself is good. The AC is new which is a plus for being in Florida. The roof is also pretty new, another plus. It has a decent garage and fenced-in back yard.

My issue is the carpet has to go, the back door needs to be replaced, and the trim around the doors have been chewed on by the family pets. It could also use a good power washing... It also needs some updates but I can do them one room at a time while I live there. The bathrooms have already been done and that's a big plus since I hate doing those. The kitchen is fine but eventually I'll want to re-do that too.

Hopefully if all goes well I can be in and get started in time to put in a garden and have some fresh herbs and veggies for the summer.

Let's celebrate! My blog is 19 years old

2023-08-24T01:43:44Z

Daytona Beach so far seems like a better place for me...

2023-04-17T11:44:52Z

I'm doing much better here than I was in GA. I still get stuck with extra shifts but not nearly as bad as where I was. I'm only working 5 days a week and on average 48 hours but that is much better than 6 days a week and 56-64 hours. I'm salaried so the extra hours sucked and in GA it was because the director didn't want to have the hourly people get any overtime... and she wonders why all her salaried people left when we were told to pick up the hourly shifts... I make more, have much better hours, and there is a lot more to do here. Some things like rent are more but my internet bill went from $85 to $30 a month and a few other things are cheaper too.

I don't like some of the political stuff here but at least no one has OD'd and died at the gas pump next to me here yet... I should probably write about that day, it was a freaking mess of a day....

Everything is a go! Daytona Beach here I come!

2023-02-09T22:54:11Z

I have been approved for my apartment! My job begins on the 27th! and I already gave notice at my current job. I am going to remind them that I am supposed to get weekends off since they keep putting me on the schedule anyway. If they aren't going to give me my weekends then I want at least two days off a week until I leave and I want them in a row not spaced out over the week. No more of this 64 hour a week / 6 days a week crap, I'm salaried so I've been getting screwed over since July... I mean what is the worst she can do? fire me? I'm already gone in a couple of weeks anyway so I'd get more time to move... I dare her to try.

The manager above her is pissed I'm leaving and when she got the whole story she offered me a transfer out but I had already committed to the new place. She said if I want to come back she'd put in a good word for me.

Big changes are ahead!

2023-01-26T00:50:34Z

I signed the offer letter I got from a facility in Florida today and applied to get a Florida license. I have given up on my current shitty department (I love my residents and nurses) and have taken a position in Daytona Beach, FL. Not only are they promising me they won't take advantage like this place did but they are giving me a lot more money. I have a few friends in the area and family a few cities south so I also won't be so alone.

I already know the area as I've visited and I can't wait to get a burger at Jimmy Hula's and visit Salty (the dog at the Salty Dog surf shop). I was thinking about selling my board and moving back north but this seems like it's the better option. I can't wait to have some work/life balance again... no more 58, 64, or 79.5 hour weeks! I just don't want to deal with my director when I resign. I sort of want to see her face but I don't want to deal with the attitude I know I'm going to get...

Here's to a new chapter in my life!

Just fed up...

2023-01-21T20:49:57Z

Still at my job... we are still short staffed and I'm doing 60+ hours a week with one day off per week. I'm pretty sure the director is making sure I'm the one scheduled as I'm salaried and therefore don't get overtime pay like any of the hourly people would so it doesn't increase the payroll costs. She says that I'm the only one available but I'm pretty sure that some of the others would take the extra shifts if they were offered overtime.

I'm doing my actual job in between the stuff she has me doing but even that is falling behind with all the extra crap and being pulled into the kitchen for things like food prep, putting up the trucks, tray building, and dishes. I end up trying to get in my resident/patient rounds and charting when I can.

I put in for a transfer to another facility but haven't heard anything about it yet and I applied for a few other positions. I was offered one so far that I'm considering. It pays a lot more but the patient load is almost double what I have now, PTO is less than half of what I have now, there is no room for promotion, and I'd be relocating to the Daytona, FL area. I'm thinking it might be worth it just to get out of where I am now and if I don't like it I can keep looking for something better while being back to 40 hour weeks with 2 days off a week.

I'm on the verge of a toddler style meltdown and feel like crap all the time. I passed up an awesome opportunity because the director told me when she started I have to give at least 30 days notice, that I should give her a chance, and she promised me it would get better. All lies... I checked with corporate and I have to give 2 weeks but 30 days is preferred and things are worse than they have been. I should have just left... The past is the past and I can't change it. I do have an Indeed alert set up in case they advertise for another position. I am so done...

