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You’re Allowed to Want More
Wanting more doesn’t mean you’ve failed at acceptance. With chronic illness, it means you’re still alive inside your life. This is your permission slip.
Jan 13
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Pleasure Without Productivity
You don’t have to earn your joy. On rest, small luxuries, and letting pleasure exist without justification.
Jan 6
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New Year, Same Fabulous Me
New year, new me? Hard pass. This is a love letter to limbo week, continuity, and refusing to treat yourself like a renovation project.
Dec 30, 2025
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The Part of Christmas That Happens Between the Lines
I’m not opting out of Christmas. I’m opting out of the performance. This is about what happens between the lines.
Dec 23, 2025
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The Problem with Good Days
Why “glad you’re feeling better” misses the entire point of chronic illness. A “good day” doesn’t mean I’m getting better. It means my symptoms are…
Dec 16, 2025
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Surviving Christmas with Chronic Illness (and Still Finding Joy)
All the joys of Christmas with none of the burnout. A gentler season, a slower pace, and permission to do it your way.
Dec 9, 2025
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What I meant was...
I’m not vague, I’m exhausted. And masking. And trying not to terrify people with the truth. This week’s essay is a sharp, honest look at the coded…
Dec 2, 2025
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That Time the NHS Nearly Killed Me
When you’re a woman in pain, disbelief is often the first diagnosis. I learned that the hard way and I nearly didn’t live to tell the story.
Nov 25, 2025
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Reasonably Adjusted, Ridiculously Ambitious
I used to think ambition meant proving I could do everything everyone else could just with a body that constantly worked against me. Now I know better…
Nov 18, 2025
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The Guilt That Doesn’t Go Away
What chronic illness takes from me is one thing. What it takes from the people I love, that’s what haunts me.
Nov 11, 2025
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The Weight I No Longer Carry
Chronic illness teaches you what to hold onto, and what to leave behind.
Nov 4, 2025
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Wanderlust, with a side of chronic fatigue
What travelling with chronic illness really looks like: the planning, the pacing and the parts nobody sees.
Oct 28, 2025
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When Love Doesn't Come with Understanding
There’s a quiet grief that comes when the people you thought would always understand... don’t. It’s not cruelty, it’s absence. The gap between what you…
Oct 21, 2025
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The Luxury of Effort: Michelin Moments on Minimal Energy
Why enjoying a treat can take more energy than you think.
Oct 14, 2025
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