You Are Not Crazy Wed, 01 Apr 2026 17:07:21 -0400 http://emotionalabusecoach.com en-us © 2026 You Are Not Crazy yes Support this Podcast 533d8d73-d5e5-56bd-83da-f60d477ce20b jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com Jessica Knight episodic false You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace.

You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.


You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem.


You’re not.


This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know.


I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse.


Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust.


This podcast is especially for you if you are:

• Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship
 • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control
 • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner
 • Questioning your reality after gaslighting
 • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse


You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real.


This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms.


🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) narcissist, narcissism, emotionalabuse, lovebomb, traumabond, toxicrelationship, verbalabuse, narcissisticpetsonalitydisorder, gaslighting, traumahealing, domesticviolence, narcissisticabuse, Jessica Knight jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/mnpj0v3qe1c5dewlz3z7hdp90ccf?.jpg You Are Not Crazy http://emotionalabusecoach.com Jessica Knight When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse This month’s Patreon episode dives into a theme that kept surfacing in your questions: When does mental illness explain behavior… and when does it become an excuse?

Before answering your submissions, I break down what we actually mean when we talk about pathological abuse — repeated patterns rooted in personality structure, not just “a bad fight” or poor communication. We explore coercive control, gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, blame shifting, and the power imbalance that defines these dynamics.

I also clarify the differences (and overlap) between borderline traits, narcissistic traits, and antisocial traits — and why the traits matter more than the label.

Some of the questions I answer:

• Was any of it real, or was I being used the entire time?
• How do I tell the difference between borderline traits and sociopathy?
• Why did they escalate when I got stronger?
• When does mental illness stop being an explanation and start being an excuse?

This is the Instagram video I reference: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DP8CTXVDQ11/?hl=en

This is the podcast I mentioned: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/episodes/10257007

This episode was originally recorded for my Patreon community, where I answer listener-submitted questions in a more direct, unfiltered way. I’m sharing it publicly because the themes felt too important to keep behind a paywall.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This month’s Patreon episode dives into a theme that kept surfacing in your questions: When does mental illness explain behavior… and when does it become an excuse?

Before answering your submissions, I break down what we actually mean when we talk about pathological abuse — repeated patterns rooted in personality structure, not just “a bad fight” or poor communication. We explore coercive control, gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, blame shifting, and the power imbalance that defines these dynamics.

I also clarify the differences (and overlap) between borderline traits, narcissistic traits, and antisocial traits — and why the traits matter more than the label.

Some of the questions I answer:

• Was any of it real, or was I being used the entire time?
• How do I tell the difference between borderline traits and sociopathy?
• Why did they escalate when I got stronger?
• When does mental illness stop being an explanation and start being an excuse?

This is the Instagram video I reference: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DP8CTXVDQ11/?hl=en

This is the podcast I mentioned: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/episodes/10257007

This episode was originally recorded for my Patreon community, where I answer listener-submitted questions in a more direct, unfiltered way. I’m sharing it publicly because the themes felt too important to keep behind a paywall.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18749676 Wed, 01 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0400 1634 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, divorce, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, p 247 full true How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce In this episode, I share what it’s really like to support clients through the chaos of high-conflict divorce — when legal processes, endless emails, and contradictory communication make it nearly impossible to think clearly. I talk about how I help clients slow things down, organize what’s actually happening, and find stability in the middle of emotional and legal overwhelm.

I also share how confusion becomes one of the main weapons of post-separation abuse, and what I do to help survivors reclaim clarity, confidence, and emotional grounding. If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in filings, lawyer emails, or mixed messages from your ex and the professionals involved, this episode will help you see the bigger picture, feel more anchored, and take the next step forward.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I share what it’s really like to support clients through the chaos of high-conflict divorce — when legal processes, endless emails, and contradictory communication make it nearly impossible to think clearly. I talk about how I help clients slow things down, organize what’s actually happening, and find stability in the middle of emotional and legal overwhelm.

I also share how confusion becomes one of the main weapons of post-separation abuse, and what I do to help survivors reclaim clarity, confidence, and emotional grounding. If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in filings, lawyer emails, or mixed messages from your ex and the professionals involved, this episode will help you see the bigger picture, feel more anchored, and take the next step forward.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18071497 Wed, 25 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0400 897 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 246 full false “No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It) “No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It) “No one sees it. They just think he’s nice.”

If you are in a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting dynamic, you probably feel this in your bones.

One of the hardest parts of covert abuse is that the “nice” isn’t safe. The "helpfulness" isn’t genuine. It’s strategic. 

When you are the only one seeing it and reacting to it, you start questioning yourself.

In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to live inside a pattern that other people can’t see. Courts, lawyers, evaluators — they are trained to look for a single shocking incident. They are looking for overt violence, clear evidence and one big moment. 

They are not trained to see is cumulative harm, psychological pressure and the tone of a text that looks polite but isn’t. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> “No one sees it. They just think he’s nice.”

If you are in a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting dynamic, you probably feel this in your bones.

One of the hardest parts of covert abuse is that the “nice” isn’t safe. The "helpfulness" isn’t genuine. It’s strategic. 

When you are the only one seeing it and reacting to it, you start questioning yourself.

In this episode, I talk about what it’s like to live inside a pattern that other people can’t see. Courts, lawyers, evaluators — they are trained to look for a single shocking incident. They are looking for overt violence, clear evidence and one big moment. 

They are not trained to see is cumulative harm, psychological pressure and the tone of a text that looks polite but isn’t. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18043414 Wed, 18 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0400 865 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, divorce, divorcinganarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, 245 full false Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors ask is this:

“If I want them to change… how is that different from them wanting me to change?”

On the surface, it sounds the same. Two people. Both asking for change. But it is not the same.

In this episode, I’m joined again by Paul Colaianni of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love and Abuse to unpack the critical difference between wanting harm to stop… and wanting control.

We talk about:

  • The difference between self-protection and selfish control
  • Why survivors question whether they’re “abusive too”
  • The shift that happens 3–6 months into many abusive relationships
  • How instinct gets conditioned out of you
  • Why abusers externalize and survivors internalize
  • What real change actually looks like (and how to spot when it’s just words)
  • Why consequences are often the only thing that triggers accountability

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:

  • “Am I asking for too much?”
  • “Are we both the problem?”
  • “Why do they say I need to change too?”
  • “If I want them to be healthier, isn’t that controlling?”

This conversation will bring clarity.

Wanting someone to stop hurting you is not abuse. Wanting someone to shrink so you can control them is.

I highly recommend Paul's work. You can find him here: loveandabuse.com


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors ask is this:

“If I want them to change… how is that different from them wanting me to change?”

On the surface, it sounds the same. Two people. Both asking for change. But it is not the same.

In this episode, I’m joined again by Paul Colaianni of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love and Abuse to unpack the critical difference between wanting harm to stop… and wanting control.

We talk about:

  • The difference between self-protection and selfish control
  • Why survivors question whether they’re “abusive too”
  • The shift that happens 3–6 months into many abusive relationships
  • How instinct gets conditioned out of you
  • Why abusers externalize and survivors internalize
  • What real change actually looks like (and how to spot when it’s just words)
  • Why consequences are often the only thing that triggers accountability

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:

  • “Am I asking for too much?”
  • “Are we both the problem?”
  • “Why do they say I need to change too?”
  • “If I want them to be healthier, isn’t that controlling?”

This conversation will bring clarity.

Wanting someone to stop hurting you is not abuse. Wanting someone to shrink so you can control them is.

I highly recommend Paul's work. You can find him here: loveandabuse.com


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18636387 Wed, 11 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0400 2557 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 244 full false “Why Do I Feel Crazy?” — Life Inside a Trauma Bond “Why Do I Feel Crazy?” — Life Inside a Trauma Bond This episode puts words to what a trauma bond feels like before there is language for it. The quiet erosion. The logic loops. The way your needs slowly become “too much.” The way calm, rational explanations are used to invalidate your emotional reality. The way you start rehearsing conversations, monitoring your tone, silencing yourself, and shrinking—just to keep the peace.

This is not a story about explosive fights or obvious cruelty. It is about subtle control, emotional superiority, and the kind of psychological manipulation that makes you doubt your own perceptions while trying harder and harder to make the relationship work.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • Why trauma bonds don’t feel abusive while you’re in them
  • How “logical” partners can still be deeply emotionally abusive
  • What cognitive dissonance does to your sense of self
  • Why your nervous system starts reacting before your mind catches up
  • How silence, self-erasure, and hyper-independence become survival strategies
  • Why “just leaving” is not simple—and never was




Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode puts words to what a trauma bond feels like before there is language for it. The quiet erosion. The logic loops. The way your needs slowly become “too much.” The way calm, rational explanations are used to invalidate your emotional reality. The way you start rehearsing conversations, monitoring your tone, silencing yourself, and shrinking—just to keep the peace.

This is not a story about explosive fights or obvious cruelty. It is about subtle control, emotional superiority, and the kind of psychological manipulation that makes you doubt your own perceptions while trying harder and harder to make the relationship work.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • Why trauma bonds don’t feel abusive while you’re in them
  • How “logical” partners can still be deeply emotionally abusive
  • What cognitive dissonance does to your sense of self
  • Why your nervous system starts reacting before your mind catches up
  • How silence, self-erasure, and hyper-independence become survival strategies
  • Why “just leaving” is not simple—and never was




Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17406641 Wed, 04 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0500 2687 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, hea 243 full false When Leaving Feels Impossible: The Hidden Reality of Loving Someone With Untreated BPD When Leaving Feels Impossible: The Hidden Reality of Loving Someone With Untreated BPD Leaving a relationship with someone who has untreated borderline personality traits can feel less like a breakup and more like trying to escape a locked room while being told you’re the one causing the fire.

In this episode, I speak directly to the people who are rarely centered in these conversations: the partners who have been living inside someone else’s emotional emergency. The ones who learned to scan tone, timing, silence, and mood shifts just to survive. The ones whose nervous systems became collateral damage.

This is not an episode about diagnosing or vilifying people with BPD. It is about naming the relational impact of untreated emotional dysregulation, identity collapse, abandonment panic, and rage–care oscillation on the person who loves them.

I talk about:

  • Why leaving can feel impossible without intense guilt and fear
  • How reality erosion, false accusations, and emotional role reversal take hold
  • The cycle I see over and over again: rage → collapse → panic → pleading → accusation
  • Why reassurance makes things worse instead of better
  • How partners slowly disappear while trying to keep someone else regulated
  • Why intent does not cancel impact, even when suffering is real

If you’ve ever felt like you were the safest person in the world one moment and the villain the next—with no transition, no shared reality, and no way to win—this episode is for you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Leaving a relationship with someone who has untreated borderline personality traits can feel less like a breakup and more like trying to escape a locked room while being told you’re the one causing the fire.

In this episode, I speak directly to the people who are rarely centered in these conversations: the partners who have been living inside someone else’s emotional emergency. The ones who learned to scan tone, timing, silence, and mood shifts just to survive. The ones whose nervous systems became collateral damage.

This is not an episode about diagnosing or vilifying people with BPD. It is about naming the relational impact of untreated emotional dysregulation, identity collapse, abandonment panic, and rage–care oscillation on the person who loves them.

I talk about:

  • Why leaving can feel impossible without intense guilt and fear
  • How reality erosion, false accusations, and emotional role reversal take hold
  • The cycle I see over and over again: rage → collapse → panic → pleading → accusation
  • Why reassurance makes things worse instead of better
  • How partners slowly disappear while trying to keep someone else regulated
  • Why intent does not cancel impact, even when suffering is real

If you’ve ever felt like you were the safest person in the world one moment and the villain the next—with no transition, no shared reality, and no way to win—this episode is for you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18348318 Wed, 25 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500 1239 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, hea 242 full false Why They Feel Fine After the Blowup—and You Don’t Why They Feel Fine After the Blowup—and You Don’t In this episode, I talk about what happens after the fight, the discard, or the emotional explosion, and why the aftermath hits you so much harder than it seems to hit them.

I break down a pattern I see constantly in emotionally abusive, high-conflict, and narcissistic dynamics: one person unloads their rage, shame, blame, or dysregulation, and then walks away feeling lighter—while the other person is left carrying it.

I explain why this isn’t about resolution, communication, or vulnerability. It’s about emotional transfer. When someone cannot tolerate their own internal discomfort, they offload it onto you. 

You’re left replaying the conversation, questioning yourself, feeling dysregulated, and trying to make sense of something that was never meant to be repaired.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I talk about what happens after the fight, the discard, or the emotional explosion, and why the aftermath hits you so much harder than it seems to hit them.

I break down a pattern I see constantly in emotionally abusive, high-conflict, and narcissistic dynamics: one person unloads their rage, shame, blame, or dysregulation, and then walks away feeling lighter—while the other person is left carrying it.

I explain why this isn’t about resolution, communication, or vulnerability. It’s about emotional transfer. When someone cannot tolerate their own internal discomfort, they offload it onto you. 

You’re left replaying the conversation, questioning yourself, feeling dysregulated, and trying to make sense of something that was never meant to be repaired.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18172899 Wed, 18 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500 690 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, hea 241 full false Emotional Whiplash, Hypervigilance, and the BPD Cycle of Abuse Emotional Whiplash, Hypervigilance, and the BPD Cycle of Abuse How do you survive—and eventually recognize—the BPD cycle of abuse, especially when you are already exhausted, confused, and questioning yourself.

In this episode, I break down the cycle as it actually unfolds in real life: The intense honeymoon phase, the sudden emotional whiplash, the accusations and character attacks, the breakups and reconciliations, and the long stretch of chaos that keeps you hooked through intermittent relief.

I talk about why this dynamic is so hard to recognize while you’re inside it, why your nervous system becomes hypervigilant, why you can’t sleep, why you’re constantly scanning for tone, mood shifts, and explosions, and why none of this means you’re weak, codependent, or “too sensitive.”

If you’ve ever felt like your body knew something was wrong long before your mind could accept it—this episode is for you.

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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]]> How do you survive—and eventually recognize—the BPD cycle of abuse, especially when you are already exhausted, confused, and questioning yourself.

In this episode, I break down the cycle as it actually unfolds in real life: The intense honeymoon phase, the sudden emotional whiplash, the accusations and character attacks, the breakups and reconciliations, and the long stretch of chaos that keeps you hooked through intermittent relief.

I talk about why this dynamic is so hard to recognize while you’re inside it, why your nervous system becomes hypervigilant, why you can’t sleep, why you’re constantly scanning for tone, mood shifts, and explosions, and why none of this means you’re weak, codependent, or “too sensitive.”

If you’ve ever felt like your body knew something was wrong long before your mind could accept it—this episode is for you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17821035 Wed, 11 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500 1237 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, bpd, borderlinepd, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, 240 full false When They Say You Can’t Communicate When They Say You Can’t Communicate If you’ve ever been told you “can’t communicate” — especially by someone who constantly twists your words or refuses to take accountability — this episode will help you see what’s really happening. I break breaks down how abusers weaponize communication to destabilize you, create confusion, and control the narrative. You’ll learn why phrases like “you’re too blunt” or “you don’t make sense” are often not about clarity at all — they’re about power. 

You can view my courses here: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/collections


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> If you’ve ever been told you “can’t communicate” — especially by someone who constantly twists your words or refuses to take accountability — this episode will help you see what’s really happening. I break breaks down how abusers weaponize communication to destabilize you, create confusion, and control the narrative. You’ll learn why phrases like “you’re too blunt” or “you don’t make sense” are often not about clarity at all — they’re about power. 

You can view my courses here: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/collections


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18002394 Wed, 04 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500 1229 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 239 full false Letting Go of the Why Letting Go of the Why When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, the need for clarity can feel all-consuming. You want to know why they did what they did — why they lied, withdrew, or turned cold. You believe that if you can just understand their behavior, you’ll finally be able to find peace.

Clarity from someone who manipulates and distorts reality rarely exists — at least not in the way survivors hope it will. The search for answers becomes part of the trap, keeping you focused on their motives instead of your own healing.

I break down how the cycle of abuse keeps survivors waiting for closure that never comes, how trauma bonds form from confusion and intermittent tenderness, and how to start shifting your focus from understanding them to understanding yourself.

You’ll learn:

  • Why abusers thrive in ambiguity and confusion
  • How seeking clarity can keep you trauma-bonded
  • What real clarity looks like (and where to find it)
  • How to stop analyzing their behavior and start rebuilding your peace

If you’re stuck in the endless loop of “why,” this episode will help you turn that question inward — toward your boundaries, your self-respect, and your healing.

Mentioned in this episode:

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When you’ve been in an emotionally abusive relationship, the need for clarity can feel all-consuming. You want to know why they did what they did — why they lied, withdrew, or turned cold. You believe that if you can just understand their behavior, you’ll finally be able to find peace.

Clarity from someone who manipulates and distorts reality rarely exists — at least not in the way survivors hope it will. The search for answers becomes part of the trap, keeping you focused on their motives instead of your own healing.

I break down how the cycle of abuse keeps survivors waiting for closure that never comes, how trauma bonds form from confusion and intermittent tenderness, and how to start shifting your focus from understanding them to understanding yourself.

You’ll learn:

  • Why abusers thrive in ambiguity and confusion
  • How seeking clarity can keep you trauma-bonded
  • What real clarity looks like (and where to find it)
  • How to stop analyzing their behavior and start rebuilding your peace

If you’re stuck in the endless loop of “why,” this episode will help you turn that question inward — toward your boundaries, your self-respect, and your healing.

Mentioned in this episode:

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17646885 Wed, 28 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500 960 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 238 full false The Blame Game: A Key Tactic in the Cycle of Emotional Abuse The Blame Game: A Key Tactic in the Cycle of Emotional Abuse This episode unpacks what happens when speaking your truth gets twisted into a blame game. You finally name the pattern—gaslighting, neglect, constant eggshells—only to have the conversation hijacked. Suddenly you’re defending a mistake from years ago, a text tone, or an unrelated incident. Instead of accountability, you’re trapped in deflection, false equivalency, and emotional erasure.

Jessica breaks down how this tactic shows up in everyday conversations, why it’s such a powerful tool of emotional abuse, and how it connects to the larger cycle. She explains DARVO in real time, highlights the difference between repair and image management, and shares ways to recognize when the blame game is pulling you off center.

If you’ve ever left an argument wondering how you became the problem just for naming your pain, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly—and remind you that you are not crazy.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode unpacks what happens when speaking your truth gets twisted into a blame game. You finally name the pattern—gaslighting, neglect, constant eggshells—only to have the conversation hijacked. Suddenly you’re defending a mistake from years ago, a text tone, or an unrelated incident. Instead of accountability, you’re trapped in deflection, false equivalency, and emotional erasure.

Jessica breaks down how this tactic shows up in everyday conversations, why it’s such a powerful tool of emotional abuse, and how it connects to the larger cycle. She explains DARVO in real time, highlights the difference between repair and image management, and shares ways to recognize when the blame game is pulling you off center.

If you’ve ever left an argument wondering how you became the problem just for naming your pain, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly—and remind you that you are not crazy.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17267420 Wed, 21 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500 592 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 237 full false When Co-Parenting Messages Make You Doubt Yourself When Co-Parenting Messages Make You Doubt Yourself In this episode, I talk about a communication pattern that so many people experience in emotionally abusive and high-conflict relationships—but rarely have language for.

It’s the moment when a message sounds reasonable on paper, calm in tone, even “child-focused”… and yet your body reacts immediately.

I walk through what’s happening when someone says all the right things while doing the opposite—hiding control behind concern, and contradiction behind “cooperation.” I use a real client example from co-parenting to show how this plays out in everyday emails about clothing, schedules, school, and parenting decisions—and how quickly it turns into self-doubt, over-explaining, and emotional exhaustion.

In this episode, I share:

  • Why these interactions feel so destabilizing even when they look calm
  • How contradictory communication pulls you into constant self-defense
  • What to look for when words and actions don’t line up
  • Why this isn’t a communication problem—and why you’re not overreacting
  • How to begin tracking patterns so you can stop gaslighting yourself

If you’ve ever read a message and thought, “Why do I feel like I’m losing my footing right now?” this episode is for you.

This episode is a re-record of the Double Speak episode because I did not know there was noise in the background!


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I talk about a communication pattern that so many people experience in emotionally abusive and high-conflict relationships—but rarely have language for.

It’s the moment when a message sounds reasonable on paper, calm in tone, even “child-focused”… and yet your body reacts immediately.

I walk through what’s happening when someone says all the right things while doing the opposite—hiding control behind concern, and contradiction behind “cooperation.” I use a real client example from co-parenting to show how this plays out in everyday emails about clothing, schedules, school, and parenting decisions—and how quickly it turns into self-doubt, over-explaining, and emotional exhaustion.

In this episode, I share:

  • Why these interactions feel so destabilizing even when they look calm
  • How contradictory communication pulls you into constant self-defense
  • What to look for when words and actions don’t line up
  • Why this isn’t a communication problem—and why you’re not overreacting
  • How to begin tracking patterns so you can stop gaslighting yourself

If you’ve ever read a message and thought, “Why do I feel like I’m losing my footing right now?” this episode is for you.

This episode is a re-record of the Double Speak episode because I did not know there was noise in the background!


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18476623 Sat, 17 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500 1315 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, hea 236 full false How Do I Stop Second Guessing Myself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship? How Do I Stop Second Guessing Myself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship? After leaving an abusive relationship, it’s common to find yourself stuck in an exhausting loop of self-doubt. You replay conversations. You question your memory. You wonder if you overreacted—or if maybe it wasn’t that bad.

In this episode, I break down why second-guessing yourself after abuse isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival response. I talk about how abusers train you to distrust your own perceptions and why that confusion lingers even after you leave. I also share practical ways to start rebuilding self-trust, including how to create a reality checklist and a “no-debate list” to help you anchor back into truth when your mind starts to spin.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> After leaving an abusive relationship, it’s common to find yourself stuck in an exhausting loop of self-doubt. You replay conversations. You question your memory. You wonder if you overreacted—or if maybe it wasn’t that bad.

In this episode, I break down why second-guessing yourself after abuse isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival response. I talk about how abusers train you to distrust your own perceptions and why that confusion lingers even after you leave. I also share practical ways to start rebuilding self-trust, including how to create a reality checklist and a “no-debate list” to help you anchor back into truth when your mind starts to spin.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17821038 Wed, 14 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500 1135 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, patreon, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, dom 235 full false The Holiday Breakdown: Why High-Conflict Co-Parenting Becomes Unbearable The Holiday Breakdown: Why High-Conflict Co-Parenting Becomes Unbearable This episode is about why everything feels harder, louder, and more urgent during the holidays when you’re navigating high-conflict divorce or co-parenting with a controlling or volatile person. Why situations that felt barely manageable in October suddenly feel explosive in December. Why your body feels like it’s bracing for impact every single day. And why so many parents reach a breaking point and say, “This can’t wait until January.”

I break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface—how time pressure, court slowdowns, holiday schedules, dysregulated kids, financial stress, and relentless communication collide all at once. How the holidays become a tool for control rather than connection. And why this season so often pushes already-burned-out parents into survival mode.

I am well aware this episode is coming after the Holiday season. I am sorry I could not get it out before!

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode is about why everything feels harder, louder, and more urgent during the holidays when you’re navigating high-conflict divorce or co-parenting with a controlling or volatile person. Why situations that felt barely manageable in October suddenly feel explosive in December. Why your body feels like it’s bracing for impact every single day. And why so many parents reach a breaking point and say, “This can’t wait until January.”

I break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface—how time pressure, court slowdowns, holiday schedules, dysregulated kids, financial stress, and relentless communication collide all at once. How the holidays become a tool for control rather than connection. And why this season so often pushes already-burned-out parents into survival mode.

I am well aware this episode is coming after the Holiday season. I am sorry I could not get it out before!

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18465675 Fri, 09 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0500 1576 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, divorce, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, p 235 full false When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear I unpack a viral TikTok that has been shared hundreds of thousands of times—and why its message is far more dangerous than it first appears.

On the surface, the video presents itself as “relationship advice” about how women can keep men happy. In reality, it reinforces coercive control, sexual entitlement, and the idea that women are responsible for regulating men’s emotions, egos, and loyalty—often at the expense of their own boundaries, bodies, and well-being.

I break down:

  • How this type of content subtly trains women to doubt themselves
  • Why framing women as a man’s “peace” is a red flag, not a virtue
  • How sexual coercion gets normalized and disguised as intimacy advice
  • The link between these messages and trauma bonding
  • Why “respect,” “appreciation,” and “affection” become tools of control in abusive dynamics
  • How women are conditioned to abandon themselves to keep relationships stable

This episode is direct, emotional, and unapologetic. It is not about attacking men. It is about naming narratives that groom women to tolerate neglect, emotional abuse, and coercion—while being told they are the problem.

The video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8y6LN2x/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I unpack a viral TikTok that has been shared hundreds of thousands of times—and why its message is far more dangerous than it first appears.

On the surface, the video presents itself as “relationship advice” about how women can keep men happy. In reality, it reinforces coercive control, sexual entitlement, and the idea that women are responsible for regulating men’s emotions, egos, and loyalty—often at the expense of their own boundaries, bodies, and well-being.

I break down:

  • How this type of content subtly trains women to doubt themselves
  • Why framing women as a man’s “peace” is a red flag, not a virtue
  • How sexual coercion gets normalized and disguised as intimacy advice
  • The link between these messages and trauma bonding
  • Why “respect,” “appreciation,” and “affection” become tools of control in abusive dynamics
  • How women are conditioned to abandon themselves to keep relationships stable

This episode is direct, emotional, and unapologetic. It is not about attacking men. It is about naming narratives that groom women to tolerate neglect, emotional abuse, and coercion—while being told they are the problem.