Things may be changing...

2022-11-19T19:16:56Z

I had an interview this Thursday via Teams. This was my second interview and it was with the CEO of the company. I think this one is mine if they can come up with a decent enough salary and benefits package. The last offer I got was the same salary I'm making now but the benefits sucked and I would have had to move someplace more expensive.

The next step is to tour the facility and talk about the financials. They are working on a long time line which means I would have over a month to give notice, secure a FL license, and move. I like not being rushed... My current company requires 2 weeks notice but for management and clinical they really want 30 days. If my current position plays nice and doesn't try to screw with me even more than they already are they will get the 30 days, if they mess up my already requested PTO for Christmas after making me work three 12 hour kitchen shifts including a 12 on Thanksgiving along with my clinical case load they will get exactly what is required.

I have put up with 50-60 hour weeks and working 6 days a week for months... I'm salaried so they pay me for 37.5 hours no matter how long I am actually there and this has been saving them tons in paying the hourly staff for overtime. It's not fair and I'm done trying to fix it. I like my residents, patients, and the nursing staff, but my own department has screwed me over too long. I passed up my dream job so they didn't lose all but one member of the management team back in June, I got hurt on the job in July doing the dish washers job and I'm still in pain, and there have been so many broken promises and things they were supposed to pay for and didn't (my license renewal and a few other things required for me to continue to work), and hiring or transferring in help that they said they were doing two years ago and I'm still doing it all myself... I'm just done.

This new position has a higher number of clinical cases but I would be part of a team and it would only be clinical, some kitchen safety assessments, and providing education to other staff members, not the clinical plus covering everyone else in the kitchen... Pretty much what my current job should be. The pay starts higher than I am getting even with my most recent raise and the location is in the middle of the state where I have my parents 20 minutes away for 6 months out of the year, family in the next town over, friends on both coasts, beaches within driving distance, and a lot more to do locally. I am really hoping they can come up with a good package as I'm ready to say bye bye to this place... Here's hoping...

I can't keep this up...

2022-11-05T22:47:32Z

They keep promising that it will get better... it's been a year, we're on our third director, we have been through 3 executive chefs, and we are still having issues. It's just getting worse. At least when I was filling in for call offs and such with the first director I got comp time since I'm salaried. Now I'm working 50-60 hour weeks, 6 days a week, and a heavy sprinkling of 12 hour shifts trying to not only do my clinical work and charting but I'm basically doing every position in the kitchen and not getting an extra $$ or time off, in fact I lost out on a lot of PTO time because I couldn't use it. It has been getting steadily worse over the last year and I'm tired.

I get one day off a week to try and catch up on all the laundry, housework, and whatever else I need to do. I don't bother going grocery shopping since I don't know if I'll be home to eat the food and I'd rather not waste it... If I was getting paid for the extra time I'd try to stick it out but I know one reason they have me doing it is that they don't want to pay any of the hourly people overtime as well as they are just running out of people and we don't have any new hires coming in.

I was misinformed in June when I tried to leave for another job and since then nothing good has been offered. I tried to transfer to another location and wasn't considered because they can't afford to lose me here. I have a job interview Monday for a position I'm not thrilled about in a location that is more expensive to live in but I need to get out of here... If it's a reasonable amount of work for a decent and livable salary I'm probably taking it to escape this place. I'm not really thrilled about going to that part of Florida but if nothing else it's a step away from this place.

All I feel like doing when I get home is lying down and sleeping and on my day off I just want to lay on the couch and cry. I have so much I need and want to do but just no energy or enthusiasm to do anything... I need to change something.

Let's celebrate! My blog is 18 years old

2022-08-24T01:20:27Z

I ever seem to do is complain....

2022-07-03T14:50:04Z

I decided to give the new director a chance... big mistake. I have now outlasted 2 food service directors and 3 executive chefs. I am a clinical dietitian, and this Thursday I was the PM dishwasher and the cold prep person. Instead of doing my job the current director has me in the kitchen doing stuff she refuses to do. She says she will not do the kitchen work, she is supposed to be doing the office stuff.

