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I should... play it cool
What dating taught me about adult friendmaking (and vice versa).
Oct 16, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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I should... keep at it
On trusting the process, inspired by my skincare regime.
Oct 9, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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I should... do it for my future 89-year-old
Or, why I flew to Seoul when my heart wanted to go to M&S.
Oct 2, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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I should… do a yoga handstand
Your life goals have no expiration date.
Sep 18, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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I should... move to Lisbon
Some news.
Sep 11, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #57: The great flaking debate
Dec 7, 2023
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #87: IKEA, and the myth of compartmentalisation
Sep 26, 2024
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #60: The simple life lesson I learnt on my yoga retreat (that has nothing to do with yoga)
Jan 11, 2024
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #50: Reflecting on my early thirties, so far
Oct 19, 2023
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #109: How to spend a (mostly) solo weekend
Advice, tips and 16+ pieces of inspiration – plus a detailed schedule of what I did during mine.
Mar 27, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #91: Cooking for one is a power move – just ask Waitrose
Finally, an advertising campaign that champions eating alone.
Oct 24, 2024
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Francesca Specter
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Susan Cain: The 'Quiet' author on free falling through her early 30s
‘I was floating around by myself in this apartment, not knowing what my work was going to be or whether and when I would find love again.’
Jun 25, 2023
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Francesca Specter
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Friendship & Connection
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Issue #112: Rethinking past relationships over a Sunday roast
Who needs therapy?
Apr 17, 2025
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #88: How rituals keep us connected
From Friday night dinners to annual holidays, why traditions matter.
Oct 3, 2024
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Francesca Specter
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Issue #85: The first-date rules of adult friendship
After the social peak of your mid-twenties, friendmaking can feel remarkably similar to dating.
Sep 12, 2024
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Francesca Specter
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