The video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8y6LN2x/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18403547 Wed, 07 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500 3030 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, tiktok, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, ps 234 full false Instead of Resolutions, I Do This Instead of Resolutions, I Do This In this episode, I’m sharing a simple end-of-year practice I’ve returned to every year since 2017—one that has nothing to do with resolutions, goals, or fixing yourself.

It started in a yoga class on New Year’s Eve, during a time when my life was quietly falling apart. I was deeply depressed, circling the truth that I needed to leave my marriage, and trying to survive day to day. The exercise was simple: two cards. One for the year you’re leaving. One for the year you’re stepping into. Not achievements. Not intentions. Just words.

I’m walking you through how this practice helped me tell the truth about what a year actually felt like—longing, fear, disconnection, grief—and how naming that reality grounded me instead of shaming me. When you’ve lived in abuse or survival mode, your inner compass gets scrambled. Your nervous system isn’t thinking about the future. It’s trying to stay safe. So when people ask about goals or resolutions, everything can freeze.

This practice doesn’t ask you to know the future. It asks you to tell the truth about the present. 

Here is the Substack link: https://open.substack.com/pub/jessicaknightcoaching/p/instead-of-resolutions-i-do-this?r=1ecj9w&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I’m sharing a simple end-of-year practice I’ve returned to every year since 2017—one that has nothing to do with resolutions, goals, or fixing yourself.

It started in a yoga class on New Year’s Eve, during a time when my life was quietly falling apart. I was deeply depressed, circling the truth that I needed to leave my marriage, and trying to survive day to day. The exercise was simple: two cards. One for the year you’re leaving. One for the year you’re stepping into. Not achievements. Not intentions. Just words.

I’m walking you through how this practice helped me tell the truth about what a year actually felt like—longing, fear, disconnection, grief—and how naming that reality grounded me instead of shaming me. When you’ve lived in abuse or survival mode, your inner compass gets scrambled. Your nervous system isn’t thinking about the future. It’s trying to stay safe. So when people ask about goals or resolutions, everything can freeze.

This practice doesn’t ask you to know the future. It asks you to tell the truth about the present. 

Here is the Substack link: https://open.substack.com/pub/jessicaknightcoaching/p/instead-of-resolutions-i-do-this?r=1ecj9w&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18348320 Wed, 31 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500 940 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 233 full false Dreading the New Year Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing Dreading the New Year Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing This episode is not about fresh starts, resolutions, or manifesting a better year.

It’s for the people who feel heavy, uneasy, or scared as the year changes.

I’m sharing honestly about what the end of the year felt like for me when my life didn’t feel safe—when I was still inside emotionally abusive relationships, even though I didn’t have that language yet. I talk about the dread that replaced reflection, the exhaustion of constant self-editing, the panic attacks, the private crying, the way I negotiated my own needs just to keep the peace.

There are no tidy lessons here. This episode isn’t meant to inspire you to do more or be better.

We talk about:

  • Why New Year’s can feel threatening instead of hopeful when your life has felt unpredictable or unsafe
  • How emotional abuse intensifies during holidays and end-of-year reflection
  • The slow realization of “I can’t keep living like this” and why that isn’t failure
  • Trauma bonds, self-doubt, and the moment your body starts telling the truth
  • Why hope doesn’t have to be loud to be real

If the bravest thing you can do right now is stop gaslighting yourself, this episode is for you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode is not about fresh starts, resolutions, or manifesting a better year.

It’s for the people who feel heavy, uneasy, or scared as the year changes.

I’m sharing honestly about what the end of the year felt like for me when my life didn’t feel safe—when I was still inside emotionally abusive relationships, even though I didn’t have that language yet. I talk about the dread that replaced reflection, the exhaustion of constant self-editing, the panic attacks, the private crying, the way I negotiated my own needs just to keep the peace.

There are no tidy lessons here. This episode isn’t meant to inspire you to do more or be better.

We talk about:

  • Why New Year’s can feel threatening instead of hopeful when your life has felt unpredictable or unsafe
  • How emotional abuse intensifies during holidays and end-of-year reflection
  • The slow realization of “I can’t keep living like this” and why that isn’t failure
  • Trauma bonds, self-doubt, and the moment your body starts telling the truth
  • Why hope doesn’t have to be loud to be real

If the bravest thing you can do right now is stop gaslighting yourself, this episode is for you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18348319 Wed, 24 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1193 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 232 full false The Holidays, the Cycle of Abuse, and the Moment You Finally See It The Holidays, the Cycle of Abuse, and the Moment You Finally See It The holiday season has a way of revealing what we’ve been trying to ignore. When the pressure to perform, host, or appear “happy” collides with the chaos of an emotionally abusive relationship, everything that’s been buried rises to the surface.

In this episode, I unpack why abuse patterns intensify around the holidays — and how to recognize the moment you finally see the cycle for what it is.

I also share ways to start naming the truth, release self-blame, and reclaim your nervous system — even if you’re still in the relationship.

If this resonates, explore Unhooked private podcast and course on breaking the cycle of abuse, or connect for one-on-one coaching at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> The holiday season has a way of revealing what we’ve been trying to ignore. When the pressure to perform, host, or appear “happy” collides with the chaos of an emotionally abusive relationship, everything that’s been buried rises to the surface.

In this episode, I unpack why abuse patterns intensify around the holidays — and how to recognize the moment you finally see the cycle for what it is.

I also share ways to start naming the truth, release self-blame, and reclaim your nervous system — even if you’re still in the relationship.

If this resonates, explore Unhooked private podcast and course on breaking the cycle of abuse, or connect for one-on-one coaching at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18172987 Wed, 17 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1126 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 231 full false Why the Holidays Feel Heavy (Even When You’ve Left) Why the Holidays Feel Heavy (Even When You’ve Left) This episode explores what happens when the holidays don’t feel magical—when they instead trigger memories of tension, performance, and survival. I reflect on how November and December can awaken body memories of chaos, control, and grief, even years after leaving an abusive relationship.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode explores what happens when the holidays don’t feel magical—when they instead trigger memories of tension, performance, and survival. I reflect on how November and December can awaken body memories of chaos, control, and grief, even years after leaving an abusive relationship.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18178427 Wed, 10 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1507 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 230 full false Double Speak: When Coercive Control Hides Behind "Concern" Double Speak: When Coercive Control Hides Behind "Concern" In this episode, I talk about one of the most confusing and insidious forms of manipulation survivors face in high-conflict relationships and co-parenting: Double Speak.

It’s that moment when control hides behind concern — when an email, message, or conversation sounds calm and reasonable to everyone else, but your body knows something is off. It’s when someone says, “I just want what’s best for our child,” while taking positions that go directly against your child’s needs or the agreements already in place.

I break down how Double Speak operates as a tactic of coercive control — how it creates contradiction, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion — and how to start spotting it before you’re pulled into another circular argument. I share real-world examples from co-parenting cases, explain how this pattern shows up in court, and offer practical strategies for documenting, responding, and staying grounded when someone twists words to maintain power.

If you’ve ever felt like you were being gaslit by “reasonable” communication, this episode will help you name the manipulation — and reclaim your clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I talk about one of the most confusing and insidious forms of manipulation survivors face in high-conflict relationships and co-parenting: Double Speak.

It’s that moment when control hides behind concern — when an email, message, or conversation sounds calm and reasonable to everyone else, but your body knows something is off. It’s when someone says, “I just want what’s best for our child,” while taking positions that go directly against your child’s needs or the agreements already in place.

I break down how Double Speak operates as a tactic of coercive control — how it creates contradiction, self-doubt, and emotional exhaustion — and how to start spotting it before you’re pulled into another circular argument. I share real-world examples from co-parenting cases, explain how this pattern shows up in court, and offer practical strategies for documenting, responding, and staying grounded when someone twists words to maintain power.

If you’ve ever felt like you were being gaslit by “reasonable” communication, this episode will help you name the manipulation — and reclaim your clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18060521 Wed, 03 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1315 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coercive control, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, hea 229 full false “You’re the Only One Who Has a Problem With Me” “You’re the Only One Who Has a Problem With Me” In today’s episode, we’re unpacking a phrase almost every survivor has heard at some point: “You’re the only one who has a problem with me.”

It’s one of the most subtle yet powerful forms of emotional manipulation — the kind that makes you question your reality, your reactions, and even your goodness.
 When someone says this, they aren’t giving you perspective — they’re stripping you of credibility. They’re trying to convince you that your pain doesn’t matter unless other people agree with it.

In this episode, I share how abusers use this tactic to isolate and silence you, the emotional math behind it, and how you can start trusting your own experience again.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In today’s episode, we’re unpacking a phrase almost every survivor has heard at some point: “You’re the only one who has a problem with me.”

It’s one of the most subtle yet powerful forms of emotional manipulation — the kind that makes you question your reality, your reactions, and even your goodness.
 When someone says this, they aren’t giving you perspective — they’re stripping you of credibility. They’re trying to convince you that your pain doesn’t matter unless other people agree with it.

In this episode, I share how abusers use this tactic to isolate and silence you, the emotional math behind it, and how you can start trusting your own experience again.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17907694 Wed, 26 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 928 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, bpd, borderline, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse 227 full false When Everything Feels Like a Misunderstanding When Everything Feels Like a Misunderstanding Abusers often hide behind confusion — denying intent, twisting reality, and framing your hurt as an overreaction. What starts as a simple disagreement turns into you questioning your memory, your emotions, and your sanity. 

I share how this pattern plays out in everyday moments, from small promises broken to emotional gaslighting that keeps survivors trapped in cycles of guilt and self-doubt.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I don’t even know what’s real anymore,” this episode will help you understand why — and remind you that what you feel is valid, even when someone insists it’s not.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Abusers often hide behind confusion — denying intent, twisting reality, and framing your hurt as an overreaction. What starts as a simple disagreement turns into you questioning your memory, your emotions, and your sanity. 

I share how this pattern plays out in everyday moments, from small promises broken to emotional gaslighting that keeps survivors trapped in cycles of guilt and self-doubt.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I don’t even know what’s real anymore,” this episode will help you understand why — and remind you that what you feel is valid, even when someone insists it’s not.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17355625 Wed, 19 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1250 226 full false How to Document DARVO in Family Court How to Document DARVO in Family Court This episode builds off of last weeks where I disussed DARVO in Family Court. I cover exactly how to capture DARVO behavior in a way that lawyers, GALs, and court professionals can actually understand.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Identify the denial, attack, and role reversal phases in real-time.
  • Translate emotional chaos into factual, court-readable documentation.
  • Recognize when the abuser is using the legal system as a weapon.
  • Communicate patterns to your attorney without being dismissed or labeled “high conflict.”

This episode will help you see that what’s happening isn’t “miscommunication” — it’s manipulation, and you can show the truth, clearly and strategically, without losing yourself in the process.

For more support, visit emotionalabusecoach.com and https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/documentation

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode builds off of last weeks where I disussed DARVO in Family Court. I cover exactly how to capture DARVO behavior in a way that lawyers, GALs, and court professionals can actually understand.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Identify the denial, attack, and role reversal phases in real-time.
  • Translate emotional chaos into factual, court-readable documentation.
  • Recognize when the abuser is using the legal system as a weapon.
  • Communicate patterns to your attorney without being dismissed or labeled “high conflict.”

This episode will help you see that what’s happening isn’t “miscommunication” — it’s manipulation, and you can show the truth, clearly and strategically, without losing yourself in the process.

For more support, visit emotionalabusecoach.com and https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/documentation

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18002458 Fri, 14 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1253 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, divorce, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, p 225 full false When the Court Feels Like the Abuser: Family Court Awareness Month and the Fight for Safety When the Court Feels Like the Abuser: Family Court Awareness Month and the Fight for Safety November is Family Court Awareness Month, a time to shed light on a system that too often fails to protect survivors and their children. In this episode, I explore what happens when a court system that frequently reframes abuse as “conflict,” rewards manipulation, and punishes protective parents for trying to keep their kids safe.

I walk through:

  • What Family Court Awareness Month is and why it matters.
  • How the legal system can retraumatize survivors and reward abusers who appear calm, logical, and “reasonable.”
  • The emotional and strategic toll of trying to protect your child while being gaslit by institutions meant to help.
  • How survivors are adapting—learning to document, regulate, and think strategically to protect themselves and their children.

If you’re currently navigating family court, divorce, or co-parenting with a high-conflict person, I offer one-on-one coaching and specialized strategy sessions to help you document, organize, and stay grounded through the process.

👉 Explore one-on-one coaching, courses, and survivor resources at emotionalabusecoach.com and highconflictdivorcecoaching.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> November is Family Court Awareness Month, a time to shed light on a system that too often fails to protect survivors and their children. In this episode, I explore what happens when a court system that frequently reframes abuse as “conflict,” rewards manipulation, and punishes protective parents for trying to keep their kids safe.

I walk through:

  • What Family Court Awareness Month is and why it matters.
  • How the legal system can retraumatize survivors and reward abusers who appear calm, logical, and “reasonable.”
  • The emotional and strategic toll of trying to protect your child while being gaslit by institutions meant to help.
  • How survivors are adapting—learning to document, regulate, and think strategically to protect themselves and their children.

If you’re currently navigating family court, divorce, or co-parenting with a high-conflict person, I offer one-on-one coaching and specialized strategy sessions to help you document, organize, and stay grounded through the process.

👉 Explore one-on-one coaching, courses, and survivor resources at emotionalabusecoach.com and highconflictdivorcecoaching.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18152052 Wed, 12 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 945 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 224 full false DARVO in Divorce — When the Abuser Becomes the “Victim” DARVO in Divorce — When the Abuser Becomes the “Victim” If you’ve ever felt like your abuser managed to twist the truth so completely that you ended up defending yourself against their behavior — this episode is for you.

Today, I’m breaking down DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — and how it shows up in divorce and custody cases. DARVO is psychological warfare disguised as concern. It’s the reason you end up explaining, over and over, why following a court order isn’t “withholding,” or why setting a boundary isn’t “abuse.”

We’ll walk through:

  • What DARVO actually means — and why it’s so effective in family court.
  • Real examples of how it plays out in co-parenting communication.
  • How to respond when your protective actions are reframed as “control.”
  • Practical steps to document and communicate clearly when this pattern appears.

If you’ve been accused of being the problem simply for following the plan, this episode will help you see what’s really happening — and how to get back to solid ground.

You can find the documentation course, my “Divorcing a Narcissist 101” course, and more tools to support your case and your nervous system at emotionalabusecoach.com
or highconflictdivorcecoaching.com
.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> If you’ve ever felt like your abuser managed to twist the truth so completely that you ended up defending yourself against their behavior — this episode is for you.

Today, I’m breaking down DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — and how it shows up in divorce and custody cases. DARVO is psychological warfare disguised as concern. It’s the reason you end up explaining, over and over, why following a court order isn’t “withholding,” or why setting a boundary isn’t “abuse.”

We’ll walk through:

  • What DARVO actually means — and why it’s so effective in family court.
  • Real examples of how it plays out in co-parenting communication.
  • How to respond when your protective actions are reframed as “control.”
  • Practical steps to document and communicate clearly when this pattern appears.

If you’ve been accused of being the problem simply for following the plan, this episode will help you see what’s really happening — and how to get back to solid ground.

You can find the documentation course, my “Divorcing a Narcissist 101” course, and more tools to support your case and your nervous system at emotionalabusecoach.com
or highconflictdivorcecoaching.com
.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-18002457 Fri, 07 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1428 domesticviolence, divorce, highconflictdivorce, divorcenarcissist, divorcing, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissis 223 full false When You Become the Villain in Their Story When You Become the Villain in Their Story Not every discard looks like a dramatic blow-up. Sometimes it comes quietly — through silence, stonewalling, and indifference. That kind of ending can be even more destabilizing, because it leaves no scene to point to, only the hollow feeling that something is over.

This episode unpacks what it means to be discarded in this way, how it twists reality and casts you as the villain, and why holding your boundaries in the face of emotional withdrawal is an act of self-preservation. If you’ve ever been left with the ache of “Did that really happen?” this conversation will help you see the pattern clearly and remind you that you’re not crazy for feeling the way you do.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Not every discard looks like a dramatic blow-up. Sometimes it comes quietly — through silence, stonewalling, and indifference. That kind of ending can be even more destabilizing, because it leaves no scene to point to, only the hollow feeling that something is over.

This episode unpacks what it means to be discarded in this way, how it twists reality and casts you as the villain, and why holding your boundaries in the face of emotional withdrawal is an act of self-preservation. If you’ve ever been left with the ache of “Did that really happen?” this conversation will help you see the pattern clearly and remind you that you’re not crazy for feeling the way you do.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17646883 Wed, 05 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1932 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 222 full false How Do I Stop Craving Them? And Have They Really Changed? How Do I Stop Craving Them? And Have They Really Changed? This week, I’m sharing a private Q&A episode usually reserved for my Patreon and Substack members. I wanted to make this one public because it speaks to something so many survivors struggle with: the pull of the trauma bond, the shame that lingers, and the confusion around whether someone has truly changed.

In this episode, I answer two powerful listener questions:

1️⃣ How do I stop the shame and craving when I’m still trauma bonded?
2️⃣ How do I know if my ex is really changing — or if it’s just the cycle repeating itself?

We talk about what’s really happening in your body when you crave the “good version” of them, how to starve the cycle without starving yourself, and how to recognize when “healing language” is being used as another form of manipulation.

If this episode resonates, there’s a whole archive of private Q&As, coaching deep dives, and exclusive content waiting for you on Patreon and Substack. You can submit your own questions, join private discussions, and get access to extended episodes and strategy sessions I don’t share anywhere else.

📍Patreon: patreon.com/youarenotcrazy

💻 Coaching, courses, and resources: emotionalabusecoach.com

📰 Substack: jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com

 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This week, I’m sharing a private Q&A episode usually reserved for my Patreon and Substack members. I wanted to make this one public because it speaks to something so many survivors struggle with: the pull of the trauma bond, the shame that lingers, and the confusion around whether someone has truly changed.

In this episode, I answer two powerful listener questions:

1️⃣ How do I stop the shame and craving when I’m still trauma bonded?
2️⃣ How do I know if my ex is really changing — or if it’s just the cycle repeating itself?

We talk about what’s really happening in your body when you crave the “good version” of them, how to starve the cycle without starving yourself, and how to recognize when “healing language” is being used as another form of manipulation.

If this episode resonates, there’s a whole archive of private Q&As, coaching deep dives, and exclusive content waiting for you on Patreon and Substack. You can submit your own questions, join private discussions, and get access to extended episodes and strategy sessions I don’t share anywhere else.

📍Patreon: patreon.com/youarenotcrazy

💻 Coaching, courses, and resources: emotionalabusecoach.com

📰 Substack: jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com

 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17821030 Fri, 31 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1515 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 221 full false Abusers Don’t See Themselves as Abusers Abusers Don’t See Themselves as Abusers I explain how abusers redefine what abuse is, minimize their actions, and use comparisons to “someone worse” as a shield from accountability. I break down how they weaponize therapeutic language, flip the script so boundaries look like cruelty, and create a public image that leaves survivors questioning their own reality.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I explain how abusers redefine what abuse is, minimize their actions, and use comparisons to “someone worse” as a shield from accountability. I break down how they weaponize therapeutic language, flip the script so boundaries look like cruelty, and create a public image that leaves survivors questioning their own reality.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17308027 Wed, 29 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 616 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 220 full false You’re Not Crazy—You’re Trauma Bonded You’re Not Crazy—You’re Trauma Bonded Trauma bonds aren’t about shared hardship or difficult experiences. They’re cycles of abuse and relief that hook your brain and body like an addiction. That’s why it feels impossible to just “get over it.”

In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really is—and what it isn’t. I talk about how intermittent reinforcement keeps survivors stuck, why naming it matters, and why treating it like an addiction can open a path back to yourself.

You’ll hear practical ways to start loosening the bond, even if you’re not ready for big steps yet. Whether that means muting their social media, setting one small boundary, or shifting your focus back to your own needs, this episode is here to remind you: you’re not crazy, you’re trauma bonded—and you can begin to reclaim your power one choice at a time.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Trauma bonds aren’t about shared hardship or difficult experiences. They’re cycles of abuse and relief that hook your brain and body like an addiction. That’s why it feels impossible to just “get over it.”

In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really is—and what it isn’t. I talk about how intermittent reinforcement keeps survivors stuck, why naming it matters, and why treating it like an addiction can open a path back to yourself.

You’ll hear practical ways to start loosening the bond, even if you’re not ready for big steps yet. Whether that means muting their social media, setting one small boundary, or shifting your focus back to your own needs, this episode is here to remind you: you’re not crazy, you’re trauma bonded—and you can begin to reclaim your power one choice at a time.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17821047 Fri, 24 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1071 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 219 full false False Accountability and the Control Behind It False Accountability and the Control Behind It Control in an abusive relationship often hides behind the illusion of change. They might say the words you’ve been waiting to hear—"I know I hurt you," "I’m working on myself"—but without real accountability, it’s not growth. It’s performance.

This episode unpacks how shame drives manipulative behavior, why false accountability keeps you trapped, and how tactics like gaslighting, projection, and DARVO are used to destabilize you. It also explores the difference between genuine conflict resolution and the subtle ways control masquerades as care, calmness, or insight.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling like your pain became the problem, you’ll learn how to spot the pattern, trust your reality, and start reclaiming your clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Control in an abusive relationship often hides behind the illusion of change. They might say the words you’ve been waiting to hear—"I know I hurt you," "I’m working on myself"—but without real accountability, it’s not growth. It’s performance.

This episode unpacks how shame drives manipulative behavior, why false accountability keeps you trapped, and how tactics like gaslighting, projection, and DARVO are used to destabilize you. It also explores the difference between genuine conflict resolution and the subtle ways control masquerades as care, calmness, or insight.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling like your pain became the problem, you’ll learn how to spot the pattern, trust your reality, and start reclaiming your clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17410841 Wed, 22 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1109 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 218 full false You Can’t Talk to Your Lawyer Like They’re Your Friend You Can’t Talk to Your Lawyer Like They’re Your Friend Family court is a system that doesn’t run on empathy — and that can be one of the hardest realities for survivors to face. In this episode, I share the lessons I’ve learned about communicating with attorneys while navigating years of custody battles and post-separation abuse.

You’ll hear why sending every message, email, or update in real time can backfire, how to frame patterns in a way that lawyers and judges can’t ignore, and what it means to “play chess instead of checkers” when you’re up against an abusive ex. I also talk about the impossible balancing act survivors are forced into: document everything, but don’t be “too emotional.”

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, minimized, or like your lawyer just doesn’t get it, this conversation will give you strategies to shift how you present your case — without abandoning your truth.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Family court is a system that doesn’t run on empathy — and that can be one of the hardest realities for survivors to face. In this episode, I share the lessons I’ve learned about communicating with attorneys while navigating years of custody battles and post-separation abuse.

You’ll hear why sending every message, email, or update in real time can backfire, how to frame patterns in a way that lawyers and judges can’t ignore, and what it means to “play chess instead of checkers” when you’re up against an abusive ex. I also talk about the impossible balancing act survivors are forced into: document everything, but don’t be “too emotional.”

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, minimized, or like your lawyer just doesn’t get it, this conversation will give you strategies to shift how you present your case — without abandoning your truth.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16826530 Fri, 17 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1168 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 217 full false What I Learned from Loving a Narcissist (Even Though It Nearly Broke Me) What I Learned from Loving a Narcissist (Even Though It Nearly Broke Me) When you’re trauma bonded, wanting them isn’t about love—it’s about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they’re toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

We’ll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn’t the same as craving love. I’ll share real strategies to interrupt the cycle, reframe your thoughts, and take the long-game approach toward freedom—without shaming yourself for how hard it feels.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of wanting the very person who hurt you, this is your reminder: the craving is not proof you should go back.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When you’re trauma bonded, wanting them isn’t about love—it’s about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they’re toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

We’ll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn’t the same as craving love. I’ll share real strategies to interrupt the cycle, reframe your thoughts, and take the long-game approach toward freedom—without shaming yourself for how hard it feels.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of wanting the very person who hurt you, this is your reminder: the craving is not proof you should go back.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17267413 Wed, 15 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1050 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 216 full false High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting This episode takes a deep dive into the realities of co-parenting and divorcing a high-conflict person. I answer some of the most common questions I hear from survivors—like how to handle manipulation of your child, what to do when the other parent lies about you, what parallel parenting really looks like, and how to survive smear campaigns and legal abuse.

You’ll hear the patterns I see over and over again in these cases—fake “redemption arcs,” crisis creation before court, love-bombing during divorce, and more—and how to recognize them without getting hooked. This isn’t legal advice; it’s strategy, grounded in lived experience and years of coaching people through the marathon of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse.

If you’re navigating chaos, this episode will help you see the landscape more clearly, name what’s happening, and start building your own counter-strategy centered on your safety, your sanity, and your long-term peace.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode takes a deep dive into the realities of co-parenting and divorcing a high-conflict person. I answer some of the most common questions I hear from survivors—like how to handle manipulation of your child, what to do when the other parent lies about you, what parallel parenting really looks like, and how to survive smear campaigns and legal abuse.

You’ll hear the patterns I see over and over again in these cases—fake “redemption arcs,” crisis creation before court, love-bombing during divorce, and more—and how to recognize them without getting hooked. This isn’t legal advice; it’s strategy, grounded in lived experience and years of coaching people through the marathon of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse.