So Thursday the retail cafe manager and I were tag-teaming the dishes and the dishwasher is supposed to also take out the garbage. It turns out the no one has bothered to take it out since maybe Monday and there is a weeks worth collected up on the loading dock and it's attracting things you don't want around. She and I decide to take it out because obviously no one else is doing it. I have also told the staff several times to close up the bags and put them out before they get too heavy, I'd rather go though extra bags than have them be to heavy to lift. No one was listening so while carrying out the trash I managed to pull something in my back and ended up at employee health to file a report in case it's more than a pulled/strained muscle. I'm told to take it easy for the next few days and if it gets worse go to the ER or urgent care. I get back to the kitchen because I'm still expected to get the dishes done. I am told I'm moving too slow and that I'm usually faster... I mean really I screwed up my back, I'm over 50, and I'm not the person who is supposed to be doing this job anyway, cut me a little slack.

Friday rolls around and I'm trying to get my own clinical work done when the director tells me she needs me to help get lunch out, then the lunch dishes need to get done, and the floor stocks for the nurses stations need to be done for the weekend... My back is still messed up and this is not helping me to "take it easy and avoid more straining" at all. I get all that done, again slower than usual and slower than the person whose job it actually is would do it... and then go back to my office as it's time for me to go home and I'm thinking "well at least I have a long weekend to take it easy let my back rest and feel better" as I'm shutting down the computer and turning off the lights she calls me into her office to tell me that I need to be in the kitchen on Sunday at 1pm to get the lunch dishes done, put resident and patient trays together for dinner, get the stuff done in cold prep, do the dinner dishes, and close the kitchen since she doesn't have anyone on the schedule. She will be coming in to as someone needs to man the cash register in the cafe... really? why not let the injured person do the less physical job? oh yeah.. she doesn't do kitchen stuff... I'm so done with this place... I've tried to help but they don't listen and I missed out on my dream job because of this place.

I don't get paid any more for working on my days off, I'm salaried and the last two directors don't offer comp time for anything extra like the first one did. So I'm getting the same amount of money whether I'm working 37.5 or 56+ hours a week and no one seems to care. I also got crap for asking for a day off to recover from oral surgery... She was insisting that I should be able to return to work right after getting my wisdom teeth out, like that very same day.

So next up figuring out where I want to move too... so far it's looking like Gainesville, FL; Jacksonville, FL; Daytona, FL; or Charleston, SC; or back up to the Syracuse or Albany New York area (that's a bit expensive rent wise though) ... I'm am also open to recommendations.

Sorry to whine... I just feel so depressed, pissed, pained, and done with this shit.

Pondering stuff...

2022-06-14T02:36:18Z

I missed out on what could have been my dream job thanks to my current job and the need to give 30 days notice to leave. This afternoon I had an interview with a company in the same city as my potential dream job... If they offer me the job do I take it and risk having a better place to live but potentially a worse job?

I would also be in the area to have another shot at my dream job when one of their team retires or leaves... I was their first choice but they needed someone ASAP and said they would keep me in mind next time something opened up. I really don't want to be here but do I want out bad enough to try moving to another state again? At least I would have family closer if I moved... There are pros and cons to both and I just wish I knew which way would be best to go... I'm tired of not having a place that I can say "this is home" and unpack my stuff, I've been half packed and ready to move since 2001 and even when I bought a house I never did unpack all my stuff. It was just as well since he ended up with the house when we got disengaged...

Possible Move...

2022-04-19T00:39:29Z

I have been hating my job recently... I've outlasted 2 food service directors and 3 chefs. The new FSD has made the job so miserable that I started looking to leave. I put in two applications so far and one position got canceled and the other I got a request for and interview in less than 24 hours. I'm not sure if I'll take it but if they offer I have no problem moving to the area around Daytona Beach. I wouldn't live in Daytona but the Port Orange or Ormond Beach area is nice... and I have move friends and family in FL than I do here. My parents also spend 4 or 5 months a year there so much easier to see them.

I was hoping for further down the coast but housing gets pricey. This would be a foot in the door...

I hope if goes well, this position would have more support too. Where I am now I'm the only dietitian taking care of the care center and the hospital and they said they were hiring another before I even agreed to the job and in the past two years it hasn't happened and I really could use the support.

Wish me luck!

Link the the song I'm listening to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xx1uLMvsmvk

I'm tired...

2022-03-20T03:08:53Z

I made the eligible list for the position in West Palm Beach, it's probably acute care... I really need to get out of my current facility but I like long term care. If this position does work out I may check to see what long term care facilities are looking.

I am tired of getting nowhere, I have tried to explain why I'm picky about things and how changes are supposed to be made but I feel like I'm beating my head into the wall and things are getting worse.

For some good news I got my intern through the last 80 hours of her rotation and hopefully she'll do great on the exam.

Not much else going on... looking at place I want to move to and hoping something worthwhile comes up.

I'm on Dreamwidth...

2022-03-09T12:23:36Z

https://frostfalcon.dreamwidth.org/

but not everything is there... if you looking for my fics (I know I'm really far behind posting) they are on A03 at https://archiveofourown.org/users/frostfalcon/works

I'm slow to update and even write because life has just gotten wild and by the time I ave free time I just want to veg... I'm looking at find new employment where I'll be part of a team again and won't be the only dietitian for the care center and hospital (and whatever else they need me for)...

I think it's time to make a change...

2022-02-06T17:25:36Z

The new management isn't working out as well as I had hoped. I was thinking of leaving before he was hired and then thought I'd give him a chance. He is just not the kind of manager I want to work with. The new chef is great, but he's having issues with the manager too. I've had to talk him out of walking out and convinced him to at least give notice so he doesn't slam the door behind him with the parent company. The parent company is nice, it's just this location that is an issue. We've been through 2 directors and 3 chefs since I started. I almost left in October but stayed as I felt the current director needed me and the job offer in NY wasn't really offering the salary I would need to actually live in NY. I told them I was staying the day the director said she was leaving. I don't blame her for leaving, her heart in is clinical care and she wanted to go back to it. I just wish I knew before as I might have made a different choice when I was offered the position in NY.

Fast forward to having the new guy for the last 3 months... He has great energy, but he is never around when you need him, he puts off his work on everyone else and then bitches there is too much overtime being paid out, at the same time we can't fill shifts and he's saying we have too many people on payroll and sending people home, and then he expects the salaried people to work filling in for those he sent home to save money on payroll...

I'm sorry, not happening... I'm a clinical dietitian, I am not unloading trucks, putting up stock, doing my job, and other people's jobs just so he can save some money. I've already hurt myself trying, I'm not the only one that can lift and put 50# bags of flour and sugar on the shelf, in fact we have two people hired to do exactly that, I'm also not the dishwasher but I've done the dishes so many times it's ridiculous. I am contracted for 35 hours a week providing clinical care and dietary/menu work, I almost always give extra time to make sure my patients and residents are taken care of...

I was willing to go above and beyond for the last director as she would work side by side with any of us to get it done... this guy can't be found most of the time. I also noticed that there is a couple thousand dollars missing from my salary. I didn't notice it last year because I didn't work the whole year, but when I got my W2, even counting in the contributions to my 401k and that the pay cycle didn't work out exactly... it's short. There is also a deduction in my check for meals that I requested be stopped as I bring in my own lunch and don't use the cafe and it's still being taken out and in fact it doubled recently. I tried taking it up with management and the new director yelled at me for going above his head, but he ignored me when I brought it to him.

I let him know that I was getting a dietary intern for their long term care clinical rotation and his first comment was "great free labor". I had to remind him that this was a clinical rotation not a food service rotation and she'd be doing clinical stuff with me not working in the kitchen...

I'm looking for a new place this is not working, I gave him a chance and it's just not working. I'm tired of the crap and begging people not to quit. I'm tired of being so drained when I get home, and the stupid app he insisted we put on our phones so he can get in touch with us all at once... A group text would work, but no he insisted on us having WhatsApp. All the little crap adds up... I'm putting my resume out there... they can deal with trying to replace me, LOL it took them 8 months, a 5K sign-on bonus, and 5K towards moving expenses to get me here... I wonder what it'll take to find someone else?

Not moving yet...

2021-11-20T20:11:41Z

I am still in the Savannah, GA area. One of the reasons I decided to stay other than the cost of living here compared to NY was I didn't want to leave the rest of the team hanging. We were already understaffed and I felt that my leaving would make it horrible for the rest and the resident's would also lose out. I came back from my vacation having decided to stay and my direct manager informs me she's given notice and is leaving, a few days later the executive chef walks out... I'm now the most senior person in the department and the cafe manager and I manage to keep things going reasonably well until the new food service director started this Monday.