If you’re navigating chaos, this episode will help you see the landscape more clearly, name what’s happening, and start building your own counter-strategy centered on your safety, your sanity, and your long-term peace.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17391643 Fri, 10 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1927 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 215 full false Inside the Trauma Bond: Why I Couldn’t Leave (and How I Finally Did) Inside the Trauma Bond: Why I Couldn’t Leave (and How I Finally Did) I’m sharing the truth about a trauma bond I was in—how it formed, why I stayed, and what it took to finally break free. This isn’t a highlight reel or a neatly packaged story. It’s the messy reality of living in a cycle of harm and hope, of being pulled in and pushed away, of mistaking control for care.

If you’ve ever been asked, “Why didn’t you just leave?”—or asked yourself the same thing—I want you to know this episode isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding. It’s about the hooks that keep you tied to someone who hurts you, the ways your nervous system gets rewired to see pain as love, and the hope that becomes the glue keeping you in place.

I’ll walk you through the moments I clung to, the patterns I couldn’t see until I was out, and the shift that finally allowed me to step away. My hope is that by the end, you’ll see yourself more clearly—whether you’re still in it, rebuilding after it, or trying to make sense of it years later.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I’m sharing the truth about a trauma bond I was in—how it formed, why I stayed, and what it took to finally break free. This isn’t a highlight reel or a neatly packaged story. It’s the messy reality of living in a cycle of harm and hope, of being pulled in and pushed away, of mistaking control for care.

If you’ve ever been asked, “Why didn’t you just leave?”—or asked yourself the same thing—I want you to know this episode isn’t about shame. It’s about understanding. It’s about the hooks that keep you tied to someone who hurts you, the ways your nervous system gets rewired to see pain as love, and the hope that becomes the glue keeping you in place.

I’ll walk you through the moments I clung to, the patterns I couldn’t see until I was out, and the shift that finally allowed me to step away. My hope is that by the end, you’ll see yourself more clearly—whether you’re still in it, rebuilding after it, or trying to make sense of it years later.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17647374 Wed, 08 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 2456 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 214 full false Craving Relief: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Impossible to Break Craving Relief: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Impossible to Break When you’re trauma bonded, wanting them isn’t about love—it’s about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they’re toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

We’ll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn’t the same as craving love.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When you’re trauma bonded, wanting them isn’t about love—it’s about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they’re toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

We’ll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn’t the same as craving love.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17211187 Wed, 01 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1322 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 213 full false How to Work With Me: Coaching, Courses, and What’s Ahead How to Work With Me: Coaching, Courses, and What’s Ahead This episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I’m sharing updates, announcements, and all the ways you can work with me.

If you’re new here—or wondering what I offer beyond the podcast—you’ll hear about:

  • Upcoming divorce-focused episodes and why I’m expanding the podcast to include them.
  • My Substack and daily writing for survivors.
  • Self-paced courses on emotional abuse, boundaries, documentation for court, and breaking trauma bonds.
  • Coaching options: intro calls, validation calls, and ongoing support.
  • Why personalized, trauma-informed support matters and how to connect directly.

Whether you’re seeking clarity, ongoing guidance, or just curious about my work, this episode gives you a clear map of what’s available.

🌐 Learn more at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I’m sharing updates, announcements, and all the ways you can work with me.

If you’re new here—or wondering what I offer beyond the podcast—you’ll hear about:

  • Upcoming divorce-focused episodes and why I’m expanding the podcast to include them.
  • My Substack and daily writing for survivors.
  • Self-paced courses on emotional abuse, boundaries, documentation for court, and breaking trauma bonds.
  • Coaching options: intro calls, validation calls, and ongoing support.
  • Why personalized, trauma-informed support matters and how to connect directly.

Whether you’re seeking clarity, ongoing guidance, or just curious about my work, this episode gives you a clear map of what’s available.

🌐 Learn more at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17918415 Mon, 29 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1095 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 212 full false The Cycle of Sexual Coercion The Cycle of Sexual Coercion Sexual coercion is one of the most misunderstood and silenced forms of abuse. It’s not seduction. It’s not miscommunication. It’s pressure, guilt, manipulation, and punishment used to get sex when you’ve already said no, shown hesitation, or felt unsafe. It’s not about intimacy—it’s about power and control.

This is a bonus episode from Unhooked—my private podcast series for survivors breaking free from emotional abuse.

In this episode, I break down how sexual coercion works, the subtle (and not‑so‑subtle) ways it shows up, and how it maps directly into the cycle of abuse. You’ll learn:

  • What sexual coercion actually is—and what it isn’t
  • Examples of how it sounds and why survivors often can’t name it in the moment
  • How coercion weaves through the tension‑building, incident, reconciliation, and calm stages of the abuse cycle
  • The emotional and body‑based trauma responses it creates, including dissociation and loss of sexual agency
  • Why “yes” isn’t real consent if it’s given out of fear, exhaustion, guilt, or to avoid conflict

If you’ve experienced this but never had the words for it, this episode will help you see it, name it, and understand that it is abuse.

This bonus episode is part of Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse—a private podcast where we break down each phase of the abuse cycle, explore trauma bonding in depth, and help you reclaim your clarity, your nervous system, and your sense of self.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Sexual coercion is one of the most misunderstood and silenced forms of abuse. It’s not seduction. It’s not miscommunication. It’s pressure, guilt, manipulation, and punishment used to get sex when you’ve already said no, shown hesitation, or felt unsafe. It’s not about intimacy—it’s about power and control.

This is a bonus episode from Unhooked—my private podcast series for survivors breaking free from emotional abuse.

In this episode, I break down how sexual coercion works, the subtle (and not‑so‑subtle) ways it shows up, and how it maps directly into the cycle of abuse. You’ll learn:

  • What sexual coercion actually is—and what it isn’t
  • Examples of how it sounds and why survivors often can’t name it in the moment
  • How coercion weaves through the tension‑building, incident, reconciliation, and calm stages of the abuse cycle
  • The emotional and body‑based trauma responses it creates, including dissociation and loss of sexual agency
  • Why “yes” isn’t real consent if it’s given out of fear, exhaustion, guilt, or to avoid conflict

If you’ve experienced this but never had the words for it, this episode will help you see it, name it, and understand that it is abuse.

This bonus episode is part of Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse—a private podcast where we break down each phase of the abuse cycle, explore trauma bonding in depth, and help you reclaim your clarity, your nervous system, and your sense of self.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17297140 Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400 555 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 211 full false The “Nice” Version Isn’t Proof They’ve Changed The “Nice” Version Isn’t Proof They’ve Changed They’re kind again… so does that mean they’ve changed? In this episode, we unpack why the “nice” version is part of the abuse cycle — and how to tell the difference between real change and a calculated reset.

One of the most confusing parts of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the cruelty suddenly stops — and the “nice” version of the person shows up. Maybe they’re warmer, calmer, even kind for a while. You start to wonder… are they finally changing? Was I wrong about the abuse?

In this episode, I break down why that “nice” version isn’t separate from the abuse — it’s part of the cycle. We’ll explore how kindness can be used as a tactic, why it often appears when you’re pulling away or setting boundaries, and how intermittent reinforcement keeps you hooked in the trauma bond.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> They’re kind again… so does that mean they’ve changed? In this episode, we unpack why the “nice” version is part of the abuse cycle — and how to tell the difference between real change and a calculated reset.

One of the most confusing parts of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the cruelty suddenly stops — and the “nice” version of the person shows up. Maybe they’re warmer, calmer, even kind for a while. You start to wonder… are they finally changing? Was I wrong about the abuse?

In this episode, I break down why that “nice” version isn’t separate from the abuse — it’s part of the cycle. We’ll explore how kindness can be used as a tactic, why it often appears when you’re pulling away or setting boundaries, and how intermittent reinforcement keeps you hooked in the trauma bond.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17391639 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400 909 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 210 full false From Love Bombing to Losing Myself — and Finding My Way Back From Love Bombing to Losing Myself — and Finding My Way Back In this raw and validating conversation, fitness expert and former pro athlete Holly Rilinger shares her first public telling of the emotional abuse she endured inside a long-term relationship that looked perfect on the outside.

Holly opens up about how the relationship began with admiration and love bombing, then slowly eroded her confidence, identity, and sense of self. From subtle criticisms about her appearance to the complete absence of repair after conflict, she found herself living in constant fatigue, self-doubt, and silence — all while running a successful fitness business and motivating others to feel strong in their own skin.

The discussion unpacks the patterns of narcissistic abuse, the manufactured discard, the loss of identity, and the physical toll of living in fight-or-flight for years. Holly reflects on the moment a friend finally witnessed the behavior, how she began waking up to the truth, and the small ways she’s reclaiming her body, voice, and power in the seven months since leaving.

If you’ve ever questioned your reality in a relationship that looked “fine” to the outside world but felt like slow erasure on the inside, Holly’s story will remind you that you’re not crazy — and that healing is possible.

You can follow Holly here: https://www.theliftedmethodcoaching.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this raw and validating conversation, fitness expert and former pro athlete Holly Rilinger shares her first public telling of the emotional abuse she endured inside a long-term relationship that looked perfect on the outside.

Holly opens up about how the relationship began with admiration and love bombing, then slowly eroded her confidence, identity, and sense of self. From subtle criticisms about her appearance to the complete absence of repair after conflict, she found herself living in constant fatigue, self-doubt, and silence — all while running a successful fitness business and motivating others to feel strong in their own skin.

The discussion unpacks the patterns of narcissistic abuse, the manufactured discard, the loss of identity, and the physical toll of living in fight-or-flight for years. Holly reflects on the moment a friend finally witnessed the behavior, how she began waking up to the truth, and the small ways she’s reclaiming her body, voice, and power in the seven months since leaving.

If you’ve ever questioned your reality in a relationship that looked “fine” to the outside world but felt like slow erasure on the inside, Holly’s story will remind you that you’re not crazy — and that healing is possible.

You can follow Holly here: https://www.theliftedmethodcoaching.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17646882 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400 3431 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, BPd, clusterB, bpdlovedones, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, d 209 full false Am I Overreacting? Am I Overreacting? Most survivors don’t start by asking “Is this abuse?” They ask “Why do I feel crazy?”

This episode dives deep into the emotional confusion that defines so many abusive dynamics—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, and chronic invalidation are at play. If you’ve ever found yourself apologizing after being hurt, doubting your memory, or shrinking yourself to avoid their reactions, you’re not alone—and you’re not overreacting.

We’ll explore:

  • How emotional abuse trains you to question your reality
  • The difference between lying and gaslighting—and why the distinction matters
  • Subtle red flags that keep you stuck in self-blame
  • The questions that help you reconnect with your truth

This episode is here to help you name the thing you haven’t been able to name, and to remind you: confusion is a tactic. 

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Most survivors don’t start by asking “Is this abuse?” They ask “Why do I feel crazy?”

This episode dives deep into the emotional confusion that defines so many abusive dynamics—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, and chronic invalidation are at play. If you’ve ever found yourself apologizing after being hurt, doubting your memory, or shrinking yourself to avoid their reactions, you’re not alone—and you’re not overreacting.

We’ll explore:

  • How emotional abuse trains you to question your reality
  • The difference between lying and gaslighting—and why the distinction matters
  • Subtle red flags that keep you stuck in self-blame
  • The questions that help you reconnect with your truth

This episode is here to help you name the thing you haven’t been able to name, and to remind you: confusion is a tactic. 

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17383868 Wed, 03 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400 764 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 208 full false When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse Dr. Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the most confusing and painful parts of surviving a relationship with someone who has Cluster B traits, including narcissistic, antisocial, borderline, and histrionic personality disorders.

We explore:

  • The neurological and psychological reasons why people with Cluster B disorders don’t change
  • Why survivors feel crazy, confused, and exhausted—and why that’s by design
  • How splitting, emotional dysregulation, and weaponized remorse show up in real relationships
  • The difference between low capacity and emotional immaturity vs. willful abuse
  • How to tell if the “person you miss” was ever real—or just the hook
  • Why grief work is essential when letting go of the fantasy version of who you thought they were

Dr. Kerry offers insight from both her clinical background and lived experience. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why won’t they change?” or “Was any of it real?”—this episode will help you understand why the answer is more devastating and liberating than you thought.

Learn more about Dr. Kerry McAvoy’s work and grab her book Love You More at kerrymcavoyphd.com.
To join her Toxic-Free Relationship Club

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Dr. Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the most confusing and painful parts of surviving a relationship with someone who has Cluster B traits, including narcissistic, antisocial, borderline, and histrionic personality disorders.

We explore:

  • The neurological and psychological reasons why people with Cluster B disorders don’t change
  • Why survivors feel crazy, confused, and exhausted—and why that’s by design
  • How splitting, emotional dysregulation, and weaponized remorse show up in real relationships
  • The difference between low capacity and emotional immaturity vs. willful abuse
  • How to tell if the “person you miss” was ever real—or just the hook
  • Why grief work is essential when letting go of the fantasy version of who you thought they were

Dr. Kerry offers insight from both her clinical background and lived experience. If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why won’t they change?” or “Was any of it real?”—this episode will help you understand why the answer is more devastating and liberating than you thought.

Learn more about Dr. Kerry McAvoy’s work and grab her book Love You More at kerrymcavoyphd.com.
To join her Toxic-Free Relationship Club

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17502637 Wed, 27 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400 3473 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 207 full false Breaking the Trauma Bond Breaking the Trauma Bond I’m sharing one of the most requested and emotionally charged topics: the trauma bond. This episode is part of my private podcast series Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse, and I felt it was important to bring it here too—for anyone who’s stuck in the pain, confusion, or shame of staying in a relationship they know is harming them.

We explore why trauma bonds form, how they keep you hooked, and what it takes to begin breaking free. This isn’t just about naming abuse—it’s about understanding how your nervous system got wired for survival in an environment where love and harm coexist.

Inside this episode:

  • What a trauma bond actually is (and how it’s different from love)
  • Why your body clings to the person who hurts you
  • Signs you might be trauma bonded
  • Why it feels impossible to leave—even when you know the truth
  • What happens during withdrawal after leaving
  • How to start untangling yourself, one step at a time
  • The myth of mutual abuse and why blaming yourself keeps you stuck

This conversation comes directly from Unhooked, my in-depth series designed to help you map your personal cycle of abuse, reconnect to your clarity, and take back your power. If what you hear in this episode resonates, I invite you to join me inside the full series.

🧠 Learn more about Unhooked at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I’m sharing one of the most requested and emotionally charged topics: the trauma bond. This episode is part of my private podcast series Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse, and I felt it was important to bring it here too—for anyone who’s stuck in the pain, confusion, or shame of staying in a relationship they know is harming them.

We explore why trauma bonds form, how they keep you hooked, and what it takes to begin breaking free. This isn’t just about naming abuse—it’s about understanding how your nervous system got wired for survival in an environment where love and harm coexist.

Inside this episode:

  • What a trauma bond actually is (and how it’s different from love)
  • Why your body clings to the person who hurts you
  • Signs you might be trauma bonded
  • Why it feels impossible to leave—even when you know the truth
  • What happens during withdrawal after leaving
  • How to start untangling yourself, one step at a time
  • The myth of mutual abuse and why blaming yourself keeps you stuck

This conversation comes directly from Unhooked, my in-depth series designed to help you map your personal cycle of abuse, reconnect to your clarity, and take back your power. If what you hear in this episode resonates, I invite you to join me inside the full series.

🧠 Learn more about Unhooked at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17297141 Wed, 20 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400 825 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 206 full false Healing a Trauma Bond: The Power You Still Have Healing a Trauma Bond: The Power You Still Have Trauma Bonding—a term that’s often misunderstood and sometimes avoided because naming it means facing the abuse beneath it. In this episode, I break down what a trauma bond is (and isn’t), why it’s more than “shared trauma,” and how it functions as an emotional and physical addiction. Then, we talk about something that might feel uncomfortable: the places where you do have control once you’ve recognized you’re trauma bonded.

I cover:

  • The truth about intermittent reinforcement and why it keeps you hooked
  • Why naming a trauma bond matters for healing
  • How to treat it like an addiction without shaming yourself
  • Small, doable ways to create space and reclaim your power
  • How to stop looping on them and start focusing on you

Resources & Links:

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Trauma Bonding—a term that’s often misunderstood and sometimes avoided because naming it means facing the abuse beneath it. In this episode, I break down what a trauma bond is (and isn’t), why it’s more than “shared trauma,” and how it functions as an emotional and physical addiction. Then, we talk about something that might feel uncomfortable: the places where you do have control once you’ve recognized you’re trauma bonded.

I cover:

  • The truth about intermittent reinforcement and why it keeps you hooked
  • Why naming a trauma bond matters for healing
  • How to treat it like an addiction without shaming yourself
  • Small, doable ways to create space and reclaim your power
  • How to stop looping on them and start focusing on you

Resources & Links:

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17487040 Wed, 13 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1071 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 205 full false Whose Shame Are You Carrying? How Abusers Offload Pain to Avoid Accountability Whose Shame Are You Carrying? How Abusers Offload Pain to Avoid Accountability This episode explores one of the most insidious aspects of emotional abuse: shame offloading. 

When someone can’t face their own emotional wounds—whether it’s failure, inadequacy, or internal contradictions—they often project that pain onto the person closest to them. 

You become the emotional scapegoat, the one who’s blamed, punished, or humiliated—not because you did something wrong, but because they can’t sit with their own discomfort.

I walk through how this dynamic shows up in abusive relationships, how it fractures your sense of safety and self, and why the nervous system starts to adapt to the abuse as a form of survival. 

I explore how abusers develop internal scripts to justify their behavior, how survivors unconsciously internalize those scripts, and what it takes to start breaking that pattern.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode explores one of the most insidious aspects of emotional abuse: shame offloading. 

When someone can’t face their own emotional wounds—whether it’s failure, inadequacy, or internal contradictions—they often project that pain onto the person closest to them. 

You become the emotional scapegoat, the one who’s blamed, punished, or humiliated—not because you did something wrong, but because they can’t sit with their own discomfort.

I walk through how this dynamic shows up in abusive relationships, how it fractures your sense of safety and self, and why the nervous system starts to adapt to the abuse as a form of survival. 

I explore how abusers develop internal scripts to justify their behavior, how survivors unconsciously internalize those scripts, and what it takes to start breaking that pattern.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17487112 Wed, 06 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1598 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 204 full false Why Abusers Believe Their Own Lies with Paul Colaianni Why Abusers Believe Their Own Lies with Paul Colaianni Why do emotionally abusive people double down on false narratives, deny reality, and convince themselves they’re the victim—even when they’re causing visible harm?

I'm joined by Paul Colaianni, host of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love and Abuse podcasts and creator of The Healed Being program, one of the few resources for people who have been emotionally abusive and genuinely want to change.

We unpack one of the most confusing dynamics in abusive relationships: the distorted thinking that abusers use to justify their behavior and the self-protective systems that keep them from taking accountability.

We cover:

  • Why abusers truly believe their own version of reality
  • The psychology of self-righteousness, control, and emotional arrogance
  • How survivors internalize blame and begin to question their own kindness
  • The painful tipping point between self-sacrifice and self-protection
  • What real change actually looks like—and why it often comes after the survivor walks away

Resources mentioned:

Work with me:
 emotionalabusecoach.com
highconflictdivorcecoaching.com

Subscribe to my Substack:
 jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Why do emotionally abusive people double down on false narratives, deny reality, and convince themselves they’re the victim—even when they’re causing visible harm?

I'm joined by Paul Colaianni, host of The Overwhelmed Brain and Love and Abuse podcasts and creator of The Healed Being program, one of the few resources for people who have been emotionally abusive and genuinely want to change.

We unpack one of the most confusing dynamics in abusive relationships: the distorted thinking that abusers use to justify their behavior and the self-protective systems that keep them from taking accountability.

We cover:

  • Why abusers truly believe their own version of reality
  • The psychology of self-righteousness, control, and emotional arrogance
  • How survivors internalize blame and begin to question their own kindness
  • The painful tipping point between self-sacrifice and self-protection
  • What real change actually looks like—and why it often comes after the survivor walks away

Resources mentioned:

Work with me:
 emotionalabusecoach.com
highconflictdivorcecoaching.com

Subscribe to my Substack:
 jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17494846 Wed, 30 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400 4314 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 203 full false When You’re Not Allowed to Be Human: A Journal Entry from Inside the Cycle of Abuse When You’re Not Allowed to Be Human: A Journal Entry from Inside the Cycle of Abuse This episode takes you inside the lived experience of emotional abuse. The story captures how emotional dysregulation, boundary violations, and false repair cycles can slowly erode a person’s sense of self.

We discuss how the classic cycle of abuse—tension, explosion, and reconciliation—can unfold in covert ways, leaving the survivor walking on eggshells, questioning their reality, and constantly managing someone else’s emotional state at the expense of their own.

This is not a story of screaming or slamming doors. It’s a story of slow erasure, hypervigilance, and the quiet agony of never being allowed to just be.

Resources Mentioned:

  • Unhooked, a private podcast on mapping your personal cycle of abuse
  • Coaching, courses, and more support at emotionalabusecoach.com
  • More content on Substack: JessicaKnightCoaching.Substack.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode takes you inside the lived experience of emotional abuse. The story captures how emotional dysregulation, boundary violations, and false repair cycles can slowly erode a person’s sense of self.

We discuss how the classic cycle of abuse—tension, explosion, and reconciliation—can unfold in covert ways, leaving the survivor walking on eggshells, questioning their reality, and constantly managing someone else’s emotional state at the expense of their own.

This is not a story of screaming or slamming doors. It’s a story of slow erasure, hypervigilance, and the quiet agony of never being allowed to just be.

Resources Mentioned:

  • Unhooked, a private podcast on mapping your personal cycle of abuse
  • Coaching, courses, and more support at emotionalabusecoach.com
  • More content on Substack: JessicaKnightCoaching.Substack.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17282493 Wed, 23 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1209 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 202 full false The Abuse That Didn’t Look Like Abuse The Abuse That Didn’t Look Like Abuse There’s a version of abuse that presents as calm and reasonable. It doesn’t look chaotic, and at first, it doesn’t even feel that way. It feels quiet and measured. It sounds like someone who wants to work through things. Someone who seems thoughtful and emotionally attuned.

Under the surface, there’s control, pressure, and a constant pull to make you question whether your reactions are valid, whether your needs are too much, and whether you’re the one creating the problem.

In this episode, I share a case study from my own experience—one that illustrates how the cycle of emotional abuse can play out through over-explaining, emotional caretaking, and subtle self-betrayal.

If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system was screaming while your partner calmly told you everything was fine, this episode will help you name what’s happening.

This episode is part of Unhooked, my private podcast series on mapping the cycle of abuse—especially the kind that doesn’t look like abuse from the outside.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> There’s a version of abuse that presents as calm and reasonable. It doesn’t look chaotic, and at first, it doesn’t even feel that way. It feels quiet and measured. It sounds like someone who wants to work through things. Someone who seems thoughtful and emotionally attuned.

Under the surface, there’s control, pressure, and a constant pull to make you question whether your reactions are valid, whether your needs are too much, and whether you’re the one creating the problem.

In this episode, I share a case study from my own experience—one that illustrates how the cycle of emotional abuse can play out through over-explaining, emotional caretaking, and subtle self-betrayal.

If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system was screaming while your partner calmly told you everything was fine, this episode will help you name what’s happening.

This episode is part of Unhooked, my private podcast series on mapping the cycle of abuse—especially the kind that doesn’t look like abuse from the outside.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17355622 Wed, 16 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400 677 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 201 full false The Manipulation I Didn’t See—Until I Did The Manipulation I Didn’t See—Until I Did In this episode, I share the story that shaped everything: how I ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship, how I stayed, and how I finally saw it for what it was.

This is the manipulation I didn’t see—until I did.

I talk about the slow unraveling of my reality, the gaslighting, the shame, the trauma bond, and the hope that kept me stuck. I explain how I lost myself piece by piece, how I started to map the cycle, and what it took to finally break free.

If you’ve ever felt confused, blamed, minimized, or like nothing you do is ever enough, I hope you hear your own clarity in this episode. You're not overreacting. You're not imagining it. You're not the problem. You’re waking up—and once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

Thank you for being here with me. I hope my story helps you see yours more clearly.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I share the story that shaped everything: how I ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship, how I stayed, and how I finally saw it for what it was.

This is the manipulation I didn’t see—until I did.

I talk about the slow unraveling of my reality, the gaslighting, the shame, the trauma bond, and the hope that kept me stuck. I explain how I lost myself piece by piece, how I started to map the cycle, and what it took to finally break free.

If you’ve ever felt confused, blamed, minimized, or like nothing you do is ever enough, I hope you hear your own clarity in this episode. You're not overreacting. You're not imagining it. You're not the problem. You’re waking up—and once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

Thank you for being here with me. I hope my story helps you see yours more clearly.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17436870 Wed, 09 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1363 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 200 full false Mapping Your Specific Cycle of Abuse Mapping Your Specific Cycle of Abuse If you’ve ever felt like you were stuck in a relationship that kept repeating the same painful patterns—no matter how much you tried to fix it—this episode is for you.

In this episode, learn how the cycle of abuse plays out in emotionally abusive relationships—not as a clean four-part theory, but as a lived, messy, repetitive trap that keeps survivors hooked through false hope and temporary calm.

You’ll learn:

  • How to identify your specific version of the abuse cycle
  • Why tension, incident, reconciliation, and “calm” aren’t always linear
  • How abusers manipulate the calm phase to keep you hooked
  • What it means when someone is addicted to reconciling, not repairing
  • How to start mapping your own cycle—so you can break it

This is not about blaming you. It’s about giving you the clarity you were never allowed to have.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> If you’ve ever felt like you were stuck in a relationship that kept repeating the same painful patterns—no matter how much you tried to fix it—this episode is for you.

In this episode, learn how the cycle of abuse plays out in emotionally abusive relationships—not as a clean four-part theory, but as a lived, messy, repetitive trap that keeps survivors hooked through false hope and temporary calm.