He has good energy and is used to a much bigger facility but I don't think he counted on just how the chronic understaffing, high expectations from the hospital management, and the current team morale was faring. It didn't help that we had another person walk out this week. I know that they are going to be giving a lot of the staff pay increases and incentives to continue on but when the local fast food place is starting $3-$4 an hour more and has benefits it's not easy filling in the missing spots.

So amidst all this I'm trying to decide whether or not to say yes I'm staying here and buying a place or if I want to continue to look elsewhere. I'm considering trying Florida... I like the people I've met there better, it's a bit warmer, I can surf, swim, and paddle board more often, the parks in the Ormond/Port Orange/Daytona area are very nice, and the selection of restaurants and things to do seems to be better. Looking at possible salaries I'd be making the same or a bit more... I just don't know.

I'd like to eventually find a partner and I've been here almost two (pandemic filled) years so I can't really say the dating scene sucks but seeing the locals I'm not sure I'd want to even try... there was a decent mix of people in Florida and even a bit further north in Jacksonville it wasn't bad... they have some nice parks there too but not as much to do unless you are closer to the middle of the city.

I really don't know... heck I'd consider the job postings in Puerto Rico but I speak English, German, and a bit of Swedish... so I'd probably have to pick up some Spanish. I'm just so blah about it all. I miss NY but being single there is no way I can afford living alone in a decent place and having any $$ left over and once they start collecting on student loans I'd be screwed. At least here I'd be able to keep my place or buy one and still afford it with my loan payments and have some left over for car repairs and other incidentals... and Florida might even be a better option financially as the rent and real estate is a better market there and if I made 5-10K more there I'd be better off. I just wish I had some direction...

Also Florida has manatees and they are so chill and amazing...

I recommend https://www.facebook.com/manateetouranddive for a good time observing manatees. You can even get a groupon to go...

More job consideration...

2021-09-15T23:15:43Z

I was tentatively offered the job in NY. They have not sent an actual offer so I have no clue what salary they are offering. I had to fill out some stuff before they can move forward. In reality unless they offer really high it's not worth the move. The starting salary is 19K more than my current and the high end is 35K more than my current. The issue is that the cost of housing in NY is so high that even with that much more money I still could not afford what I have here and forget ever buying a decent place.

Here as a single woman I can afford about $250k for a house and in this area that gets you a house that is move in ready with 3 or 4 bedrooms, two+ bathrooms, etc. with at least half an acre and probably a pool or hot tub. My commute would stay about 15-20 minutes.

In the part of NY that I would be in 250K get you a shit hole that needs to be gutted and redone, little to no property, and a commute that is three times the length. If you buy a condo they start at 99K but all of them have $1000 a month HOA fees, here if you have an HOA it's max $150 a month and you get a pool, gym, dog park or playground, and lawn upkeep at least in the street facing side of the house, but most places don't have the HOA.

Renting is pretty bad too... I have a 2 bed, 2 bath with a washer and dryer in my unit, all utilities except electric and cable/internet, 24 hour gym, pool, car wash station, outdoor kitchens, and a dog park for $1120, in Peekskill, NY the closest "city" to where I'd be working they have a 1 bed, 1 bath with a washer and no included utilities for over $2300 if you can get it. Even some of the studio apartments are over $2000.

So unless they really come up with some decent $$$ as much as I don't like a lot of the attitude here, I can deal. I also can run out to the beach anytime and my family is slowly moving further south. As soon as my sister's youngest graduates they're probably going to Virginia to be closer to the two oldest and the new grandchildren. My parents already spend half the year in the south and dad is ready to give up on NY as soon as mom says the word. So... I might not be staying in GA but it's looking like going back to NY isn't going to happen unless they really make it worth my while. I've been spending a lot of time in Jacksonville, FL. I kinda like it there and I can find a job anyplace that has a hospital or just about any other healthcare related place... I could even open my own practice if I want...

I did it...

2021-09-05T23:35:43Z

I've been wanting to learn to surf since the early 90's... I even booked a 4 hour session with a surf coach last month and didn't do very well. I got up on my feet a couple of times for a few seconds. Last night I was looking at the lesson availability on Hilton Head and Tybee since I'm right between them and there was a spot open in a group lesson this morning on Tybee! The group sessions are half the price.

I booked it and went out this morning and caught a good number of waves. The instructor was great and the four of us in the group all had a great time and managed to get up and ride. This makes it even more difficult to decide if I want to try and move back to NY or not.

I can afford to live here and even buy a nice house if I choose, the weather is nice, and there are things to do. The downside is the ignorance and well... southern closed minded attitudes. In NY there are things to do, I have friends and family there, there are more open minded people and I'd be paid more. The downside there is even with a potential $20k added to my salary I can't can't get a place like I have here and I will never be able to buy a decent place on my own that doesn't need tons of updating unless I inherit it from my parent's and I'd rather not think about that.

NY is just very costly but it is home... I'm just not thrilled with either option. I just want someplace I can call home and finally unpack all my stuff.

Something new...

2021-08-21T03:10:41Z

Tomorrow is try 2 for surfing lessons... last week I drove here and we had lightning so we rescheduled for this week. I hope I can get my time in the water this week. I'd hate to have driven to Florida twice for no reason.

This week has sucked...

2021-06-05T18:11:30Z

I swear 75% of my family is a bunch of "Science isn't real" nut jobs and the rest of us just don't even want to try anymore.

I got into an argument with a friend who got vicious and went for my throat when I pretty much agreed with 99% of what she said in here first post, but I get the feeling that she didn't actually read my post in response... I am hesitating unfriending her on FB. All I can think is she either really didn't really read my post or she just wanted to blow up at someone and I was convenient.

She posted that the local area was doing a bike safety class for kids. I said I wished they do that here for some of the adult riders, since even with bike lanes in the entire community I have been clipped by bikes while running on the sidewalk three times. She went off on how an adult driver clipping her on a bike will kill her...

Now I never said anything about driving, until much further down in the exchange. I was a pedestrian on the sidewalk, no vehicle involved other than the bike that hit me... I was told she wouldn't even muster the feeling to apologize for damaging my paint and I should save the bike shaming and that she rides on the sidewalk to be safe from drivers like me... I mean WTF? I was in shorts, sneakers, and a tank top, she mentions a 2000 pound machine and soaking went in my clothes I come nowhere near that and the "paint damage" was several inches of skin that got peeled off when the bike knocked me down and the guy took off without even asking if I was OK, the other two times I managed to stay upright but was bruised across the hip/back and they took off too.

One of a runner's worst fears is being hit by a car and getting hit by a bike isn't great either. Pedestrian's have been seriously hurt and have died from being hit by bikes and somehow me walking/running on the sidewalk makes me the bad guy? Sorry but I looked up the local laws and on the sidewalk pedestrians have the right of way and bikes need to yield to us.

So do I try to reason with her and explain that I was a pedestrian and not driving when I was hit by the bikes each time or do I give up and remove her from my friends?

Family....

2021-04-21T01:25:26Z

I love my family but sometimes I just want to scream... I swear they need to realize that time has moved forward.

I want to move out of Georgia because of all sorts of reasons but I don't think I could move back in with my parents in NY while I try to find an affordable place.

I'm pretty sure that as much as I love the weather and the cost of living in GA the people are just not for me. I have no clue what to do... give up stay here and buy a house? move back to NY and hope to find an affordable place that isn't too bad? or try a different state above the Mason-Dixon line?

So glad I'm able to transfer in 6-8 months....

2021-03-23T21:16:42Z

Every time I turn around it seems I find even more stuff that is behind the times in GA.
Since when do I need to see my primary care physician to get a referral to see a GYN? The insurance company doesn't think I need need one, but when I call the GYN's office they told me that I need to see my primary for a referral before they will make an appointment.
The primary care doc won't make an appointment until they get 5-7 years of my medical records so they can decide if they will even make an appointment.
This is what I get for trying to go to doctors affiliated with the hospital where I work... I think I'm going to the check out the competition. As a contractor my insurance isn't tied to them. I have a nice big selection of in-network places that I can choose from...
Meanwhile I need to check out Aetna's teledoc service to see if they can help with a minor problem. At this rate this is going I can fly to NY see my doc there, get the issue taken care of and get home before I can even get an appointment with a doctor here.
It also seems to come as a huge shock when I go to do paperwork for various places that I'm single and don't have a "man to take care of things". Every man I've ever dated long enough to call it a relationship has never taken care of me, it's always me taking care of them, supporting them, and basically being a substitute mom because they can't cope with adulthood without a lot of help.