You’ll learn:

  • How to identify your specific version of the abuse cycle
  • Why tension, incident, reconciliation, and “calm” aren’t always linear
  • How abusers manipulate the calm phase to keep you hooked
  • What it means when someone is addicted to reconciling, not repairing
  • How to start mapping your own cycle—so you can break it

This is not about blaming you. It’s about giving you the clarity you were never allowed to have.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16843308 Wed, 02 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400 2130 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 199 full false Can a Narcissist Actually Change? Can a Narcissist Actually Change? This is one of the most common—and most heartbreaking—questions I hear: Can a narcissist change? In this episode of You Are Not Crazy, I’m walking you through the reality behind that question.

The short answer? Maybe—but almost never.

Real change requires emotional accountability, humility, and deep psychological work… and most narcissists aren’t willing to do that. Not because they can’t—but because they don’t see the need. In this episode, we explore why narcissistic change is so rare, how survivors get stuck waiting for the version of their partner that never existed, and what it means to reclaim your clarity instead of waiting for someone else's transformation.

I also share a personal reflection on what helped me break free from the fantasy of potential and face the truth of what was in front of me.

You’ll learn:

  • Why even accurate criticism feels unbearable to a narcissist
  • What it actually takes to change—and why most won’t
  • How the trauma bond keeps you holding on
  • How to stop waiting and start healing

✨ This episode pairs with my new course Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse, designed to help you make sense of the chaos and see your relationship clearly. Find it at emotionalabusecoach.com.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This is one of the most common—and most heartbreaking—questions I hear: Can a narcissist change? In this episode of You Are Not Crazy, I’m walking you through the reality behind that question.

The short answer? Maybe—but almost never.

Real change requires emotional accountability, humility, and deep psychological work… and most narcissists aren’t willing to do that. Not because they can’t—but because they don’t see the need. In this episode, we explore why narcissistic change is so rare, how survivors get stuck waiting for the version of their partner that never existed, and what it means to reclaim your clarity instead of waiting for someone else's transformation.

I also share a personal reflection on what helped me break free from the fantasy of potential and face the truth of what was in front of me.

You’ll learn:

  • Why even accurate criticism feels unbearable to a narcissist
  • What it actually takes to change—and why most won’t
  • How the trauma bond keeps you holding on
  • How to stop waiting and start healing

✨ This episode pairs with my new course Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse, designed to help you make sense of the chaos and see your relationship clearly. Find it at emotionalabusecoach.com.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17242504 Wed, 25 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0400 811 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 198 full false Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything) Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything) When you're breaking a trauma bond or coming to terms with the end of a manipulative relationship, it doesn’t just bruise you—it shatters something inside. This kind of grief defies logic. You’re not just mourning a relationship. You’re grieving the version of you who believed in it, the future you imagined, and the love you gave so fully.

I walk through what this heartbreak really is—and what it isn’t. It’s not weakness. It’s not over-sensitivity. It’s a nervous system crash after prolonged emotional chaos. It’s what happens when your love was real, but the relationship was built on manipulation, betrayal, or broken promises.

Inside this episode:

  • Why grief after narcissistic abuse feels unbearable
  • The emotional rollercoaster of detaching from someone who hurt you
  • How shame, self-blame, and rumination keep you stuck
  • Why you still miss them, even when they treated you badly
  • A reminder that your pain is a reflection of your depth—not a flaw

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When you're breaking a trauma bond or coming to terms with the end of a manipulative relationship, it doesn’t just bruise you—it shatters something inside. This kind of grief defies logic. You’re not just mourning a relationship. You’re grieving the version of you who believed in it, the future you imagined, and the love you gave so fully.

I walk through what this heartbreak really is—and what it isn’t. It’s not weakness. It’s not over-sensitivity. It’s a nervous system crash after prolonged emotional chaos. It’s what happens when your love was real, but the relationship was built on manipulation, betrayal, or broken promises.

Inside this episode:

  • Why grief after narcissistic abuse feels unbearable
  • The emotional rollercoaster of detaching from someone who hurt you
  • How shame, self-blame, and rumination keep you stuck
  • Why you still miss them, even when they treated you badly
  • A reminder that your pain is a reflection of your depth—not a flaw

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17105963 Wed, 18 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0400 489 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 197 full false Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships What happens when the person you fought so hard to love turns out to be incapable of loving you back? What do you do with the grief, the self-doubt, and the tidal wave of confusion that follows?

In this raw and deeply personal episode, I unpack what it means to love someone with traits of Cluster B personality disorders—specifically, narcissistic and borderline features—and why walking away doesn’t bring immediate peace. I share the story of how my relationship ended, the impossible ultimatum I was given, and the unraveling that came after.

We explore:

  • Why you still miss them even though they hurt you
  • The reality of trauma bonding and emotional addiction
  • What it means to be with someone who can imitate love but not sustain it
  • The devastation of being blamed for everything, including their own behavior
  • The disorienting grief that follows when you're mourning the illusion, not the reality
  • What healing actually looks like when you finally choose yourself

This episode is for anyone who left a relationship and still doesn’t understand why it hurts so much. For the person who can’t stop blaming themselves. For the survivor who is starting to realize: it wasn’t you. It was never you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What happens when the person you fought so hard to love turns out to be incapable of loving you back? What do you do with the grief, the self-doubt, and the tidal wave of confusion that follows?

In this raw and deeply personal episode, I unpack what it means to love someone with traits of Cluster B personality disorders—specifically, narcissistic and borderline features—and why walking away doesn’t bring immediate peace. I share the story of how my relationship ended, the impossible ultimatum I was given, and the unraveling that came after.

We explore:

  • Why you still miss them even though they hurt you
  • The reality of trauma bonding and emotional addiction
  • What it means to be with someone who can imitate love but not sustain it
  • The devastation of being blamed for everything, including their own behavior
  • The disorienting grief that follows when you're mourning the illusion, not the reality
  • What healing actually looks like when you finally choose yourself

This episode is for anyone who left a relationship and still doesn’t understand why it hurts so much. For the person who can’t stop blaming themselves. For the survivor who is starting to realize: it wasn’t you. It was never you.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17125572 Wed, 11 Jun 2025 07:00:00 -0400 1098 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 196 full false Understanding the Trauma Bond Understanding the Trauma Bond We dive into the Trauma Bond: how it forms, why it's so hard to leave, and what recovery really looks like. This isn't just about red flags or textbook definitions. This is about the lived experience—the confusion, the craving for relief, the grief that shows up even when you finally leave.

I walk through the invisible hooks that keep survivors attached: intermittent reinforcement, emotional manipulation disguised as love, and the powerful conditioning that teaches us to find safety in what's familiar—even when it hurts. I also share pieces of my own story, including what it felt like to be silenced, blamed, and slowly erased in a relationship that mirrored old wounds I hadn’t yet healed.

You’ll hear about:

  • The difference between love and emotional captivity
  • How trauma bonds are wired into your nervous system
  • Why you still miss them even after they hurt you
  • What gaslighting does to your sense of self
  • How to begin un-gaslighting yourself and rebuild your truth

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> We dive into the Trauma Bond: how it forms, why it's so hard to leave, and what recovery really looks like. This isn't just about red flags or textbook definitions. This is about the lived experience—the confusion, the craving for relief, the grief that shows up even when you finally leave.

I walk through the invisible hooks that keep survivors attached: intermittent reinforcement, emotional manipulation disguised as love, and the powerful conditioning that teaches us to find safety in what's familiar—even when it hurts. I also share pieces of my own story, including what it felt like to be silenced, blamed, and slowly erased in a relationship that mirrored old wounds I hadn’t yet healed.

You’ll hear about:

  • The difference between love and emotional captivity
  • How trauma bonds are wired into your nervous system
  • Why you still miss them even after they hurt you
  • What gaslighting does to your sense of self
  • How to begin un-gaslighting yourself and rebuild your truth

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17105976 Wed, 04 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0400 2182 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 195 full false The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that often come from people with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These episodes are not “just” arguments. They’re dysregulated storms—sudden, intense, and often terrifying—that leave you feeling blamed, spun, and emotionally shredded.

I break down what’s actually happening in these moments, why they feel so confusing, and how to begin separating yourself from the chaos. We’ll explore:

  • What BPD-patterned emotional storms really are
  • Why it feels like you’re being punished for something you didn’t do
  • How to recognize these moments as trauma responses, not mutual conflict
  • What helped me stop spiraling when I was stuck in these cycles
  • The difference between compassion and self-sacrifice
  • Why you’re not crazy for being overwhelmed, and why this isn’t your fault

This episode isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about giving language to what survivors are living through—so you can stop blaming yourself, start validating your reality, and begin choosing peace over chaos.

If this resonates, I invite you to check out my full Substack series on Cluster B abuse patterns: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that often come from people with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These episodes are not “just” arguments. They’re dysregulated storms—sudden, intense, and often terrifying—that leave you feeling blamed, spun, and emotionally shredded.

I break down what’s actually happening in these moments, why they feel so confusing, and how to begin separating yourself from the chaos. We’ll explore:

  • What BPD-patterned emotional storms really are
  • Why it feels like you’re being punished for something you didn’t do
  • How to recognize these moments as trauma responses, not mutual conflict
  • What helped me stop spiraling when I was stuck in these cycles
  • The difference between compassion and self-sacrifice
  • Why you’re not crazy for being overwhelmed, and why this isn’t your fault

This episode isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about giving language to what survivors are living through—so you can stop blaming yourself, start validating your reality, and begin choosing peace over chaos.

If this resonates, I invite you to check out my full Substack series on Cluster B abuse patterns: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16761487 Wed, 28 May 2025 07:00:00 -0400 691 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, BPd, clusterB, bpdlovedones, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, d 194 full false They're Just Avoiding Accountability They're Just Avoiding Accountability In this episode, I unpack how abusers flip the script by dredging up unrelated past events, twisting reality, and using guilt as a weapon to derail accountability. If you've ever found yourself defending a mistake from five years ago while trying to talk about how you're hurting now, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn:

  • The difference between naming a pattern and playing the blame game
  • How false equivalency and DARVO keep survivors stuck
  • What a healthy vs. abusive response to feedback actually sounds like
  • How to stop wasting your energy defending yourself and start trusting what you know

Whether you're navigating emotional abuse, high-conflict divorce, or just trying to reclaim your clarity, this episode is a grounding reminder that your experiences are real—and you don’t need to explain your pain to someone determined to ignore it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I unpack how abusers flip the script by dredging up unrelated past events, twisting reality, and using guilt as a weapon to derail accountability. If you've ever found yourself defending a mistake from five years ago while trying to talk about how you're hurting now, this episode is for you.

You’ll learn:

  • The difference between naming a pattern and playing the blame game
  • How false equivalency and DARVO keep survivors stuck
  • What a healthy vs. abusive response to feedback actually sounds like
  • How to stop wasting your energy defending yourself and start trusting what you know

Whether you're navigating emotional abuse, high-conflict divorce, or just trying to reclaim your clarity, this episode is a grounding reminder that your experiences are real—and you don’t need to explain your pain to someone determined to ignore it.

Support the show

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

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Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16761481 Thu, 22 May 2025 15:00:00 -0400 598 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 193 full false The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing” The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing” I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up.

I share my personal experience of slowly realizing that what felt like “stress” was actually a sustained pattern of emotional harm. 

I walk through the subtle signs—like anxiety, insomnia, self-doubt, and emotional shutdown—that build up over time and keep survivors stuck in cycles of self-blame and confusion.

This episode offers validation for the exhaustion you feel, clarity on how abusers avoid accountability by isolating incidents, and a powerful reminder: if you’re starting to see the pattern, you already have everything you need to begin walking away from it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up.

I share my personal experience of slowly realizing that what felt like “stress” was actually a sustained pattern of emotional harm. 

I walk through the subtle signs—like anxiety, insomnia, self-doubt, and emotional shutdown—that build up over time and keep survivors stuck in cycles of self-blame and confusion.

This episode offers validation for the exhaustion you feel, clarity on how abusers avoid accountability by isolating incidents, and a powerful reminder: if you’re starting to see the pattern, you already have everything you need to begin walking away from it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16761470 Wed, 14 May 2025 06:00:00 -0400 660 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 192 full false When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self I share the story of a client—“Amanda”—who experienced a devastating betrayal that shattered not only her relationship but her trust in herself. What began as a hopeful, grounded connection turned into a traumatic discovery of infidelity and deception. Jessica walks through the emotional aftermath: the gaslighting, the physical symptoms of grief, the shame survivors often carry, and the slow, painful realization that you're not just grieving a person—you’re grieving the version of yourself who believed you were safe.

This episode is for anyone who has asked:
How did I not see it?
Why do I still miss them?
What happened to the future I thought I was building?

Topics covered:

  • How betrayal impacts your nervous system
  • The grief of losing not just a partner, but your reality
  • What trauma bonding really feels like
  • The shame cycle survivors fall into
  • How to begin rebuilding your trust in yourself

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I share the story of a client—“Amanda”—who experienced a devastating betrayal that shattered not only her relationship but her trust in herself. What began as a hopeful, grounded connection turned into a traumatic discovery of infidelity and deception. Jessica walks through the emotional aftermath: the gaslighting, the physical symptoms of grief, the shame survivors often carry, and the slow, painful realization that you're not just grieving a person—you’re grieving the version of yourself who believed you were safe.

This episode is for anyone who has asked:
How did I not see it?
Why do I still miss them?
What happened to the future I thought I was building?

Topics covered:

  • How betrayal impacts your nervous system
  • The grief of losing not just a partner, but your reality
  • What trauma bonding really feels like
  • The shame cycle survivors fall into
  • How to begin rebuilding your trust in yourself

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-17059249 Wed, 07 May 2025 06:00:00 -0400 761 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 191 full false Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help I’m doing something a little different — I’m walking you through my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: what it is, why it matters, and how it can help if you’re stuck questioning your reality.

I share the story of how I realized I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, how confusing and stuck I felt inside the trauma bond, and the turning points that helped me start to break free. I also talk about why simply recognizing abuse isn’t enough — and how you need validation, boundaries, and clarity to start reclaiming your life.

If you’re Googling things like "Is this abuse?" or "Why does nothing I do seem to work?" — this episode is for you.

I’ll also talk about some of the tools that helped me, like Paul Colaianni’s M.E.A.N. Workbook, and how my course is designed to give you something I wish I had: a clear foundation, validation, and steps you can actually take — even if you’re still stuck inside the relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How emotional abuse rewires your reality
  • Why trauma bonds keep you stuck (even when you can see the harm)
  • How to set boundaries for yourself — even when they won’t respect them
  • How to start validating your own experience (and stop feeling crazy)

Resources Mentioned:

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I’m doing something a little different — I’m walking you through my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: what it is, why it matters, and how it can help if you’re stuck questioning your reality.

I share the story of how I realized I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, how confusing and stuck I felt inside the trauma bond, and the turning points that helped me start to break free. I also talk about why simply recognizing abuse isn’t enough — and how you need validation, boundaries, and clarity to start reclaiming your life.

If you’re Googling things like "Is this abuse?" or "Why does nothing I do seem to work?" — this episode is for you.

I’ll also talk about some of the tools that helped me, like Paul Colaianni’s M.E.A.N. Workbook, and how my course is designed to give you something I wish I had: a clear foundation, validation, and steps you can actually take — even if you’re still stuck inside the relationship.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How emotional abuse rewires your reality
  • Why trauma bonds keep you stuck (even when you can see the harm)
  • How to set boundaries for yourself — even when they won’t respect them
  • How to start validating your own experience (and stop feeling crazy)

Resources Mentioned:

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16802527 Wed, 30 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0400 989 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 190 full false He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff Vctoria Kirilloff, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Divorce Analytics, brings her sharp expertise, and personal experience leaving an abusive relationship, to help listeners navigate the financial side of divorce with clarity and strategy.

Together, we break down:

  • How to start gathering financial information even if you feel completely in the dark
  • Why documenting financial coercion can become one of your strongest tools in family court
  • What a "global settlement proposal" is and why it can save you time, money, and emotional energy
  • How to avoid letting your emotions derail your legal or financial strategy
  • The most common myths survivors believe about money — and how to break free from them

Whether you're still in the relationship or knee-deep in legal battles, this episode will give you both validation and direction. 

🔗 Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • Free Financial Document Checklist: divorceanalytics.com/free-tools
  • Learn more about Victoria’s work at divorceanalytics.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Vctoria Kirilloff, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Divorce Analytics, brings her sharp expertise, and personal experience leaving an abusive relationship, to help listeners navigate the financial side of divorce with clarity and strategy.

Together, we break down:

  • How to start gathering financial information even if you feel completely in the dark
  • Why documenting financial coercion can become one of your strongest tools in family court
  • What a "global settlement proposal" is and why it can save you time, money, and emotional energy
  • How to avoid letting your emotions derail your legal or financial strategy
  • The most common myths survivors believe about money — and how to break free from them

Whether you're still in the relationship or knee-deep in legal battles, this episode will give you both validation and direction. 

🔗 Resources mentioned in this episode:

  • Free Financial Document Checklist: divorceanalytics.com/free-tools
  • Learn more about Victoria’s work at divorceanalytics.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16937568 Wed, 23 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0400 3050 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 189 full false Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae I’m joined by Dr. Nae, trauma bond expert, author of Run Like Hell, and former wife of Jordan Belfort—better known as the Wolf of Wall Street. Dr. Nae shares her story of surviving a deeply toxic and pathological relationship, what it took to finally leave, and how she transformed her experience into a mission to help others heal from narcissistic abuse and coercive control.

We talk about:

  • The difference between flawed partners and pathological ones
  • What it actually means to be trauma bonded
  • The role of cognitive dissonance, coercive control, and the loss of self
  • The danger of staying—and the danger of leaving
  • How to protect yourself when planning to leave
  • What healing really requires (hint: it’s not just time)

Whether you’re in the fog or on the other side trying to make sense of what happened, this conversation offers validation, language, and a path forward.

You can find Dr. Nae at drnae.com, and be sure to check out her book Run Like Hell, her trauma bond recovery community, and her daily insights on Instagram @therealdrnadine.

✨ If you need support, I offer 1:1 coaching, one-off sessions, and resources at emotionalabusecoach.com. You’ll find all relevant links in the show notes.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I’m joined by Dr. Nae, trauma bond expert, author of Run Like Hell, and former wife of Jordan Belfort—better known as the Wolf of Wall Street. Dr. Nae shares her story of surviving a deeply toxic and pathological relationship, what it took to finally leave, and how she transformed her experience into a mission to help others heal from narcissistic abuse and coercive control.

We talk about:

  • The difference between flawed partners and pathological ones
  • What it actually means to be trauma bonded
  • The role of cognitive dissonance, coercive control, and the loss of self
  • The danger of staying—and the danger of leaving
  • How to protect yourself when planning to leave
  • What healing really requires (hint: it’s not just time)

Whether you’re in the fog or on the other side trying to make sense of what happened, this conversation offers validation, language, and a path forward.

You can find Dr. Nae at drnae.com, and be sure to check out her book Run Like Hell, her trauma bond recovery community, and her daily insights on Instagram @therealdrnadine.

✨ If you need support, I offer 1:1 coaching, one-off sessions, and resources at emotionalabusecoach.com. You’ll find all relevant links in the show notes.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16865772 Wed, 16 Apr 2025 14:00:00 -0400 2182 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, wolfofwallstreet, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 188 full false How Abusers Use Therapy Against You How Abusers Use Therapy Against You I explore how abusive partners can use therapy to reinforce blame, rewrite reality, and further control their partners. She breaks down red flags to watch for—like when therapy sessions become ammunition, or when your partner suddenly becomes an expert in your trauma but avoids accountability for their own.

Jessica shares the emotional toll of navigating this dynamic and why you’re not wrong—or crazy—for feeling like something is off even when your partner is “doing the work.” This episode is a validating reminder that true healing includes self-reflection, not deflection—and you deserve a relationship where you’re not someone’s emotional cushion or scapegoat.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I explore how abusive partners can use therapy to reinforce blame, rewrite reality, and further control their partners. She breaks down red flags to watch for—like when therapy sessions become ammunition, or when your partner suddenly becomes an expert in your trauma but avoids accountability for their own.

Jessica shares the emotional toll of navigating this dynamic and why you’re not wrong—or crazy—for feeling like something is off even when your partner is “doing the work.” This episode is a validating reminder that true healing includes self-reflection, not deflection—and you deserve a relationship where you’re not someone’s emotional cushion or scapegoat.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16740740 Wed, 09 Apr 2025 12:00:00 -0400 1362 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 187 full false When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice This episode explores how gaslighting works, highlights red flags such as constant self-doubt and the need to over-apologize, and shares practical strategies for reclaiming your sense of reality. I also unpack the manipulative DARVO tactic—where abusers deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender roles—to help you recognize when your intuition is under siege. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode explores how gaslighting works, highlights red flags such as constant self-doubt and the need to over-apologize, and shares practical strategies for reclaiming your sense of reality. I also unpack the manipulative DARVO tactic—where abusers deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender roles—to help you recognize when your intuition is under siege. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16676267 Wed, 02 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0400 524 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 186 full false Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary You are allowed to be a whole person—not just a performance for someone else. If you've been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may have been taught to compromise your needs, silence your instincts, and tie your worth to someone else's happiness. In this episode, I discuss how societal expectations and manipulative dynamics teach us to ignore ourselves—and how to begin reclaiming your autonomy, boundaries, and emotional safety. This is your permission slip to say no, to trust your instincts, and to begin choosing yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> You are allowed to be a whole person—not just a performance for someone else. If you've been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you may have been taught to compromise your needs, silence your instincts, and tie your worth to someone else's happiness. In this episode, I discuss how societal expectations and manipulative dynamics teach us to ignore ourselves—and how to begin reclaiming your autonomy, boundaries, and emotional safety. This is your permission slip to say no, to trust your instincts, and to begin choosing yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16598211 Fri, 28 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 458 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 185 full false Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist? Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist? In this episode, I discuss the isolating and draining reality of divorcing a narcissist. I share how constant manipulation, gaslighting, and relentless legal battles can leave you feeling lost and unheard. 

I dive into the challenges of a legal system that often falls short. If you’re dealing with a high conflict divorce or post-separation abuse, join me for practical strategies and resources.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I discuss the isolating and draining reality of divorcing a narcissist. I share how constant manipulation, gaslighting, and relentless legal battles can leave you feeling lost and unheard. 

I dive into the challenges of a legal system that often falls short. If you’re dealing with a high conflict divorce or post-separation abuse, join me for practical strategies and resources.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16645541 Wed, 26 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1062 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 184 full false DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a pattern that keeps you stuck in cycles of self-doubt, confusion, and emotional turmoil. In this episode, I break down how it works, how to recognize it in real time, and—most importantly—how to start detaching from the manipulative narrative.

If you’ve ever found yourself defending your actions instead of addressing the real issue, feeling like the "problem" in your relationship, or struggling to get clarity on what's happening, this episode will help you refocus on patterns, not excuses.

Understanding these dynamics is a crucial first step in reclaiming your peace and emotional well-being.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) is a pattern that keeps you stuck in cycles of self-doubt, confusion, and emotional turmoil. In this episode, I break down how it works, how to recognize it in real time, and—most importantly—how to start detaching from the manipulative narrative.

If you’ve ever found yourself defending your actions instead of addressing the real issue, feeling like the "problem" in your relationship, or struggling to get clarity on what's happening, this episode will help you refocus on patterns, not excuses.

Understanding these dynamics is a crucial first step in reclaiming your peace and emotional well-being.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16598208 Fri, 21 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 573 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 183 full false How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships This episode is a deep dive into the reality of navigating relationships with individuals who exhibit traits of Cluster B personality disorders—including narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, and histrionic personality disorders. If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of confusion, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion in your relationship, this conversation will help you understand why. 

I share personal experiences and insights from her coaching work to break down how these disorders manifest in toxic dynamics, the emotional manipulation tactics often used, and why so many survivors struggle to make sense of what’s happening to them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode is a deep dive into the reality of navigating relationships with individuals who exhibit traits of Cluster B personality disorders—including narcissistic, borderline, antisocial, and histrionic personality disorders. If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of confusion, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion in your relationship, this conversation will help you understand why. 

I share personal experiences and insights from her coaching work to break down how these disorders manifest in toxic dynamics, the emotional manipulation tactics often used, and why so many survivors struggle to make sense of what’s happening to them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16598214 Wed, 19 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1800 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 182 full false I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion Sex can be misused as a tool for emotional regulation and control rather than genuine connection. In this episode, I take you through a story describing what initially felt like overwhelming love gradually revealed itself as a pattern of guilt-tripping, boundary violations, and emotional manipulation. I detail specific moments where my autonomy was compromised: from the pressure to engage in intimacy even when physically or emotionally unready, to the way declarations of love were weaponized to silence my needs and enforce compliance. I also reflects on the confusing aftermath of these experiences and how to move through them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Sex can be misused as a tool for emotional regulation and control rather than genuine connection. In this episode, I take you through a story describing what initially felt like overwhelming love gradually revealed itself as a pattern of guilt-tripping, boundary violations, and emotional manipulation. I detail specific moments where my autonomy was compromised: from the pressure to engage in intimacy even when physically or emotionally unready, to the way declarations of love were weaponized to silence my needs and enforce compliance. I also reflects on the confusing aftermath of these experiences and how to move through them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16530609 Fri, 14 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1136 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 181 full false Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate? Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate? Intimacy can be manipulated as a tool for control and emotional regulation. She shares intimate stories of recognizing coercive patterns—from subtle guilt-tripping and boundary violations to the misuse of sex as a litmus test for emotional connection.

Whether you’ve felt pressured in your relationships or questioned the true meaning of love and intimacy, this episode offers validation and guidance on setting firm boundaries, reclaiming your autonomy, and healing the relationship with yourself.

Check out Nat's work: https://alwaysmending.com/maritalcoercion

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Intimacy can be manipulated as a tool for control and emotional regulation. She shares intimate stories of recognizing coercive patterns—from subtle guilt-tripping and boundary violations to the misuse of sex as a litmus test for emotional connection.

Whether you’ve felt pressured in your relationships or questioned the true meaning of love and intimacy, this episode offers validation and guidance on setting firm boundaries, reclaiming your autonomy, and healing the relationship with yourself.

Check out Nat's work: https://alwaysmending.com/maritalcoercion

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16518057 Wed, 12 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0400 1089 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 180 full false Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse Anne Wintemute, co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI-driven companion designed to support survivors of relationship abuse, joins me to share the inspiration behind Aimee and how it serves as an emotional support tool, offering validation, guidance, and safety planning for those navigating toxic relationships.

We discuss how AI can help survivors recognize red flags, document their experiences, and access trauma-informed resources—especially in those lonely, late-night moments when support feels out of reach. We also explore how Aimee's real-time responses can help stop abuse before it escalates, making it an invaluable tool for anyone questioning their reality or seeking clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Anne Wintemute, co-founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI-driven companion designed to support survivors of relationship abuse, joins me to share the inspiration behind Aimee and how it serves as an emotional support tool, offering validation, guidance, and safety planning for those navigating toxic relationships.

We discuss how AI can help survivors recognize red flags, document their experiences, and access trauma-informed resources—especially in those lonely, late-night moments when support feels out of reach. We also explore how Aimee's real-time responses can help stop abuse before it escalates, making it an invaluable tool for anyone questioning their reality or seeking clarity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16530606 Wed, 05 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500 2526 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 179 full false Navigating Breakups Navigating Breakups This episode breaks down why conventional breakup rules don’t apply when you’re dealing with manipulation, control, and gaslighting, and offers guidance on how to reclaim your boundaries, your sanity, and your life. By focusing on patterns over promises, I provide tangible steps to help you break free from the emotional tug-of-war and start taking back control. 

Whether you’ve experienced emotional abuse firsthand or are just looking for clarity around unhealthy relationship dynamics, this episode equips you with the tools to heal and move forward. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode breaks down why conventional breakup rules don’t apply when you’re dealing with manipulation, control, and gaslighting, and offers guidance on how to reclaim your boundaries, your sanity, and your life. By focusing on patterns over promises, I provide tangible steps to help you break free from the emotional tug-of-war and start taking back control. 

Whether you’ve experienced emotional abuse firsthand or are just looking for clarity around unhealthy relationship dynamics, this episode equips you with the tools to heal and move forward. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16433116 Wed, 26 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1109 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 178 full false Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni Can an emotionally abusive person change? Paul Colliani joins me to explore the patterns of manipulative behavior, why some people refuse to take accountability, and how anxious attachment and emotional immaturity play into abusive dynamics. 

We also discuss the false hope that keeps many survivors stuck, the importance of recognizing real change versus empty promises, and the hard truth that healing often means letting go.

You can find Paul here: loveandabuse.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Can an emotionally abusive person change? Paul Colliani joins me to explore the patterns of manipulative behavior, why some people refuse to take accountability, and how anxious attachment and emotional immaturity play into abusive dynamics. 

We also discuss the false hope that keeps many survivors stuck, the importance of recognizing real change versus empty promises, and the hard truth that healing often means letting go.

You can find Paul here: loveandabuse.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16304184 Wed, 19 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500 5187 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 177 full false Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really means and why it can feel so hard to leave a toxic relationship. 

Instead of being about sharing past trauma, trauma bonding happens because of a crazy cycle of ups and downs—brief moments of love and kindness that keep you holding on even when you're being hurt. 

In this episode, I discuss how these roller coaster relationships work and why promises to change often end up being tricks to keep you stuck. I also share simple tips on how to spot these harmful patterns, set clear boundaries, and take back control of your life. 

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that just isn’t right, this episode offers straightforward advice and real steps to start healing.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really means and why it can feel so hard to leave a toxic relationship. 

Instead of being about sharing past trauma, trauma bonding happens because of a crazy cycle of ups and downs—brief moments of love and kindness that keep you holding on even when you're being hurt. 

In this episode, I discuss how these roller coaster relationships work and why promises to change often end up being tricks to keep you stuck. I also share simple tips on how to spot these harmful patterns, set clear boundaries, and take back control of your life. 

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that just isn’t right, this episode offers straightforward advice and real steps to start healing.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16530610 Wed, 12 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1623 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 176 full false Breaking Free from a Toxic Relationship Breaking Free from a Toxic Relationship Traditional breakup rules fall short when you're dealing with a partner whose only goal is to control the narrative—and why the breakup never feels like an ending at all. In this episode, I will discuss:

  • Unpacks the Cycle: Discover how manipulative behaviors like gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and isolation keep you stuck, even when you know you deserve better.
  • Sets New Boundaries: Learn actionable steps to reclaim your power by enforcing non-negotiable boundaries and embracing a no-contact approach for your emotional safety.
  • Reclaims Your Narrative: Understand why empty promises don't align with ongoing patterns of manipulation, and how you can validate your own experience to begin the healing process.

Whether you're questioning your reality, struggling with mixed signals, or simply need reassurance that you're not alone, this episode offers the validation, insights, and strategies you need to move forward.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Traditional breakup rules fall short when you're dealing with a partner whose only goal is to control the narrative—and why the breakup never feels like an ending at all. In this episode, I will discuss:

  • Unpacks the Cycle: Discover how manipulative behaviors like gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and isolation keep you stuck, even when you know you deserve better.
  • Sets New Boundaries: Learn actionable steps to reclaim your power by enforcing non-negotiable boundaries and embracing a no-contact approach for your emotional safety.
  • Reclaims Your Narrative: Understand why empty promises don't align with ongoing patterns of manipulation, and how you can validate your own experience to begin the healing process.

Whether you're questioning your reality, struggling with mixed signals, or simply need reassurance that you're not alone, this episode offers the validation, insights, and strategies you need to move forward.

Support the show

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
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]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16443286 Fri, 07 Feb 2025 19:00:00 -0500 1021 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 175 full false Why Am I Stuck? Why Am I Stuck? "Why am I stuck?" In this episode, I unpack the layers of trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, gaslighting, and self-blame that keep survivors tethered to their abusers long after the relationship ends.

I share insights from my own healing journey, including the emotional grip of intermittent reinforcement and the manipulation of vulnerability. 

If you've ever found yourself struggling to reconcile conflicting emotions or doubting your experiences, this episode is for you.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> "Why am I stuck?" In this episode, I unpack the layers of trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, gaslighting, and self-blame that keep survivors tethered to their abusers long after the relationship ends.

I share insights from my own healing journey, including the emotional grip of intermittent reinforcement and the manipulation of vulnerability. 

If you've ever found yourself struggling to reconcile conflicting emotions or doubting your experiences, this episode is for you.

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16052876 Wed, 29 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1319 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 174 full false Fear of Abandonment vs. Pushing People Away: Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Relationships Fear of Abandonment vs. Pushing People Away: Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Relationships How can a fear of abandonment lead to pushing people away? In this episode, I explore the complexities of anxious attachment, traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and how self-awareness can pave the way for healthier relationships.

I delve into the inner conflict often experienced by individuals with BPD—a push-pull dynamic where fear of abandonment clashes with fear of engulfment. This tension frequently results in self-sabotaging behaviors that disrupt connection and trust in relationships.

Drawing from my own journey of healing anxious attachment through exposure therapy, coaching, and resources like Attached, I reflect on a past relationship where my partner’s hypersensitivity, constant need for reassurance, and deeply rooted fears created an exhausting cycle of chaos.


You can follow me on Substack here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/











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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How can a fear of abandonment lead to pushing people away? In this episode, I explore the complexities of anxious attachment, traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and how self-awareness can pave the way for healthier relationships.

I delve into the inner conflict often experienced by individuals with BPD—a push-pull dynamic where fear of abandonment clashes with fear of engulfment. This tension frequently results in self-sabotaging behaviors that disrupt connection and trust in relationships.

Drawing from my own journey of healing anxious attachment through exposure therapy, coaching, and resources like Attached, I reflect on a past relationship where my partner’s hypersensitivity, constant need for reassurance, and deeply rooted fears created an exhausting cycle of chaos.


You can follow me on Substack here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/











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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15817950 Wed, 22 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1066 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 173 full false When "No" Isn't Respected: Understanding Sexual Coercion When "No" Isn't Respected: Understanding Sexual Coercion This episode dives into the misunderstood and rarely discussed topic of sexual coercion in relationships. I discuss recognizing coercive patterns and how emotional manipulation can slowly erode personal boundaries, leaving you feeling trapped, guilty, and ashamed.

I also read heartbreaking comments from women who shared their own stories of being pressured, guilted, and manipulated into sex—especially during moments of vulnerability, illness, and exhaustion.

If you've ever felt like your "no" was ignored, negotiated, or turned into a reason for blame, this episode will help you put words to that experience and remind you: Your boundaries are valid. Your body is yours. And you're not crazy.

You can follow me on Substack here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode dives into the misunderstood and rarely discussed topic of sexual coercion in relationships. I discuss recognizing coercive patterns and how emotional manipulation can slowly erode personal boundaries, leaving you feeling trapped, guilty, and ashamed.

I also read heartbreaking comments from women who shared their own stories of being pressured, guilted, and manipulated into sex—especially during moments of vulnerability, illness, and exhaustion.

If you've ever felt like your "no" was ignored, negotiated, or turned into a reason for blame, this episode will help you put words to that experience and remind you: Your boundaries are valid. Your body is yours. And you're not crazy.

You can follow me on Substack here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16433043 Wed, 15 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500 2261 coercion, sexual coercion, marital coercion, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabon 172 full false Divorce Coaching is a Game-Changer for High-Conflict Situations Divorce Coaching is a Game-Changer for High-Conflict Situations Divorce coaching can transform your experience when navigating high-conflict separations, especially with a narcissistic or difficult ex. Learn why proactive coaching is more effective than crisis-mode reactions, how to build resilience during calm periods, and the practical strategies that can save you emotional and financial strain.

In this episode, I share real-life success stories, highlights the role of divorce coaching alongside legal and therapeutic support, and discusses how it prioritizes the well-being of your children while minimizing conflict. Whether you're facing custody battles or seeking to co-parent effectively, this episode offers insights and actionable advice to help you thrive through the process.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Divorce coaching can transform your experience when navigating high-conflict separations, especially with a narcissistic or difficult ex. Learn why proactive coaching is more effective than crisis-mode reactions, how to build resilience during calm periods, and the practical strategies that can save you emotional and financial strain.

In this episode, I share real-life success stories, highlights the role of divorce coaching alongside legal and therapeutic support, and discusses how it prioritizes the well-being of your children while minimizing conflict. Whether you're facing custody battles or seeking to co-parent effectively, this episode offers insights and actionable advice to help you thrive through the process.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16248361 Wed, 08 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500 2686 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 171 full false Navigating New Year’s Pressure After Emotional Abuse Navigating New Year’s Pressure After Emotional Abuse New Year’s resolutions often come with societal pressure to transform, but if you’re recovering from emotional abuse, they can feel overwhelming and triggering. In this episode, I share why it’s okay to step away from the noise and focus on what you truly need to move forward.

In this episode:

  • Why “New Year, New You” narratives can feel impossible when healing from abuse.
  • The power of personal promises to yourself instead of rigid resolutions.
  • Practical strategies for creating calm and nurturing self-trust amidst chaos.

If the New Year feels like more pressure than possibility, you’re not alone. This episode offers insights to help you reclaim your sense of self and create space for meaningful healing—on your own terms.

For additional resources and support, visit EmotionalAbuseCoach.com.











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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> New Year’s resolutions often come with societal pressure to transform, but if you’re recovering from emotional abuse, they can feel overwhelming and triggering. In this episode, I share why it’s okay to step away from the noise and focus on what you truly need to move forward.

In this episode:

  • Why “New Year, New You” narratives can feel impossible when healing from abuse.
  • The power of personal promises to yourself instead of rigid resolutions.
  • Practical strategies for creating calm and nurturing self-trust amidst chaos.

If the New Year feels like more pressure than possibility, you’re not alone. This episode offers insights to help you reclaim your sense of self and create space for meaningful healing—on your own terms.

For additional resources and support, visit EmotionalAbuseCoach.com.











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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16302644 Wed, 01 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500 1748 170 full false Holiday Triggers and Emotional Healing Holiday Triggers and Emotional Healing Holidays can be a minefield of emotions, especially when past traumas resurface. In this episode, I delve into the complexities of holiday triggers and how they amplify everything.  We explore understanding why holidays can trigger past trauma and ways to manage it, strategies for grounding yourself in the present moment amidst emotional upheaval, the importance of setting new traditions that prioritize your well-being.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Holidays can be a minefield of emotions, especially when past traumas resurface. In this episode, I delve into the complexities of holiday triggers and how they amplify everything.  We explore understanding why holidays can trigger past trauma and ways to manage it, strategies for grounding yourself in the present moment amidst emotional upheaval, the importance of setting new traditions that prioritize your well-being.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16264895 Wed, 25 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1415 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, holidays, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, do 169 full false High-Conflict Co-Parenting During the Holidays High-Conflict Co-Parenting During the Holidays Navigating co-parenting challenges with a high-conflict ex can feel overwhelming—especially during the holiday season. In this episode, I share practical strategies to manage last-minute schedule changes, manipulative behavior, and the emotional toll these dynamics can take. Learn how to stick to your court order, document effectively, and create new traditions that bring joy to you and your kids, even in the midst of chaos. 

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Navigating co-parenting challenges with a high-conflict ex can feel overwhelming—especially during the holiday season. In this episode, I share practical strategies to manage last-minute schedule changes, manipulative behavior, and the emotional toll these dynamics can take. Learn how to stick to your court order, document effectively, and create new traditions that bring joy to you and your kids, even in the midst of chaos. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16227278 Wed, 18 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1275 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 168 full false Holidays Without Your Kids Holidays Without Your Kids Navigating the holidays without your kids? You're not alone, and this episode is here to support you. On this episode, I dive into the raw realities of spending holidays apart from your children due to divorce or custody arrangements. 

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Navigating the holidays without your kids? You're not alone, and this episode is here to support you. On this episode, I dive into the raw realities of spending holidays apart from your children due to divorce or custody arrangements. 

Support the show

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16227282 Wed, 11 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 876 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 167 full false Emotional Coercion Emotional Coercion This episode dives into emotional coercion—the subtle, insidious tactics designed to control your decisions and behavior without overt aggression. From gaslighting that leaves you questioning your reality to guilt-tripping that makes you feel responsible for your partner’s happiness, I uncover the patterns that keep you stuck in toxic cycles.

I also cover practical strategies to recognize red flags, break free from manipulative behaviors, and start reclaiming your confidence and autonomy.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too sensitive” or find yourself apologizing just to keep the peace, this episode is for you.

**Update** the December 1 masterclass has been postponed until January. To sign up for updates, subscribe to my newsletter: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/5

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode dives into emotional coercion—the subtle, insidious tactics designed to control your decisions and behavior without overt aggression. From gaslighting that leaves you questioning your reality to guilt-tripping that makes you feel responsible for your partner’s happiness, I uncover the patterns that keep you stuck in toxic cycles.

I also cover practical strategies to recognize red flags, break free from manipulative behaviors, and start reclaiming your confidence and autonomy.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too sensitive” or find yourself apologizing just to keep the peace, this episode is for you.

**Update** the December 1 masterclass has been postponed until January. To sign up for updates, subscribe to my newsletter: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/5

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16065531 Wed, 04 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1806 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, coercivecontrol, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 166 full false Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola Coercive control is an invisible form of abuse that traps victims in a web of psychological manipulation and domination. In this episode, Dr. Christine—a survivor, protective parent, and advocate—unpacks the strategies abusers use to exert power without physical violence. From understanding the parallels between coercion and tactics used in totalitarian regimes to exploring the cultural and societal roots of abuse, this episode provides a comprehensive look at how coercive control impacts individuals.

Dr. Christine shares her journey and offers practical tools for identifying coercive control, presenting evidence effectively in family courts, and navigating the legal system.

You can learn more about Dr. C here:
https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Coercive control is an invisible form of abuse that traps victims in a web of psychological manipulation and domination. In this episode, Dr. Christine—a survivor, protective parent, and advocate—unpacks the strategies abusers use to exert power without physical violence. From understanding the parallels between coercion and tactics used in totalitarian regimes to exploring the cultural and societal roots of abuse, this episode provides a comprehensive look at how coercive control impacts individuals.

Dr. Christine shares her journey and offers practical tools for identifying coercive control, presenting evidence effectively in family courts, and navigating the legal system.

You can learn more about Dr. C here:
https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16063862 Wed, 27 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2413 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 165 full false Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff Today, we are diving into Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff. Victoria helps to simplify complex financial issues that often arise during divorces involving manipulation and control.

In this episode we discover how to identify signs of financial coercion, learn strategies to regain control over your finances post-divorce and understand the importance of knowing your numbers for empowerment and independence.

Victoria is a Holistic Wealth Consultant who specializes in helping families make data driven financial decisions during divorce. I highly recommend reaching out to her if numbers aren't your forte. 

You can connect with her here: https://victoriakirilloff.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Today, we are diving into Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff. Victoria helps to simplify complex financial issues that often arise during divorces involving manipulation and control.

In this episode we discover how to identify signs of financial coercion, learn strategies to regain control over your finances post-divorce and understand the importance of knowing your numbers for empowerment and independence.

Victoria is a Holistic Wealth Consultant who specializes in helping families make data driven financial decisions during divorce. I highly recommend reaching out to her if numbers aren't your forte. 

You can connect with her here: https://victoriakirilloff.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-16052871 Wed, 20 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2823 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, finances, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, 164 full false Last Straw Moments Last Straw Moments We’re diving into those powerful "last straw" moments—the times when you feel that unmistakable surge of clarity that enough is truly enough. These moments don’t always come all at once; it might take several before you feel ready to fully break free. But often, they spark a deep, rising anger that fuels the decision to stand up against manipulation and control once and for all.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> We’re diving into those powerful "last straw" moments—the times when you feel that unmistakable surge of clarity that enough is truly enough. These moments don’t always come all at once; it might take several before you feel ready to fully break free. But often, they spark a deep, rising anger that fuels the decision to stand up against manipulation and control once and for all.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15784199 Wed, 13 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1778 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 163 full false Is it love or is it control? Is it love or is it control? Is it love or is it control? Often disguised as love, these relationships operate under a foundation of control. In this episode, I explore the myths surrounding relationship breakdowns, moving beyond the usual assumptions of “incompatibility” or “lost affection” to reveal a darker truth: for many narcissistic abusers, love was never the endgame—control was. By understanding this crucial distinction, listeners will be guided to reassess their past experiences, recognize the signs of toxic dynamics, and move forward with clarity, resilience, and the freedom to rebuild their lives on their terms.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Is it love or is it control? Often disguised as love, these relationships operate under a foundation of control. In this episode, I explore the myths surrounding relationship breakdowns, moving beyond the usual assumptions of “incompatibility” or “lost affection” to reveal a darker truth: for many narcissistic abusers, love was never the endgame—control was. By understanding this crucial distinction, listeners will be guided to reassess their past experiences, recognize the signs of toxic dynamics, and move forward with clarity, resilience, and the freedom to rebuild their lives on their terms.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15761851 Wed, 06 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1557 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 162 full false Why we romanticize past toxic relationships Why we romanticize past toxic relationships This episode dives into the fascinating (and frustrating) phenomenon of euphoric recall, where our brains play favorites with our memories, shining a spotlight on those rare “happy” moments while tucking away the pain and manipulation that came with them. We'll explore why this happens—from the brain chemistry behind it to the psychological factors that make euphoric recall so powerful in keeping us emotionally attached.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode dives into the fascinating (and frustrating) phenomenon of euphoric recall, where our brains play favorites with our memories, shining a spotlight on those rare “happy” moments while tucking away the pain and manipulation that came with them. We'll explore why this happens—from the brain chemistry behind it to the psychological factors that make euphoric recall so powerful in keeping us emotionally attached.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15874891 Wed, 30 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 767 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 161 full false Sexual Coercion Sexual Coercion Sexual coercion is often misunderstood or overlooked in conversations about consent. It involves pressuring or manipulating someone into sexual activity through verbal, emotional, or physical means. These actions are frequently hidden behind societal norms that wrongly portray sex as an obligation in relationships.

In this episode, Nat joins me to break down the harmful misconceptions about sex and consent. We explore how coercion shows up in relationships—whether it's through anxiety around intimacy, unwanted touching, guilt-tripping (like misusing love languages), or interpreting a partner’s refusal as rejection. Together, we identify the signs of coercive dynamics and discuss the steps toward recognizing and reclaiming your own boundaries.

You can learn more about him here: https://alwaysmending.com/maritalcoercion

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Sexual coercion is often misunderstood or overlooked in conversations about consent. It involves pressuring or manipulating someone into sexual activity through verbal, emotional, or physical means. These actions are frequently hidden behind societal norms that wrongly portray sex as an obligation in relationships.

In this episode, Nat joins me to break down the harmful misconceptions about sex and consent. We explore how coercion shows up in relationships—whether it's through anxiety around intimacy, unwanted touching, guilt-tripping (like misusing love languages), or interpreting a partner’s refusal as rejection. Together, we identify the signs of coercive dynamics and discuss the steps toward recognizing and reclaiming your own boundaries.

You can learn more about him here: https://alwaysmending.com/maritalcoercion

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15893096 Wed, 23 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3727 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 160 full false Understanding the Mindset of an Abusive Person Understanding the Mindset of an Abusive Person Have you wondered how and why they think the way they do? In this episode, I discuss why abusive individuals struggle with self-reflection and accountability. Discover how their fear of being perceived as 'the monster' fuels defensiveness and control tactics.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Have you wondered how and why they think the way they do? In this episode, I discuss why abusive individuals struggle with self-reflection and accountability. Discover how their fear of being perceived as 'the monster' fuels defensiveness and control tactics.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15612341 Wed, 16 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 665 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 159 full false Insidious and Not-So-Insidious Control Insidious and Not-So-Insidious Control Relationships with an abusive person often end not because of lost love, but due to a loss of control by one partner. This episode dives deep into the subtle tactics that can manipulate and dominate a relationship without you even realizing it.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Relationships with an abusive person often end not because of lost love, but due to a loss of control by one partner. This episode dives deep into the subtle tactics that can manipulate and dominate a relationship without you even realizing it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15747871 Wed, 09 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1557 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 158 full false The Challenge of Setting Boundaries The Challenge of Setting Boundaries One of the most distressing aspects of dealing with an emotionally abusive individual is their persistent disregard for boundaries. Most of us are left feeling powerless. In this podcast, we dive into having boundaries for yourself instead of focusing on changing the abuser's behavior—which often leads to disappointment.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> One of the most distressing aspects of dealing with an emotionally abusive individual is their persistent disregard for boundaries. Most of us are left feeling powerless. In this podcast, we dive into having boundaries for yourself instead of focusing on changing the abuser's behavior—which often leads to disappointment.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15710140 Wed, 02 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 475 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 157 full false Seeing Them for Who They Really Are Seeing Them for Who They Really Are Are you finding yourself focusing on your abuser's occasional positive traits rather than acknowledging consistent abusive behavior? It’s not uncommon to see only the best versions of them despite their behavior. This episode will help you accurately see an abusive individual (with a lot of grace for yourself).


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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you finding yourself focusing on your abuser's occasional positive traits rather than acknowledging consistent abusive behavior? It’s not uncommon to see only the best versions of them despite their behavior. This episode will help you accurately see an abusive individual (with a lot of grace for yourself).


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15710136 Wed, 25 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 403 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 156 full false A Relationship with someone w/BPD A Relationship with someone w/BPD Ever feel like you've been on a rollercoaster without a seatbelt? Welcome to a relationship with someone w/BPD. In this episode, I want to break down BPD. We will look at understanding the idealization-devaluation cycle typical in BPD relationships, recognizing signs of emotional dysregulation and its effects on partners and practical, actionable advice for setting boundaries and improving communication.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ever feel like you've been on a rollercoaster without a seatbelt? Welcome to a relationship with someone w/BPD. In this episode, I want to break down BPD. We will look at understanding the idealization-devaluation cycle typical in BPD relationships, recognizing signs of emotional dysregulation and its effects on partners and practical, actionable advice for setting boundaries and improving communication.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15698520 Wed, 18 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1029 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, borderline, bpd, peoplewithbpd, partnerwithbpd, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, trauma 155 full false Is Your Relationship Safe? Is Your Relationship Safe? Do you feel confused all of the time? Are you wondering if they are a safe person? This confusion frequently arises from past trauma resurfacing or the dynamics of the present relationship. This episode provides an honest self-reflection and thorough questioning to help you discern if you are in a healthy, safe relationship.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Do you feel confused all of the time? Are you wondering if they are a safe person? This confusion frequently arises from past trauma resurfacing or the dynamics of the present relationship. This episode provides an honest self-reflection and thorough questioning to help you discern if you are in a healthy, safe relationship.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15587040 Wed, 11 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 817 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, bpd, bpd relationship, relationshipbpd, borderline, borerlinerelationship, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissistic 154 full false Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? The intense emotional upheaval that follows breaking up with a manipulative partner is insane. Many people find themselves questioning their sanity and grapple with self-blame and confusion—emotions often amplified by their ex-partners' toxic behaviors.

This episode explores the cycle of manipulation. I explore a few key concepts:

  • Shifting Blame: Toxic partners frequently evade accountability by shifting blame onto their victims.
  • Emotional Chaos: They maintain control through creating an environment filled with emotional chaos.
  • Unclear Boundaries: These partners often blur relationship boundaries, making it difficult for victims to understand what constitutes acceptable behavior.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you feeling crazy after a breakup? The intense emotional upheaval that follows breaking up with a manipulative partner is insane. Many people find themselves questioning their sanity and grapple with self-blame and confusion—emotions often amplified by their ex-partners' toxic behaviors.

This episode explores the cycle of manipulation. I explore a few key concepts:

  • Shifting Blame: Toxic partners frequently evade accountability by shifting blame onto their victims.
  • Emotional Chaos: They maintain control through creating an environment filled with emotional chaos.
  • Unclear Boundaries: These partners often blur relationship boundaries, making it difficult for victims to understand what constitutes acceptable behavior.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15463656 Wed, 04 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1222 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 153 full false How to Work with Me How to Work with Me Wondering how to work with me? This episode breaks it down.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Wondering how to work with me? This episode breaks it down.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15658260 Fri, 30 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 992 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 152 full false Are You Becoming Like Them? Are You Becoming Like Them? Do toxic relationships make you mirror abusive behaviors?

In this episode, I explore a common question: am I just like them? I explore whether living with a narcissist or emotionally abusive partner can make us react in ways that feel out of character, just to survive.

Key Takeaways:
- Understanding reactive abuse and why it happens.
- Strategies for setting boundaries with yourself and others.
- The importance of recognizing your triggers and maintaining your individuality.

Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenging situations without losing yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Do toxic relationships make you mirror abusive behaviors?

In this episode, I explore a common question: am I just like them? I explore whether living with a narcissist or emotionally abusive partner can make us react in ways that feel out of character, just to survive.

Key Takeaways:
- Understanding reactive abuse and why it happens.
- Strategies for setting boundaries with yourself and others.
- The importance of recognizing your triggers and maintaining your individuality.

Tune in to learn how to navigate these challenging situations without losing yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15470163 Wed, 28 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 689 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 151 full false "Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines "Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines Chantal Contorines, a high conflict co-parenting coach and mentor, joins me to  delve into the complexities of "co-parenting" with a Narcissist. We discuss strategies for being the best advocate for your child.

In this episode, we address: 

  • The difficulty in truly co-parenting with a narcissist due to their inability to prioritize children over their ego.
  • How parallel parenting often becomes the necessary approach when dealing with a manipulative ex-partner.
  • The fact that parenting doesn't end at 18; it's about aiding children to become competent adults who are emotionally validated.

Chantel's instagram is filled with validating and informative content: https://www.instagram.com/chantal.contorines.coaching/

Learn more about her work on her website: https://www.thedivorcehub.ca/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Chantal Contorines, a high conflict co-parenting coach and mentor, joins me to  delve into the complexities of "co-parenting" with a Narcissist. We discuss strategies for being the best advocate for your child.

In this episode, we address: 

  • The difficulty in truly co-parenting with a narcissist due to their inability to prioritize children over their ego.
  • How parallel parenting often becomes the necessary approach when dealing with a manipulative ex-partner.
  • The fact that parenting doesn't end at 18; it's about aiding children to become competent adults who are emotionally validated.

Chantel's instagram is filled with validating and informative content: https://www.instagram.com/chantal.contorines.coaching/

Learn more about her work on her website: https://www.thedivorcehub.ca/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15494636 Wed, 21 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2364 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 150 full false Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions This is an emotional and Narcissistic abuse Q and A episode. In this episode, I respond to questions sent through the FanMail option on my podcast host. I listeners' questions are answered regarding patterns of abusive behavior and seeking support outside family who may not understand the situation.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This is an emotional and Narcissistic abuse Q and A episode. In this episode, I respond to questions sent through the FanMail option on my podcast host. I listeners' questions are answered regarding patterns of abusive behavior and seeking support outside family who may not understand the situation.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15501145 Thu, 15 Aug 2024 17:00:00 -0400 891 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 149 full false What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni Today, Paul interviews me! Paul Colaianni brings his unique perspective as both a former emotionally abusive person turned healer. He shares that abusers often employ grooming tactics like mirroring their victim’s interests to gain trust before turning the tables to exert control. I recount my personal battle with emotional abuse. I describe how she lost touch with her intuition and began conflating my needs with those imposed by my partner.

Key takeaways from this conversation include:
🔹 Understanding how to differentiate between needs and wants in relationships
🔹 Learning the importance of maintaining individual identity within partnerships
🔹 Recognizing the value in honoring yourself while still caring for others


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Today, Paul interviews me! Paul Colaianni brings his unique perspective as both a former emotionally abusive person turned healer. He shares that abusers often employ grooming tactics like mirroring their victim’s interests to gain trust before turning the tables to exert control. I recount my personal battle with emotional abuse. I describe how she lost touch with her intuition and began conflating my needs with those imposed by my partner.

Key takeaways from this conversation include:
🔹 Understanding how to differentiate between needs and wants in relationships
🔹 Learning the importance of maintaining individual identity within partnerships
🔹 Recognizing the value in honoring yourself while still caring for others


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15474658 Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0400 2958 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 148 full false Beginning to Heal Beginning to Heal On this episode, I dive into healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse. This episode covers a few various perspectives and a toolkit for recognizing manipulative behaviors, setting personal boundaries, and nurturing self-love.

Key takeaways from this episode:
- Strategies to begin the healing process after abusive relationships
- Understanding triggers and how to navigate them positively
- Tips on identifying red flags in new relationships post-healing

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> On this episode, I dive into healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse. This episode covers a few various perspectives and a toolkit for recognizing manipulative behaviors, setting personal boundaries, and nurturing self-love.

Key takeaways from this episode:
- Strategies to begin the healing process after abusive relationships
- Understanding triggers and how to navigate them positively
- Tips on identifying red flags in new relationships post-healing

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15474661 Wed, 07 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 593 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 147 full false The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship Does it feel like you need to heal from multiple versions of one person? It can feel almost impossible to find acceptance and solace as you heal from a person that did not even truly exist. In this episode, I talk about healing from the love bomber, devaluer, and the unrecognizable stranger (which we sometimes see all in one day).  

I will cover the intoxicating highs of the 'love bombing' phase and its heartbreaking revelation as a facade, discuss how devaluation erodes self-esteem and learn strategies to reclaim your worth, and recognize the cold indifference during discard.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Does it feel like you need to heal from multiple versions of one person? It can feel almost impossible to find acceptance and solace as you heal from a person that did not even truly exist. In this episode, I talk about healing from the love bomber, devaluer, and the unrecognizable stranger (which we sometimes see all in one day).  

I will cover the intoxicating highs of the 'love bombing' phase and its heartbreaking revelation as a facade, discuss how devaluation erodes self-esteem and learn strategies to reclaim your worth, and recognize the cold indifference during discard.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15400698 Wed, 31 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1321 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 146 full false Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet This episode delves into the emotions that surface when you can't seem to "get over" an abusive partner. It is so hard to move on from an abusive partner you have an attachment to. 

In this episode, I will discuss why understanding why it's challenging to move on from an abusive relationship, the societal pressures that make us feel like we should heal on a timeline and strategies for self-care and patience during the healing journey.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode delves into the emotions that surface when you can't seem to "get over" an abusive partner. It is so hard to move on from an abusive partner you have an attachment to. 

In this episode, I will discuss why understanding why it's challenging to move on from an abusive relationship, the societal pressures that make us feel like we should heal on a timeline and strategies for self-care and patience during the healing journey.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15379755 Wed, 24 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 635 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 145 full false Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma A trauma bond is not because you have shared trauma.  On this episode, I delve into the often misunderstood concept of trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are not formed by shared traumatic experiences but rather through betrayal trauma within the cycle of abuse. This podcast aims to clarify what constitutes a trauma bond and offers insights on how you can begin the healing process.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A trauma bond is not because you have shared trauma.  On this episode, I delve into the often misunderstood concept of trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are not formed by shared traumatic experiences but rather through betrayal trauma within the cycle of abuse. This podcast aims to clarify what constitutes a trauma bond and offers insights on how you can begin the healing process.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15382231 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 979 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 144 full false Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder Amy Fielder joins us to deep dive into the complexities of trauma, emotional abuse recovery, and reclaiming your inner voice. We explore how to identify manipulative behaviors and set healthy boundaries, strategies for healing after an abusive relationship and rebuilding self-trust and tuning into your own emotions. This is a must-listen-to episode if you are out of the relationship but still in the fog.

You can learn about Amy and her offerings here: https://amyfiedler.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Amy Fielder joins us to deep dive into the complexities of trauma, emotional abuse recovery, and reclaiming your inner voice. We explore how to identify manipulative behaviors and set healthy boundaries, strategies for healing after an abusive relationship and rebuilding self-trust and tuning into your own emotions. This is a must-listen-to episode if you are out of the relationship but still in the fog.

You can learn about Amy and her offerings here: https://amyfiedler.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15334634 Wed, 10 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3047 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 143 full false Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder You aren't sure if they are a Narcissist or not? Are they too emotional to be a Narcissist? Are you actually not sure what or who they are? If you are asking yourself these questions, this is the podcast for you. On this episode, we dive into a topic that is often scrutinized: BPD. Recognizing these stages allows one to understand what might seem inexplicable behavior patterns — providing clarity amidst confusion.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> You aren't sure if they are a Narcissist or not? Are they too emotional to be a Narcissist? Are you actually not sure what or who they are? If you are asking yourself these questions, this is the podcast for you. On this episode, we dive into a topic that is often scrutinized: BPD. Recognizing these stages allows one to understand what might seem inexplicable behavior patterns — providing clarity amidst confusion.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15330957 Wed, 03 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2516 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, bpd, borderline, borderlinepersonlitydisorder, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychop 142 full false Recognizing and Resisting Manipulation Recognizing and Resisting Manipulation Emotional manipulation often wears a disguise; it's subtle, insidious, and frequently masquerades as care or concern. In this episode, I discuss how manipulators tend to play down their actions by focusing on intentions rather than consequences. But here's the TL:DR: impact trumps intent every time. If someone continually hurts you under the guise of 'not meaning it,' it’s essential to question why their hurtful behavior persists despite their professed good intentions.

This is also the last episode under the "Relationship Recovery Podcast." We will go by "You're Not Crazy" this week.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Emotional manipulation often wears a disguise; it's subtle, insidious, and frequently masquerades as care or concern. In this episode, I discuss how manipulators tend to play down their actions by focusing on intentions rather than consequences. But here's the TL:DR: impact trumps intent every time. If someone continually hurts you under the guise of 'not meaning it,' it’s essential to question why their hurtful behavior persists despite their professed good intentions.

This is also the last episode under the "Relationship Recovery Podcast." We will go by "You're Not Crazy" this week.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15290182 Wed, 26 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1086 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 141 full false Co-Parenting with Grace: Navigating Difficult Waters with Kind Mama Coaching Co-Parenting with Grace: Navigating Difficult Waters with Kind Mama Coaching Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex can be one of the most challenging tasks a parent may face. It requires patience, communication, and above all else, an unwavering focus on the well-being of your child. Tessa from Kind Mama Coaching joins us to discuss her new childrens book, Stella's Two Homes, and strategies for co-parenting with a difficult ex. This is a very important and informative episode. The key takeaway? Keep your kids out of adult issues and avoid making them pick sides.

You can find Tessa here: https://www.kindmamadivorcecoaching.com/

Connect with her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/

Get a copy of her book! https://www.amazon.com/Stellas-Two-Homes-Tessa-Noel/dp/B0D1NR4S78

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex can be one of the most challenging tasks a parent may face. It requires patience, communication, and above all else, an unwavering focus on the well-being of your child. Tessa from Kind Mama Coaching joins us to discuss her new childrens book, Stella's Two Homes, and strategies for co-parenting with a difficult ex. This is a very important and informative episode. The key takeaway? Keep your kids out of adult issues and avoid making them pick sides.

You can find Tessa here: https://www.kindmamadivorcecoaching.com/

Connect with her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/

Get a copy of her book! https://www.amazon.com/Stellas-Two-Homes-Tessa-Noel/dp/B0D1NR4S78

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15198564 Wed, 19 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3896 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 140 full false Q&A Episode with Jessica Knight Q&A Episode with Jessica Knight In this episode, I answer pressing questions related to overcoming trauma bonds, whether abusive relationships can be salvaged post-trauma bond, recognizing final straws in leaving toxic relationships, coping with cognitive dissonance, returning items post-breakup while maintaining no contact, handling lack of accountability from abusers, interpreting friends' advice during abusive situations, understanding your partner's expression or lack thereof concerning terms of endearment – is it abuse? I end with thoughts on if the abuser will change.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I answer pressing questions related to overcoming trauma bonds, whether abusive relationships can be salvaged post-trauma bond, recognizing final straws in leaving toxic relationships, coping with cognitive dissonance, returning items post-breakup while maintaining no contact, handling lack of accountability from abusers, interpreting friends' advice during abusive situations, understanding your partner's expression or lack thereof concerning terms of endearment – is it abuse? I end with thoughts on if the abuser will change.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15198426 Wed, 12 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1368 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 139 full false Cognitive Dissonance with Kerry McAvoy Cognitive Dissonance with Kerry McAvoy  Kerry McAvoy joins us to discuss cognitive dissonance—a complex yet crucial concept that can profoundly affect one's clarity during and after an abusive relationship. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise as a retired psychologist who has authored books on the subject, Kerry delves into what cognitive dissonance feels like, how it manifests in relationships with manipulative individuals, and strategies for overcoming its paralyzing effects. 

We discuss:

  • The dual realities created by abusers through love bombing.
  • The three stages of cognitive dissonance victims often experience.
  • How confusion leads to deteriorating mental function under stress.
  • Why decisions become incredibly challenging when faced with conflicting versions of reality.
  • Strategies for identifying truth amidst manipulation.

You can learn more about Kerry and her groups here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]>  Kerry McAvoy joins us to discuss cognitive dissonance—a complex yet crucial concept that can profoundly affect one's clarity during and after an abusive relationship. Through her personal experiences and professional expertise as a retired psychologist who has authored books on the subject, Kerry delves into what cognitive dissonance feels like, how it manifests in relationships with manipulative individuals, and strategies for overcoming its paralyzing effects. 

We discuss:

  • The dual realities created by abusers through love bombing.
  • The three stages of cognitive dissonance victims often experience.
  • How confusion leads to deteriorating mental function under stress.
  • Why decisions become incredibly challenging when faced with conflicting versions of reality.
  • Strategies for identifying truth amidst manipulation.

You can learn more about Kerry and her groups here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15160543 Wed, 05 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2386 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 138 full false Navigating the Financial Storm of Divorce with Victoria Kirilloff Navigating the Financial Storm of Divorce with Victoria Kirilloff Going through a divorce can be one of life's most challenging experiences, especially when it involves financial manipulation, abuse and high-conflict dynamics. Victoria, an expert in managing the financial aspects during these trying times, joins us to discuss practical tools and mindset shifts to emerge financially secure and confident, even when going through a divorce.

Victoria has a wealth of information and tools on her website: https://www.divorceanalytics.com/


Support the show

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Going through a divorce can be one of life's most challenging experiences, especially when it involves financial manipulation, abuse and high-conflict dynamics. Victoria, an expert in managing the financial aspects during these trying times, joins us to discuss practical tools and mindset shifts to emerge financially secure and confident, even when going through a divorce.

Victoria has a wealth of information and tools on her website: https://www.divorceanalytics.com/


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15143654 Wed, 29 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2709 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 137 full false Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability Narcissists rewrite history to avoid accountability. You are not crazy. 

This quote resonates because abusive individuals manipulate reality to maintain control and make us doubt ourselves.

Remember that abusers target strong people who empathize deeply—this is part of their control strategy. They twist narratives to escape responsibility while making themselves victims—a tactic that keeps them in power over us.

In relationships with such individuals, we often feel stuck as they reject our perspectives and create an alternate reality where they're always right. It's crucial to recognize this pattern as intentional gaslighting designed to undermine our trust in ourselves.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Narcissists rewrite history to avoid accountability. You are not crazy. 

This quote resonates because abusive individuals manipulate reality to maintain control and make us doubt ourselves.

Remember that abusers target strong people who empathize deeply—this is part of their control strategy. They twist narratives to escape responsibility while making themselves victims—a tactic that keeps them in power over us.

In relationships with such individuals, we often feel stuck as they reject our perspectives and create an alternate reality where they're always right. It's crucial to recognize this pattern as intentional gaslighting designed to undermine our trust in ourselves.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15011283 Wed, 22 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1759 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 136 full false An Update on Christina Pierce An Update on Christina Pierce An update on the case of Christina Pierce. This episode was created based off pulling together a variety of public information. 

If you are listening to this podcast and have $1 to donate, please donate to Christina's GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-bring-christinas-children-home

You can follow Christina here: https://www.instagram.com/singlemamamagic

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> An update on the case of Christina Pierce. This episode was created based off pulling together a variety of public information. 

If you are listening to this podcast and have $1 to donate, please donate to Christina's GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-bring-christinas-children-home

You can follow Christina here: https://www.instagram.com/singlemamamagic

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-15006913 Thu, 16 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1377 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, custodypeace, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, n 135 full false Understanding the Nuance of the Cycle of Abuse Understanding the Nuance of the Cycle of Abuse This episode explores the nuance of the the cycle of abuse. Abuse is not always as clear-cut as physical violence; it often wears the mask of manipulation, control, and psychological harm. It's important to understand that abuse comes in many forms – belittling comments, gaslighting (making you doubt your reality), isolation from friends or family, financial control – these are all red flags signaling an unhealthy dynamic.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode explores the nuance of the the cycle of abuse. Abuse is not always as clear-cut as physical violence; it often wears the mask of manipulation, control, and psychological harm. It's important to understand that abuse comes in many forms – belittling comments, gaslighting (making you doubt your reality), isolation from friends or family, financial control – these are all red flags signaling an unhealthy dynamic.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14963858 Wed, 08 May 2024 00:00:00 -0400 1249 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 134 full false The Danger of Oversimplified Advice The Danger of Oversimplified Advice Social media platforms are notorious for their bite-sized content designed to grab attention quickly. However, this format often lacks nuance and depth. In the context of relationship advice like Todd's post, there’s no room to address individual circumstances or acknowledge that what works for one couple may be detrimental to another.

For those entangled in abusive dynamics—where manipulation skews perceptions—it’s essential to dissect whether compliance serves love or perpetuates control. It isn't about rejecting cooperation within a partnership; rather it's about safeguarding against coercion masquerading as compromise.

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

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Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Social media platforms are notorious for their bite-sized content designed to grab attention quickly. However, this format often lacks nuance and depth. In the context of relationship advice like Todd's post, there’s no room to address individual circumstances or acknowledge that what works for one couple may be detrimental to another.

For those entangled in abusive dynamics—where manipulation skews perceptions—it’s essential to dissect whether compliance serves love or perpetuates control. It isn't about rejecting cooperation within a partnership; rather it's about safeguarding against coercion masquerading as compromise.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14962208 Wed, 01 May 2024 00:00:00 -0400 402 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 133 full false Recognizing the Red Flags of Abuse Recognizing the Red Flags of Abuse In this episode, I speak openly about the red flags of abusive relationships.

For anyone feeling entrapped or seeking support in such situations, remember there are resources available to help navigate these turbulent waters—reach out if needed because sometimes validation can be the first step towards unburdening oneself completely.

Red Flags Discussed:

  1. Denial of Abuse
  2. Manipulation
  3. Self-Doubt
  4. Recording Evidence
  5. Victim Mentality
  6. Resistance to Ending Relationship
  7. Reaction Suppression
  8. Guilt Tripping
  9. Fear of Saying No/Enforcing Boundaries
  10. Body Language Discrepancies
  11. Sexual Coersion

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In this episode, I speak openly about the red flags of abusive relationships.

For anyone feeling entrapped or seeking support in such situations, remember there are resources available to help navigate these turbulent waters—reach out if needed because sometimes validation can be the first step towards unburdening oneself completely.

Red Flags Discussed:

  1. Denial of Abuse
  2. Manipulation
  3. Self-Doubt
  4. Recording Evidence
  5. Victim Mentality
  6. Resistance to Ending Relationship
  7. Reaction Suppression
  8. Guilt Tripping
  9. Fear of Saying No/Enforcing Boundaries
  10. Body Language Discrepancies
  11. Sexual Coersion

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14884654 Thu, 25 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1513 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 132 full false A Guide for Protective Moms with Courtney Gilmartin A Guide for Protective Moms with Courtney Gilmartin Courtney Gilmartin is at the forefront of advocating change within family courts through her organization New Jersey Protective Moms. On this episode, Courtney brings invaluable insights in navigating the Family Court System that resonate not just in New Jersey but across all states.

The term "protective mom" might be unfamiliar to some; it refers to mothers who fight tooth and nail within a legal system that often fails to safeguard them or their children against abusers adept at manipulating proceedings.

Courtney shed light on how domestic abuse isn’t always recognized by those entrusted with justice due to gaps in training regarding coercive control—a subtler form of abuse than physical violence yet equally damaging. 

Courtney has a wealth of information on her website: https://www.njprotectivemoms.org/

This is the resource list mentioned on the podcast:  https://www.njprotectivemoms.org/resources

Follow her on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/courtney.gilmartin/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Courtney Gilmartin is at the forefront of advocating change within family courts through her organization New Jersey Protective Moms. On this episode, Courtney brings invaluable insights in navigating the Family Court System that resonate not just in New Jersey but across all states.

The term "protective mom" might be unfamiliar to some; it refers to mothers who fight tooth and nail within a legal system that often fails to safeguard them or their children against abusers adept at manipulating proceedings.

Courtney shed light on how domestic abuse isn’t always recognized by those entrusted with justice due to gaps in training regarding coercive control—a subtler form of abuse than physical violence yet equally damaging. 

Courtney has a wealth of information on her website: https://www.njprotectivemoms.org/

This is the resource list mentioned on the podcast:  https://www.njprotectivemoms.org/resources

Follow her on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/courtney.gilmartin/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14872014 Wed, 17 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2805 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 131 full false Further Unpacking Gaslighting Further Unpacking Gaslighting Gaslighting is an insidious form of mental manipulation where one person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in another individual’s mind. The goal? To make them question their own judgment, memories, and even sanity—essentially discrediting their sense of reality. This nefarious technique can be subtle or overt but always aims to destabilize the victim and gain psychological control over them. This episode unpacks Gaslighting a little further based on recent questions from listeners.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Gaslighting is an insidious form of mental manipulation where one person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in another individual’s mind. The goal? To make them question their own judgment, memories, and even sanity—essentially discrediting their sense of reality. This nefarious technique can be subtle or overt but always aims to destabilize the victim and gain psychological control over them. This episode unpacks Gaslighting a little further based on recent questions from listeners.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14634826 Wed, 10 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 380 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 130 full false Breaking the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Discard with Ben Taylor Breaking the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Discard with Ben Taylor Ben Taylor joins us again for an in-depth discussion on one of the most bewildering and painful aspects of narcissistic relationships: The Discard. In this episode, we define the Discard, discuss the various forms it can take, and try to understand the "why" behind it. Ben, a self aware Narcissist, helps us understand the complexity of The Discard and why IT IS NOT PERSONAL.

You can learn more about Ben here: https://www.rawmotivations.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ben Taylor joins us again for an in-depth discussion on one of the most bewildering and painful aspects of narcissistic relationships: The Discard. In this episode, we define the Discard, discuss the various forms it can take, and try to understand the "why" behind it. Ben, a self aware Narcissist, helps us understand the complexity of The Discard and why IT IS NOT PERSONAL.

You can learn more about Ben here: https://www.rawmotivations.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14778551 Wed, 03 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3119 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 129 full false The 5 Love Languages Do Not Work With Abuse The 5 Love Languages Do Not Work With Abuse When Dr. Gary Chapman introduced the concept of the Five Love Languages, many embraced it as a revolutionary way to enhance communication and intimacy within relationships. These languages – words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch – have helped countless couples express their affection more effectively. However, what happens when these love languages are used to control a partner? Today, we're unraveling how the Five Love Languages can be twisted by abusive partners. 

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When Dr. Gary Chapman introduced the concept of the Five Love Languages, many embraced it as a revolutionary way to enhance communication and intimacy within relationships. These languages – words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch – have helped countless couples express their affection more effectively. However, what happens when these love languages are used to control a partner? Today, we're unraveling how the Five Love Languages can be twisted by abusive partners. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14649110 Wed, 27 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0400 923 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 128 full false Does the abuser see you as a person? Does the abuser see you as a person? In today's episode, we delve into a profound concept known as "the Teddy Bear Effect," which provides insight into manipulative expectations within abusive relationships.

The "Teddy Bear Effect" stems from Patricia Evans' analogy in her book Controlling People. It's about how abusers create an unrealistic version of their partner, treating them as if they were a teddy bear - compliant and devoid of personal needs or feelings. This pretend relationship ignores the authentic person's identity and imposes unfair standards that serve only the abuser's sense of control.

Key points discussed include:

  • The non-reciprocal nature of abusive relationships where expectations are one-sided.
  • How controllers project their own narrative onto their partners, ignoring true emotions and reactions.
  • The damaging impact on victims who feel unseen and unappreciated for who they truly are.

Here are the two books mentioned on the podcast:
Controlling People
The Verbally Abusive Relationship

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> In today's episode, we delve into a profound concept known as "the Teddy Bear Effect," which provides insight into manipulative expectations within abusive relationships.

The "Teddy Bear Effect" stems from Patricia Evans' analogy in her book Controlling People. It's about how abusers create an unrealistic version of their partner, treating them as if they were a teddy bear - compliant and devoid of personal needs or feelings. This pretend relationship ignores the authentic person's identity and imposes unfair standards that serve only the abuser's sense of control.

Key points discussed include:

  • The non-reciprocal nature of abusive relationships where expectations are one-sided.
  • How controllers project their own narrative onto their partners, ignoring true emotions and reactions.
  • The damaging impact on victims who feel unseen and unappreciated for who they truly are.

Here are the two books mentioned on the podcast:
Controlling People
The Verbally Abusive Relationship

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14691177 Wed, 20 Mar 2024 16:00:00 -0400 1017 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 127 full false Emotional Immaturity and it's Ties to Abuse Emotional Immaturity and it's Ties to Abuse Are you struggling to figure out what is going on in your relationship? In this episode, I unpack emotional immaturity and its connection to abusive behaviors in relationships. 

Key Points Discussed:

  • Self-Doubt vs. Self-Work: Many individuals question their sanity due to others not doing their work; it's essential for everyone to examine their behavior.
  • Emotional Maturity Misconceptions: Smart or successful people can still be emotionally immature; intelligence does not equate to maturity.
  • Signs of Emotional Immaturity: Lack of boundaries, difficulty with conflict resolution, inability to regulate emotions appropriately – these traits often present themselves subtly at first but are indicative of deeper issues.
  • Impact Over Intentions: The true measure is not what was intended but the actual impact a person's actions have on others.
  • Empathy Deficit: A lack of empathy can lead an emotionally immature individual to justify harmful behaviors without considering others' feelings.
  • Boundary Respect & Resolution Skills: Healthy relationships require respected boundaries and mature conflict resolution – something emotionally immature individuals struggle with.
  • Patterns vs. Moments: Distinguishing between occasional moments versus consistent patterns is critical when assessing someone’s emotional maturity level.

Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you struggling to figure out what is going on in your relationship? In this episode, I unpack emotional immaturity and its connection to abusive behaviors in relationships. 

Key Points Discussed:

  • Self-Doubt vs. Self-Work: Many individuals question their sanity due to others not doing their work; it's essential for everyone to examine their behavior.
  • Emotional Maturity Misconceptions: Smart or successful people can still be emotionally immature; intelligence does not equate to maturity.
  • Signs of Emotional Immaturity: Lack of boundaries, difficulty with conflict resolution, inability to regulate emotions appropriately – these traits often present themselves subtly at first but are indicative of deeper issues.
  • Impact Over Intentions: The true measure is not what was intended but the actual impact a person's actions have on others.
  • Empathy Deficit: A lack of empathy can lead an emotionally immature individual to justify harmful behaviors without considering others' feelings.
  • Boundary Respect & Resolution Skills: Healthy relationships require respected boundaries and mature conflict resolution – something emotionally immature individuals struggle with.
  • Patterns vs. Moments: Distinguishing between occasional moments versus consistent patterns is critical when assessing someone’s emotional maturity level.

Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14628565 Wed, 06 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1505 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 126 full false Recognizing Manipulation and Healing from Emotional Abuse Recognizing Manipulation and Healing from Emotional Abuse Have you ever found yourself questioning your reality within a relationship? If so, you're not alone. Many individuals struggle to reconcile the conflicting words and actions of their partners, especially when those partners are skilled manipulators or abusers. In today's episode, we delve into these discrepancies and offer insights on how to navigate through them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Have you ever found yourself questioning your reality within a relationship? If so, you're not alone. Many individuals struggle to reconcile the conflicting words and actions of their partners, especially when those partners are skilled manipulators or abusers. In today's episode, we delve into these discrepancies and offer insights on how to navigate through them.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14634649 Tue, 05 Mar 2024 15:00:00 -0500 1163 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 125 full false Understanding Trauma Responses and Triggers with Emmy Marie Understanding Trauma Responses and Triggers with Emmy Marie Emmy Marie joins me to dive into trauma responses—how they develop from abusive relationships and ways to manage them. It's crucial to know ourselves better without the weight of judgment or guilt.

We delve into how triggers can remind our bodies of past threats and activate our fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses. Recognizing these patterns allows us to seek safety cues that bring us back to a state of peace instead of shame or blame.

Emmy shares her journey as an abuse survivor turned coach for others healing from similar experiences. With certifications in somatic approaches and complex trauma recovery, she offers one-on-one coaching, courses, and validating social

You can learn more about Emmy here: https://www.instagram.com/bloomingwithemmy

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Emmy Marie joins me to dive into trauma responses—how they develop from abusive relationships and ways to manage them. It's crucial to know ourselves better without the weight of judgment or guilt.

We delve into how triggers can remind our bodies of past threats and activate our fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses. Recognizing these patterns allows us to seek safety cues that bring us back to a state of peace instead of shame or blame.

Emmy shares her journey as an abuse survivor turned coach for others healing from similar experiences. With certifications in somatic approaches and complex trauma recovery, she offers one-on-one coaching, courses, and validating social

You can learn more about Emmy here: https://www.instagram.com/bloomingwithemmy

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14534424 Wed, 28 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2794 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 124 full false Is it Emotional Abuse? Assessment Tool Is it Emotional Abuse? Assessment Tool Today's episode provides an assessment tool for understanding emotional abuse. Often, abusers distort our reality, making us question ourselves. This tool offers clarity and validation to identify what's truly happening in your relationship. Understanding context, intent, and effect is crucial as they reveal whether actions are part of systemic abuse or isolated incidents.

Remember that it’s not about individual behaviors but recognizing ongoing manipulation or exploitation patterns. These insights can empower you to make informed decisions about your relationship moving forward. The assessment tool is available on my website: emotionalabusecoach.com

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Today's episode provides an assessment tool for understanding emotional abuse. Often, abusers distort our reality, making us question ourselves. This tool offers clarity and validation to identify what's truly happening in your relationship. Understanding context, intent, and effect is crucial as they reveal whether actions are part of systemic abuse or isolated incidents.

Remember that it’s not about individual behaviors but recognizing ongoing manipulation or exploitation patterns. These insights can empower you to make informed decisions about your relationship moving forward. The assessment tool is available on my website: emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14534463 Thu, 22 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 414 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 123 full true Coercive Control Coercive Control Coercive control is psychological and emotional abuse involving manipulation and oppression—it often goes unnoticed as it disguises itself as care but undermines autonomy. Understanding it is crucial and this episode seeks to better understand this topic.

Key Points Discussed:

  • Definition and understanding of coercive control
  • The relationship between coercive control, traumatic bonding, and intermittent reinforcement
  • How victims may experience pressure to conform to an abuser's demands
  • Recognizing signs such as limiting autonomy, technological surveillance, health-related pressures, sexual coercion

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Coercive control is psychological and emotional abuse involving manipulation and oppression—it often goes unnoticed as it disguises itself as care but undermines autonomy. Understanding it is crucial and this episode seeks to better understand this topic.

Key Points Discussed:

  • Definition and understanding of coercive control
  • The relationship between coercive control, traumatic bonding, and intermittent reinforcement
  • How victims may experience pressure to conform to an abuser's demands
  • Recognizing signs such as limiting autonomy, technological surveillance, health-related pressures, sexual coercion

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14486206 Wed, 14 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1173 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 122 full false Single Mother Stripped of Parenting Rights: The Reality of High Conflict Divorce Single Mother Stripped of Parenting Rights: The Reality of High Conflict Divorce Christina Pierce is a single mother who was stripped of parental rights following her daughter’s heart-wrenching reports of abuse. With each court appearance and every legal document filed, Christina faced an uphill battle against not just her ex-partner but, the judge on her case. 

Christina's story is one that resonates with too many. As she navigated the turbulent waters of custody battles in Boston, Massachusetts, her journey has become emblematic of a system fraught with challenges.

Christina walks us through her story and the fight to get her parenting rights back in this episode. We discuss navigating false accusations, documenting meticulously yet knowing when to act decisively, police involvement, temporary suspensions of visitation rights, and gut-wrenching decisions made under duress—all pointing towards systemic failures at safeguarding those most vulnerable: our children.

Christina's fight mirrors struggles happening behind closed doors across nations.  

To learn more about Christina and her story, you can follow her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemamamagic/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/singlemamamagic/

GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-christina-return?utm_campaign=p_lico+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Christina Pierce is a single mother who was stripped of parental rights following her daughter’s heart-wrenching reports of abuse. With each court appearance and every legal document filed, Christina faced an uphill battle against not just her ex-partner but, the judge on her case. 

Christina's story is one that resonates with too many. As she navigated the turbulent waters of custody battles in Boston, Massachusetts, her journey has become emblematic of a system fraught with challenges.

Christina walks us through her story and the fight to get her parenting rights back in this episode. We discuss navigating false accusations, documenting meticulously yet knowing when to act decisively, police involvement, temporary suspensions of visitation rights, and gut-wrenching decisions made under duress—all pointing towards systemic failures at safeguarding those most vulnerable: our children.

Christina's fight mirrors struggles happening behind closed doors across nations.  

To learn more about Christina and her story, you can follow her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemamamagic/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/singlemamamagic/

GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-christina-return?utm_campaign=p_lico+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14436393 Sun, 04 Feb 2024 12:00:00 -0500 6707 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 121 full false Detaching from an Abusive Relationship Detaching from an Abusive Relationship How do we detach from an abusive partner?  This episode explores why detachment feels tough—it's often likened to breaking an addiction—and offer strategies for stepping back.

One common obstacle is the urge to control an ex-partner's actions post-breakup—like checking if they get to work—but this hinders our own healing process. We also tend to manage how much they miss us by monitoring social media interactions or ensuring visibility in their lives.

Detachment isn't just about creating space between you and another person; it’s about prioritizing yourself over someone who has had too much power over you. This podcast covers how to start detaching effectively.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How do we detach from an abusive partner?  This episode explores why detachment feels tough—it's often likened to breaking an addiction—and offer strategies for stepping back.

One common obstacle is the urge to control an ex-partner's actions post-breakup—like checking if they get to work—but this hinders our own healing process. We also tend to manage how much they miss us by monitoring social media interactions or ensuring visibility in their lives.

Detachment isn't just about creating space between you and another person; it’s about prioritizing yourself over someone who has had too much power over you. This podcast covers how to start detaching effectively.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14384598 Wed, 31 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1018 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 120 full false Healthy After Toxic with Ginger Dean Healthy After Toxic with Ginger Dean A lot of us wonder how we can be healthy after a toxic relationship. Today's guest, Ginger Dean, is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of Loving Me After We.  Ginger shares her expertise in helping women overcome toxic relationships to become their best selves. We discuss attachment trauma, abusive patterns and how to begin to heal.

Understanding personal needs is crucial; often derived from what was lacking in our past relationships. It’s important not only to know these needs but also seek partners who respect them instead of repeating patterns that hinder healing.

Her work includes the Inner Circle membership—a safe space for healing—and one-on-one coaching. Find her on Instagram @lovingmeafterwe or at lovingmeafterwe.com.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A lot of us wonder how we can be healthy after a toxic relationship. Today's guest, Ginger Dean, is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of Loving Me After We.  Ginger shares her expertise in helping women overcome toxic relationships to become their best selves. We discuss attachment trauma, abusive patterns and how to begin to heal.

Understanding personal needs is crucial; often derived from what was lacking in our past relationships. It’s important not only to know these needs but also seek partners who respect them instead of repeating patterns that hinder healing.

Her work includes the Inner Circle membership—a safe space for healing—and one-on-one coaching. Find her on Instagram @lovingmeafterwe or at lovingmeafterwe.com.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14357748 Wed, 24 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2576 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 119 full false Deciphering Personality Disorders and Navigating Manipulative Relationships with Kerry Kerr McAvoy Deciphering Personality Disorders and Navigating Manipulative Relationships with Kerry Kerr McAvoy What if you could decipher the enigmatic world of personality disorders? I'm your host, and in a captivating conversation with psychologist Carrie McAvoy, we unravel the complexities of personality disorders, like narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy. Carrie's professional expertise coupled with her personal experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse takes us deeper into understanding the profound impact of these disorders on our lives. We explore the public health implications of rising narcissism and the struggles of a family court system ill-equipped to handle abuse cases.

Moving beyond the initial exploration, Carrie and I delve into psychopathic and sociopathic traits. We expose how these traits can blend seamlessly into our daily interactions, often going unnoticed. Drawing on our personal experiences, we discuss how to deal with these personalities and establish healthy boundaries. Through our conversation, we aim to empower you in recognizing these traits and fortify your defenses against them.

Lastly, we underscore the role of self-awareness in managing manipulative relationships. We illustrate the importance of trusting your intuition and listening to your feelings in identifying toxic relationships. We also shed light on the societal pressures that often hinder us from speaking up for ourselves and share strategies to nurture emotional intelligence. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a toolkit of insights to navigate tricky relationships and spot manipulative behaviors. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation and join us as we break the cycle together.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What if you could decipher the enigmatic world of personality disorders? I'm your host, and in a captivating conversation with psychologist Carrie McAvoy, we unravel the complexities of personality disorders, like narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy. Carrie's professional expertise coupled with her personal experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse takes us deeper into understanding the profound impact of these disorders on our lives. We explore the public health implications of rising narcissism and the struggles of a family court system ill-equipped to handle abuse cases.

Moving beyond the initial exploration, Carrie and I delve into psychopathic and sociopathic traits. We expose how these traits can blend seamlessly into our daily interactions, often going unnoticed. Drawing on our personal experiences, we discuss how to deal with these personalities and establish healthy boundaries. Through our conversation, we aim to empower you in recognizing these traits and fortify your defenses against them.

Lastly, we underscore the role of self-awareness in managing manipulative relationships. We illustrate the importance of trusting your intuition and listening to your feelings in identifying toxic relationships. We also shed light on the societal pressures that often hinder us from speaking up for ourselves and share strategies to nurture emotional intelligence. By the end of our conversation, you'll have a toolkit of insights to navigate tricky relationships and spot manipulative behaviors. Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation and join us as we break the cycle together.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13954119 Wed, 17 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2312 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 118 full false Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies and Insights with Family Court Strategist Tori Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies and Insights with Family Court Strategist Tori Are you drowning in your High Conflict Divorce? Todays guest, Tori, a Family Court Strategist, shares expert strategies to navigate the turbulent waters of family court. Tori unravels the complexity of the family court system and illuminates the path to a smoother divorce process. Through her story, you'll learn how high-conflict divorces are often mislabeled domestic violence cases, why abusers prolong court cases, and the importance of a strategic approach.

We cover some key questions: How do we mediate effectively with an abuser? What tools do we need? Tori focuses on understanding your assets, knowing why you're fighting for what you want, and having a clear order of topics ready for when you're at the negotiation table. She also shares invaluable insights on documenting and categorizing instances of abuse, and the challenges that might arise during parenting time.

You can connect with Tori here: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/start-here

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you drowning in your High Conflict Divorce? Todays guest, Tori, a Family Court Strategist, shares expert strategies to navigate the turbulent waters of family court. Tori unravels the complexity of the family court system and illuminates the path to a smoother divorce process. Through her story, you'll learn how high-conflict divorces are often mislabeled domestic violence cases, why abusers prolong court cases, and the importance of a strategic approach.

We cover some key questions: How do we mediate effectively with an abuser? What tools do we need? Tori focuses on understanding your assets, knowing why you're fighting for what you want, and having a clear order of topics ready for when you're at the negotiation table. She also shares invaluable insights on documenting and categorizing instances of abuse, and the challenges that might arise during parenting time.

You can connect with Tori here: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/start-here

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13971796 Wed, 10 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2604 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 117 full false Inside the Mind of a Narcissist with Ben Taylor Inside the Mind of a Narcissist with Ben Taylor Ever wonder what a Narcissist is thinking? Today, we're pulling back the curtain in an enlightening conversation with Ben Taylor, a Self-Aware Narcissist. Ben guides us through narcissistic relationships, shedding light on complex dynamics like hoovering, discarding, and the head-spinning cycle of shame and blame. We also navigate through emotionally abusive behavior and discuss the crucial steps needed to break free and find a clear understanding of reality.

You can learn more about Ben here: https://www.rawmotivations.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ever wonder what a Narcissist is thinking? Today, we're pulling back the curtain in an enlightening conversation with Ben Taylor, a Self-Aware Narcissist. Ben guides us through narcissistic relationships, shedding light on complex dynamics like hoovering, discarding, and the head-spinning cycle of shame and blame. We also navigate through emotionally abusive behavior and discuss the crucial steps needed to break free and find a clear understanding of reality.

You can learn more about Ben here: https://www.rawmotivations.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13654953 Wed, 03 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2667 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 116 full false Navigating the Maze of Subtle Emotional Abuse Navigating the Maze of Subtle Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse is often depicted as a stark, unmistakable force in relationships. However, many suffer from a more insidious form that whispers and weaves itself into their lives with such subtlety that it's almost invisible. It can make victims doubt their sanity when they feel dismissed after trying to be heard. 

Today's episode dives into subtle emotional abuse by intelligent abusers who mask their manipulation as caring or rational explanations. 

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Emotional abuse is often depicted as a stark, unmistakable force in relationships. However, many suffer from a more insidious form that whispers and weaves itself into their lives with such subtlety that it's almost invisible. It can make victims doubt their sanity when they feel dismissed after trying to be heard. 

Today's episode dives into subtle emotional abuse by intelligent abusers who mask their manipulation as caring or rational explanations. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14152313 Wed, 27 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500 747 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 115 full false Decoding Narcissistic Abuse and Manipulation Tactics with Katherine Kleis Decoding Narcissistic Abuse and Manipulation Tactics with Katherine Kleis Do you find yourself confused by the terminology around Narcissistic Abuse? Katherine Kleis returns to unravel the complexities of narcissistic abuse. She helps us decipher the often bewildering lingo associated with Narcissistic relationships. We explore terms like bread crumbing and word salad and understand their role in the larger cycle of abuse. 

You can learn more about Katherine and her work here: https://www.standcoaching.com/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Do you find yourself confused by the terminology around Narcissistic Abuse? Katherine Kleis returns to unravel the complexities of narcissistic abuse. She helps us decipher the often bewildering lingo associated with Narcissistic relationships. We explore terms like bread crumbing and word salad and understand their role in the larger cycle of abuse. 

You can learn more about Katherine and her work here: https://www.standcoaching.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13926643 Wed, 20 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2292 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 114 full false Navigating the Journey from Emotional Abuse to Self-Awareness and Love Navigating the Journey from Emotional Abuse to Self-Awareness and Love How do you heal? In this episode, I dive into the emotional turmoil we all feel and how I emerged more self-aware, resilient and hopeful. 

I reveal how I found strength and broke free from a cycle of unhealthy relationships. We'll explore the vital mental shifts that were pivotal in this transformation, and how I recognized my pattern of settling for abusive and emotionally immature partners. 

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How do you heal? In this episode, I dive into the emotional turmoil we all feel and how I emerged more self-aware, resilient and hopeful. 

I reveal how I found strength and broke free from a cycle of unhealthy relationships. We'll explore the vital mental shifts that were pivotal in this transformation, and how I recognized my pattern of settling for abusive and emotionally immature partners. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13592109 Wed, 13 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500 1102 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 113 full false Understanding and Healing Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni Understanding and Healing Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni Are you stuck in a trauma bond and struggling to break it? Join Lisa Sonni and I are we dissest Trauma Bonding and paint a vivid picture of what trauma bonding looks like and feels like.

We shine a light on the psychological process that fosters a false sense of attachment in abusive relationships. We also bring to surface the feelings of fear, obligation, and guilt that often chain victims to their abusers. We end delving into the deceptive hope for change that blinds individuals to their existing circumstances. 

You can learn more about Lisa and her offerings here: 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you stuck in a trauma bond and struggling to break it? Join Lisa Sonni and I are we dissest Trauma Bonding and paint a vivid picture of what trauma bonding looks like and feels like.

We shine a light on the psychological process that fosters a false sense of attachment in abusive relationships. We also bring to surface the feelings of fear, obligation, and guilt that often chain victims to their abusers. We end delving into the deceptive hope for change that blinds individuals to their existing circumstances. 

You can learn more about Lisa and her offerings here: 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13882063 Wed, 06 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2770 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 112 full false Navigating the Holidays with Narcissistic Ex's and Co-Parenting Navigating the Holidays with Narcissistic Ex's and Co-Parenting 'tis the season for Narcissistic abuse! Does it feel like things are heightened right now? They likely are.  On this episode, we talk through some themes you may be noticing  this season, specifically with co-parenting and high conflict divorce. We will talk through the trends and end with some helpful strategies. 

If you need support: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> 'tis the season for Narcissistic abuse! Does it feel like things are heightened right now? They likely are.  On this episode, we talk through some themes you may be noticing  this season, specifically with co-parenting and high conflict divorce. We will talk through the trends and end with some helpful strategies. 

If you need support: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-14024063 Thu, 30 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0500 1115 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 111 full false Breaking the Cycle of Rumination with Trey Breaking the Cycle of Rumination with Trey Does it feel like you will never stop thinking about your ex? Trey De La Torre joins me to dive into rumination, analyze the motives behind narcissistic behaviors, and discuss the signs indicating a narcissist playing the victim.  His insightful humor, personal story, and strategies reveal an inspiring transformational journey. 

We cover understanding and overcoming rumination, sharing practical advice on breaking the cycle of excessive thinking. Together, we aim to provide a comprehensive guide to self-care and maintaining personal integrity, even in the face of adversity.

You can learn more about Trey's work here: https://treydelatorre.podia.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Does it feel like you will never stop thinking about your ex? Trey De La Torre joins me to dive into rumination, analyze the motives behind narcissistic behaviors, and discuss the signs indicating a narcissist playing the victim.  His insightful humor, personal story, and strategies reveal an inspiring transformational journey. 

We cover understanding and overcoming rumination, sharing practical advice on breaking the cycle of excessive thinking. Together, we aim to provide a comprehensive guide to self-care and maintaining personal integrity, even in the face of adversity.

You can learn more about Trey's work here: https://treydelatorre.podia.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13426218 Wed, 22 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2741 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, rumination, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd 110 full false Navigating Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni: Q&A Episode Navigating Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni: Q&A Episode Paul Colaianni joins us for a Q&A episode on Emotional Abuse. We discuss the challenging emotions that come with leaving an abusive relationship, and how understanding these emotions can be the key to reclaiming your personal power. We also delve into the complex territory of setting boundaries in abusive relationships - a stark contrast to the way boundaries function in a healthy relationship.

We shine a light on the healing journey post-abuse, focusing on self-reflection, self-validation, and the concept of re-parenting oneself. Paul candidly discusses his personal journey toward healing and offers invaluable advice to anyone looking to break free from abusive patterns. 

You can learn more about Paul here: loveandabuse.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Paul Colaianni joins us for a Q&A episode on Emotional Abuse. We discuss the challenging emotions that come with leaving an abusive relationship, and how understanding these emotions can be the key to reclaiming your personal power. We also delve into the complex territory of setting boundaries in abusive relationships - a stark contrast to the way boundaries function in a healthy relationship.

We shine a light on the healing journey post-abuse, focusing on self-reflection, self-validation, and the concept of re-parenting oneself. Paul candidly discusses his personal journey toward healing and offers invaluable advice to anyone looking to break free from abusive patterns. 

You can learn more about Paul here: loveandabuse.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13370941 Wed, 15 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500 3088 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 109 full false Love Addiction: Understanding and Overcoming with Psychotherapist Jodi White Love Addiction: Understanding and Overcoming with Psychotherapist Jodi White What is Love Addiction? Jodi White, a seasoned psychotherapist, joins me to discuss what Love Addiction is and how we can heal. Jodi  has devoted her career to helping individuals overcome love addiction and heal from trauma. 

This episode covers the heart of love addiction, unearthing its roots in developmental trauma and revealing the blurred boundaries between this and emotional abuse. Our dialogue dissects the societal influences and the common misconceptions that romanticize love addiction. We also discuss the importance of solid self-esteem and identity before entering into a relationship. 

You can learn more about Jodi and her work here: https://www.jodiwhitetherapy.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What is Love Addiction? Jodi White, a seasoned psychotherapist, joins me to discuss what Love Addiction is and how we can heal. Jodi  has devoted her career to helping individuals overcome love addiction and heal from trauma. 

This episode covers the heart of love addiction, unearthing its roots in developmental trauma and revealing the blurred boundaries between this and emotional abuse. Our dialogue dissects the societal influences and the common misconceptions that romanticize love addiction. We also discuss the importance of solid self-esteem and identity before entering into a relationship. 

You can learn more about Jodi and her work here: https://www.jodiwhitetherapy.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13832676 Wed, 08 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2592 domesticviolence, loveaddiction, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healin 108 full false Working Through Trauma from Abuse with Emmy Marie Working Through Trauma from Abuse with Emmy Marie What does it take to work through trauma and be on a path towards healing and empowerment? Emmy Marie, a certified trauma-informed coach, joins us to discuss complex PTSD and her journey towards reclaiming her power.

Emmy articulates the complex relationship between trauma and personal relationships. She emphasizes how the fog of abuse can blur the lines between love and respect, impacting our sense of self-worth. She offers a practical approach to recognize and express emotional needs, create healthy boundaries and cultivate self-compassion.

You can learn more about Emmy and connect with her here: bloomingwithemmy.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What does it take to work through trauma and be on a path towards healing and empowerment? Emmy Marie, a certified trauma-informed coach, joins us to discuss complex PTSD and her journey towards reclaiming her power.

Emmy articulates the complex relationship between trauma and personal relationships. She emphasizes how the fog of abuse can blur the lines between love and respect, impacting our sense of self-worth. She offers a practical approach to recognize and express emotional needs, create healthy boundaries and cultivate self-compassion.

You can learn more about Emmy and connect with her here: bloomingwithemmy.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13693714 Wed, 01 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2292 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 107 full false Recognizing and Healing from Covert Narcissism with Erin Riley Recognizing and Healing from Covert Narcissism with Erin Riley Erin Riley,  the author of A Dark Force 20 Years with a Covert Narcissist,  takes us through her journey from having a successful and vibrant professional in the music and entertainment industry to being entrapped in the shadows of a covert narcissist. She  unfolds the realities of narcissistic abuse, revealing how she fell into the love bombing scheme and how she struggled to understand the complex dynamics of her relationship.

You can connect with Erin here: https://www.erinriley.com/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Erin Riley,  the author of A Dark Force 20 Years with a Covert Narcissist,  takes us through her journey from having a successful and vibrant professional in the music and entertainment industry to being entrapped in the shadows of a covert narcissist. She  unfolds the realities of narcissistic abuse, revealing how she fell into the love bombing scheme and how she struggled to understand the complex dynamics of her relationship.

You can connect with Erin here: https://www.erinriley.com/

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{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13395154 Wed, 25 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2449 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 106 full false How to Divorce a Narcissist with Tina Swithin How to Divorce a Narcissist with Tina Swithin Tina Swithin, author of Divorcing a Narcissist and creator of OneMomsBattle.com, has been committed to helping others divorce abusive partners for decades. Together, we dissect the complexities of divorcing a Narcissist and how to protect your children.

Our conversation is rooted in our experiences and knowledge, but this isn't a source for legal advice. You should always engage an attorney on the legalities.

In this episode we discuss the trials of securing a family court attorney with a deep understanding of emotional and psychological abuse cases. We discuss the necessity of maintaining financials separate from custody decisions and suggested strategies for engaging with an abusive co-parent in a court setting. 

If you need help with your case, you can connect with me at: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Connect with Tina here: OneMomsBattle.com

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Tina Swithin, author of Divorcing a Narcissist and creator of OneMomsBattle.com, has been committed to helping others divorce abusive partners for decades. Together, we dissect the complexities of divorcing a Narcissist and how to protect your children.

Our conversation is rooted in our experiences and knowledge, but this isn't a source for legal advice. You should always engage an attorney on the legalities.

In this episode we discuss the trials of securing a family court attorney with a deep understanding of emotional and psychological abuse cases. We discuss the necessity of maintaining financials separate from custody decisions and suggested strategies for engaging with an abusive co-parent in a court setting. 

If you need help with your case, you can connect with me at: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Connect with Tina here: OneMomsBattle.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13581367 Wed, 18 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0400 3084 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 105 full false Reactive Abuse: Recognizing Patterns with Paul Colaianni Reactive Abuse: Recognizing Patterns with Paul Colaianni Navigating the labyrinth of emotional abuse can often be overwhelming. Paul Colainni joins us to help demystify reactive abuse - an insidious form of emotional manipulation where the abuser blames the victim for reacting to the abuse. We dissect the anatomy of reactive abuse, decode the abuser's intentions, and offer insights on how to differentiate it from your response. 

You can connect with Paul here: loveandabuse.com

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Navigating the labyrinth of emotional abuse can often be overwhelming. Paul Colainni joins us to help demystify reactive abuse - an insidious form of emotional manipulation where the abuser blames the victim for reacting to the abuse. We dissect the anatomy of reactive abuse, decode the abuser's intentions, and offer insights on how to differentiate it from your response. 

You can connect with Paul here: loveandabuse.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13673390 Wed, 11 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2554 104 full false Understanding and Overcoming Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships with Dr. Frieda Understanding and Overcoming Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships with Dr. Frieda Dr. Freida joins us to break down Gaslighting.  With her vast experience as a research psychologist, psychoanalyst, and psychotherapist, Dr. Frida helps us decipher the manipulative tactics often used in abusive relationships. We peel back the layers of gaslighting, understanding its nuances, and how it permeates different areas of life. 

Learn the signs of manipulation, and listen as Dr. Frida shares invaluable resources for those ready to step out of toxicity.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Dr. Freida joins us to break down Gaslighting.  With her vast experience as a research psychologist, psychoanalyst, and psychotherapist, Dr. Frida helps us decipher the manipulative tactics often used in abusive relationships. We peel back the layers of gaslighting, understanding its nuances, and how it permeates different areas of life. 

Learn the signs of manipulation, and listen as Dr. Frida shares invaluable resources for those ready to step out of toxicity.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13345484 Wed, 04 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2392 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 103 full false Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse Have you ever found yourself looking inward when a relationship goes sour, questioning your every action and thought, neglecting to consider the other person's behavior? It's a common pitfall many of us face, particularly those of us who have had the misfortune of dealing with a narcissist. In this episode, I share some personal reflections on this topic, exploring the dangerous territory of ignoring red flags and manipulative behaviours, blinded by our own introspection. 

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Have you ever found yourself looking inward when a relationship goes sour, questioning your every action and thought, neglecting to consider the other person's behavior? It's a common pitfall many of us face, particularly those of us who have had the misfortune of dealing with a narcissist. In this episode, I share some personal reflections on this topic, exploring the dangerous territory of ignoring red flags and manipulative behaviours, blinded by our own introspection. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13214068 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0400 365 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 102 full false Recognizing and Overcoming Abusive Relationships: Episode 100 Recognizing and Overcoming Abusive Relationships: Episode 100 On the 100th episode of the Relationship Recovery Podcast, I will guide you through identifying the red flags that signal emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse, empowering you to trust your feelings and reclaim your life.

Our discussion starts with a deep dive into the subtle yet profound signs of abusive behavior, from controlling actions to emotional manipulations. We'll also shed light on how such behaviors like jealousy, rapid involvement, and unrealistic expectations can indicate an abusive relationship. I'll share insights on how abusers use their partner's feelings against them, and how you can protect yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> On the 100th episode of the Relationship Recovery Podcast, I will guide you through identifying the red flags that signal emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse, empowering you to trust your feelings and reclaim your life.

Our discussion starts with a deep dive into the subtle yet profound signs of abusive behavior, from controlling actions to emotional manipulations. We'll also shed light on how such behaviors like jealousy, rapid involvement, and unrealistic expectations can indicate an abusive relationship. I'll share insights on how abusers use their partner's feelings against them, and how you can protect yourself.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13261080 Wed, 20 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1306 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 101 full false Regaining Control in Toxic Relationships Regaining Control in Toxic Relationships Are you feeling trapped in a toxic relationship and struggling to set boundaries? This episode explores how to set a boundary using "canned responses," a powerful tool that could transform your interactions with a narcissistic or abusive partner. Listen in as we dissect this mechanism that allows you to maintain emotional neutrality while firmly establishing your limits, putting an end to the exhausting cycle of disagreements that might be draining you.

You can download the free resource here: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/communication/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you feeling trapped in a toxic relationship and struggling to set boundaries? This episode explores how to set a boundary using "canned responses," a powerful tool that could transform your interactions with a narcissistic or abusive partner. Listen in as we dissect this mechanism that allows you to maintain emotional neutrality while firmly establishing your limits, putting an end to the exhausting cycle of disagreements that might be draining you.

You can download the free resource here: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/communication/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13214115 Wed, 13 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0400 580 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 100 full false End of Friendships & Navigating Post-Trauma Relationships End of Friendships & Navigating Post-Trauma Relationships Have you ever felt the crushing weight of losing a friend who simply couldn't understand your life circumstances or struggles? I know I have. As a single, self-employed mom, I've experienced the harsh reality of friendships fading away as life's complexities took over. I've been in that space where it felt like I was the only one working to keep the relationship alive. This episode dives into such personal experiences, shedding light on the often overlooked aspect of life - the end of friendships and the trauma that ensues.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Have you ever felt the crushing weight of losing a friend who simply couldn't understand your life circumstances or struggles? I know I have. As a single, self-employed mom, I've experienced the harsh reality of friendships fading away as life's complexities took over. I've been in that space where it felt like I was the only one working to keep the relationship alive. This episode dives into such personal experiences, shedding light on the often overlooked aspect of life - the end of friendships and the trauma that ensues.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13239218 Wed, 06 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0400 923 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 99 full false Choosing a Therapist or Life Coach when Healing from Abuse Choosing a Therapist or Life Coach when Healing from Abuse Imagine going through a grueling therapy session, hoping to find help and healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse, only to discover that your therapist isn't equipped with the expertise you need. In this episode, I will shed light on the importance of seeking specialized training when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I also explain why not every therapist or counselor may be the right fit for this complex journey.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Imagine going through a grueling therapy session, hoping to find help and healing from narcissistic and emotional abuse, only to discover that your therapist isn't equipped with the expertise you need. In this episode, I will shed light on the importance of seeking specialized training when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I also explain why not every therapist or counselor may be the right fit for this complex journey.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13214093 Wed, 30 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1197 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 98 full false Unraveling Insecure Attachment Styles: Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety in Relationships Unraveling Insecure Attachment Styles: Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety in Relationships Have you ever pondered why you behave the way you do in relationships? Are you often left puzzled by your reactions to certain situations? Melissa, a psychologist and life coach, explore the three attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - delving deep into how they can shift based on who you're sharing your life with. We also tackle the blame that individuals in unhealthy relationships often bear, offering tips on gaining self-awareness to navigate through anxious attachment styles.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Have you ever pondered why you behave the way you do in relationships? Are you often left puzzled by your reactions to certain situations? Melissa, a psychologist and life coach, explore the three attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - delving deep into how they can shift based on who you're sharing your life with. We also tackle the blame that individuals in unhealthy relationships often bear, offering tips on gaining self-awareness to navigate through anxious attachment styles.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13135374 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1500 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 97 full false Unraveling the Family Court System: Strategies for Protecting Your Child in High Conflict Divorces Unraveling the Family Court System: Strategies for Protecting Your Child in High Conflict Divorces If you're eventually going to be entering the family court system, you must listen to this episode. As a seasoned high conflict divorce coach, I've seen how the court system often fails to prioritize the child's best interest. Abusers and Narcissists, armed with charm and manipulative tactics, can twist the system to their advantage. Today, we're going to unravel this complex web, giving you the knowledge to protect yourself and your children in the face of narcissistic or emotional abuse.

For additional support and learning more: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Here are additional episodes on this topic:
Unraveling the Family Court System: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/13042085

Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/12218926



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> If you're eventually going to be entering the family court system, you must listen to this episode. As a seasoned high conflict divorce coach, I've seen how the court system often fails to prioritize the child's best interest. Abusers and Narcissists, armed with charm and manipulative tactics, can twist the system to their advantage. Today, we're going to unravel this complex web, giving you the knowledge to protect yourself and your children in the face of narcissistic or emotional abuse.

For additional support and learning more: https://high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com/

Here are additional episodes on this topic:
Unraveling the Family Court System: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/13042085

Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/12218926



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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13135366 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0400 611 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 96 full false Escaping the Cycle: Healing from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonds with Ben Taylor Escaping the Cycle: Healing from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonds with Ben Taylor Are you tired of feeling trapped in toxic relationships? Ben Taylor joins me to unveil the reasons behind why we get stuck in toxic relationships, the cycle of toxicity, and how to break free.

Through personal stories and client experiences, we highlight the importance of taking responsibility for our healing journey and the crucial role honesty plays in overcoming toxic patterns. 

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you tired of feeling trapped in toxic relationships? Ben Taylor joins me to unveil the reasons behind why we get stuck in toxic relationships, the cycle of toxicity, and how to break free.

Through personal stories and client experiences, we highlight the importance of taking responsibility for our healing journey and the crucial role honesty plays in overcoming toxic patterns. 

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13105634 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2403 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 95 full false Journey to Healing: Overcoming Trauma through Therapy, Yoga and Mindfulness with Anna Hindell Journey to Healing: Overcoming Trauma through Therapy, Yoga and Mindfulness with Anna Hindell Do you feel caught in a Trauma Response? Anna Hindell, a NY based psychotherapist and Iyengar Yoga Instructor, jouns me to discuss the turbulent waters of trauma, especially after emotional and narcissistic abuse. We unravel the complex web of our body's fight-or-flight response to trauma and discuss how engaging in therapy and mindful practices like meditation and yoga can rewire our responses. With Anna's expertise, we unearth how consciously reconnecting with ourselves can lay the groundwork for recovery.

We also break down the rumination cycle and share strategies to escape it. Anna highlights the value of building trust in therapeutic relationships, and how developing an awareness of our body's signals can act as a grounding technique when trying to separate from toxic situations. 

You can connect with Anna here: https://www.annahindell.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Do you feel caught in a Trauma Response? Anna Hindell, a NY based psychotherapist and Iyengar Yoga Instructor, jouns me to discuss the turbulent waters of trauma, especially after emotional and narcissistic abuse. We unravel the complex web of our body's fight-or-flight response to trauma and discuss how engaging in therapy and mindful practices like meditation and yoga can rewire our responses. With Anna's expertise, we unearth how consciously reconnecting with ourselves can lay the groundwork for recovery.

We also break down the rumination cycle and share strategies to escape it. Anna highlights the value of building trust in therapeutic relationships, and how developing an awareness of our body's signals can act as a grounding technique when trying to separate from toxic situations. 

You can connect with Anna here: https://www.annahindell.com/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13135373 Wed, 02 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1849 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 94 full false Love After Abuse with Nia Renee Love After Abuse with Nia Renee Navigating love after abuse can be very difficult. Nia Renee candidly admits that revisiting her abusive past can be challenging but necessary for healing. We delve into our personal experiences of learning how to love again after enduring such trauma. This episode aims to provide insight into navigating love post-abuse.

Nia Renee, known as "How to Love a Battered Woman" on Instagram where she shares her journey of overcoming narcissistic abuse. You can follow her here: @howtoloveabatteredwoman

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Navigating love after abuse can be very difficult. Nia Renee candidly admits that revisiting her abusive past can be challenging but necessary for healing. We delve into our personal experiences of learning how to love again after enduring such trauma. This episode aims to provide insight into navigating love post-abuse.

Nia Renee, known as "How to Love a Battered Woman" on Instagram where she shares her journey of overcoming narcissistic abuse. You can follow her here: @howtoloveabatteredwoman

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13056543 Wed, 26 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2813 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 93 full false How to Begin to Heal from a Trauma Bond How to Begin to Heal from a Trauma Bond How do you begin to heal from a Trauma Bond? A 10 minute podcast will not fully answer that question, but it's a start.

Recently, I posted a definition of Trauma Bonding on my Instagram: trauma bonding is a misplaced loyalty where a victim is emotionally bonded with their abuser and finds themselves unable to leave an unhealthy relationship. The victim remains loyal to someone who has betrayed them time and time again.

I had a few people comment on that post asking --- so what's the next step? I was once looking for this answer, so I wanted to take some time to talk about what it takes to begin to heal through a trauma bond.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How do you begin to heal from a Trauma Bond? A 10 minute podcast will not fully answer that question, but it's a start.

Recently, I posted a definition of Trauma Bonding on my Instagram: trauma bonding is a misplaced loyalty where a victim is emotionally bonded with their abuser and finds themselves unable to leave an unhealthy relationship. The victim remains loyal to someone who has betrayed them time and time again.

I had a few people comment on that post asking --- so what's the next step? I was once looking for this answer, so I wanted to take some time to talk about what it takes to begin to heal through a trauma bond.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13065320 Wed, 19 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0400 608 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 92 full false Breaking Free from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Breaking Free from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Learn to identify and understand manipulative behavior and set boundaries that protect and empower you. The transformation is difficult, but with commitment, time, and resources, I reclaimed my life from the grips of emotional abuse, and I know you too. This episode unpacks my healing program: The Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Learn to identify and understand manipulative behavior and set boundaries that protect and empower you. The transformation is difficult, but with commitment, time, and resources, I reclaimed my life from the grips of emotional abuse, and I know you too. This episode unpacks my healing program: The Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13214075 Fri, 14 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0400 223 91 full false Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist {Interview with Tori} Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist {Interview with Tori} Tori Benitez of Onyx Arrow Consulting joins me to discuss the realities of the Family Court system and the importance of having a strategy when divorcing a Narcissist. In this episode, Tori and I break down the complexities of the Family Court system and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist.

According to Tori, family Court is like one big game of chess where children are seen as posessions. This is exactly how Judges, and other court professionals, and your abusive ex, sees them. To play the sick game of “winning” you have to not be distracted by how many little pieces your ex “wins” along the way.

Tori is a Divorce Coach and helps empower DV victims by using strategies within the Family Court system. 

You can connect with Tori here:

Website: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onyxarrow.consulting/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Tori Benitez of Onyx Arrow Consulting joins me to discuss the realities of the Family Court system and the importance of having a strategy when divorcing a Narcissist. In this episode, Tori and I break down the complexities of the Family Court system and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist.

According to Tori, family Court is like one big game of chess where children are seen as posessions. This is exactly how Judges, and other court professionals, and your abusive ex, sees them. To play the sick game of “winning” you have to not be distracted by how many little pieces your ex “wins” along the way.

Tori is a Divorce Coach and helps empower DV victims by using strategies within the Family Court system. 

You can connect with Tori here:

Website: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onyxarrow.consulting/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-13042085 Wed, 12 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2916 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 90 full false "How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" "How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" "How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" This question came from somebody who emailed me and said: "How do I get them to understand me? Apparently it's rude to have boundaries or just say no."

I hear this question all the time and decided to take this episode to answer the question. 

I would love to hear what you think: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> "How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?" This question came from somebody who emailed me and said: "How do I get them to understand me? Apparently it's rude to have boundaries or just say no."

I hear this question all the time and decided to take this episode to answer the question. 

I would love to hear what you think: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12450560 Wed, 05 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0400 587 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 89 full false How I Got Here - My Story How I Got Here - My Story I went for Narcissists and assholes because it was more familiar to feel *not good enough* than to feel valued. That was my version of safe. That was what I knew love to be. I pushed away every nice guy that came my way and prioritized going back to hurtful relationships with men who never valued me for me (they valued me so long as I fit in the box they wanted me to fit in).  This podcast unpacks my story. I know you may see yourself in it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I went for Narcissists and assholes because it was more familiar to feel *not good enough* than to feel valued. That was my version of safe. That was what I knew love to be. I pushed away every nice guy that came my way and prioritized going back to hurtful relationships with men who never valued me for me (they valued me so long as I fit in the box they wanted me to fit in).  This podcast unpacks my story. I know you may see yourself in it.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12450556 Wed, 28 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1350 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 88 full false Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse with Manjit Rupri Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse with Manjit Rupri What is the relationship between Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse Codependents lack a healthy relationship with themselves as they self-sabotage by putting others first - which is a perfect match for a Narcissist. In this episode, Manjit unpacks the connect

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1

Instagram: https://instagram.com/manjit_ruprai

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/manjitkaurruprai

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What is the relationship between Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse Codependents lack a healthy relationship with themselves as they self-sabotage by putting others first - which is a perfect match for a Narcissist. In this episode, Manjit unpacks the connect

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1

Instagram: https://instagram.com/manjit_ruprai

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/manjitkaurruprai

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12288340 Wed, 21 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2061 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 87 full false Inside Love You More: Surviving Emotional, Sexual and Financial Abuse Inside Love You More: Surviving Emotional, Sexual and Financial Abuse Kerry Kerr McAvoy returns to talk to us about her book, Love You More, and her journey leaving an abusive relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath.

When Kerry met her ex, he was everything she wanted in a partner. Yet months after the wedding, she woke up to an unknown woman’s text: “I guess the joke is not just on me but on you too. I’ve been dating your husband.” 

Shocked, trapped, and still in love, she didn’t leave. For the years following, Kerry's life turned into a living hell as she tried to save the relationship and understand how someone could act the way he was.

On this podcast, Kerry and I take a deep dive into her book, Love You More, and how she survived emotional abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse.

You can learn more about Kerry here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

You can get a copy of Kerry's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction/dp/0984320598?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=jessicaknig00-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=98ac41dec5a6f492a033f9254b9c0260&camp=1789&creative=9325

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Kerry Kerr McAvoy returns to talk to us about her book, Love You More, and her journey leaving an abusive relationship with a Narcissistic Sociopath.

When Kerry met her ex, he was everything she wanted in a partner. Yet months after the wedding, she woke up to an unknown woman’s text: “I guess the joke is not just on me but on you too. I’ve been dating your husband.” 

Shocked, trapped, and still in love, she didn’t leave. For the years following, Kerry's life turned into a living hell as she tried to save the relationship and understand how someone could act the way he was.

On this podcast, Kerry and I take a deep dive into her book, Love You More, and how she survived emotional abuse, financial abuse and sexual abuse.

You can learn more about Kerry here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/

You can get a copy of Kerry's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction/dp/0984320598?&_encoding=UTF8&tag=jessicaknig00-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=98ac41dec5a6f492a033f9254b9c0260&camp=1789&creative=9325

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12666680 Wed, 14 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2373 domesticviolence, gaslighting, financial abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traum 86 full false Growing Up in a Narcissistic Home & Healing from Abuse with Katherine Kleis Growing Up in a Narcissistic Home & Healing from Abuse with Katherine Kleis After growing up in an abusive home, I never 'bought' the theory that Narcissists are Narcissists because of their upbringing. Katherine Kleis' story has many parralels to mine. She joins me to discuss her upbringing, how she left her Narcissistic parents, and how she healed from Narcissistic relationships. 

No matter where you come from or where you have been, it is important to never stop fighting for yourself.

Katherine runs STAND Coaching. Her mission is to help empower clients to take back control of their life. You can connect with her here: https://www.standcoaching.com/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> After growing up in an abusive home, I never 'bought' the theory that Narcissists are Narcissists because of their upbringing. Katherine Kleis' story has many parralels to mine. She joins me to discuss her upbringing, how she left her Narcissistic parents, and how she healed from Narcissistic relationships. 

No matter where you come from or where you have been, it is important to never stop fighting for yourself.

Katherine runs STAND Coaching. Her mission is to help empower clients to take back control of their life. You can connect with her here: https://www.standcoaching.com/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12723825 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2583 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 85 full false The Healing Empath with Raven Scott The Healing Empath with Raven Scott Raven Scott, from the Raven Scott Show, joins me to discuss her journey, her book, The Empath and the Narcissist, and how she uses spirituality to help people heal from Narcissistic Abuse. 

Through grounded and heart centered teachings, Raven elevates the spiritual journey and concepts that you are uniquely magnificent and contrary to your doubts, you are here for a purpose. 

Her unique approach to addressing the souls journey v the ego’s protection mode, gives men and women hope and clarity of their themes they grow from. 

As an international author, narcissist abuse recovering coach, Podcast host of Empath & Narcissist and Human Design Readier, she is dispelling  the  narcissist power one soul at a time. 

You can find Raven here: https://ravenscott.show/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Raven Scott, from the Raven Scott Show, joins me to discuss her journey, her book, The Empath and the Narcissist, and how she uses spirituality to help people heal from Narcissistic Abuse. 

Through grounded and heart centered teachings, Raven elevates the spiritual journey and concepts that you are uniquely magnificent and contrary to your doubts, you are here for a purpose. 

Her unique approach to addressing the souls journey v the ego’s protection mode, gives men and women hope and clarity of their themes they grow from. 

As an international author, narcissist abuse recovering coach, Podcast host of Empath & Narcissist and Human Design Readier, she is dispelling  the  narcissist power one soul at a time. 

You can find Raven here: https://ravenscott.show/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12503647 Wed, 31 May 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2565 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 84 full false The Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse with Rossana Faye The Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse with Rossana Faye Maybe you are unsure if your relationship is unhealthy.  Maybe you are stuck in a trauma bond. Maybe you feel manipulated, used, lied to. Maybe you are reflecting on past relationships wondering if you were abused. Wherever you are -- if you are stuck in the cycle of Narcissistic Abuse, this episode is a must-listen-to.

Coach Ro joins me to unpack the Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse. Rossana Faye was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. She now helps women heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

You can find Ro here: https://rollercoasteroflove.ca/

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_rollercoasteroflove/

Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_rollercoasteroflove


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Maybe you are unsure if your relationship is unhealthy.  Maybe you are stuck in a trauma bond. Maybe you feel manipulated, used, lied to. Maybe you are reflecting on past relationships wondering if you were abused. Wherever you are -- if you are stuck in the cycle of Narcissistic Abuse, this episode is a must-listen-to.

Coach Ro joins me to unpack the Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse. Rossana Faye was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. She now helps women heal from Narcissistic Abuse.

You can find Ro here: https://rollercoasteroflove.ca/

Connect with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_rollercoasteroflove/

Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_rollercoasteroflove


Support the show

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12424164 Wed, 24 May 2023 06:00:00 -0400 3054 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 83 full false Importance of Community when Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Kerry McAvoy Importance of Community when Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Kerry McAvoy Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12721825 Fri, 12 May 2023 06:00:00 -0400 4224 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 82 full false What is Trauma Bonding? What is Trauma Bonding? What is trauma bonding? How do we get trauma bonded? How can we recognize the signs? This episode explains what it is and how we get trauma bonded.

If you want to listen to a more detailed episode, listen to this one: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10022992

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What is trauma bonding? How do we get trauma bonded? How can we recognize the signs? This episode explains what it is and how we get trauma bonded.

If you want to listen to a more detailed episode, listen to this one: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10022992

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12486892 Wed, 10 May 2023 13:00:00 -0400 902 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 81 full false The Intersection Between Christianity and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor The Intersection Between Christianity and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor Ben Taylor returns to discuss the complex topic of the Intersection of Christianity and Narcissism. 


Support the show

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ben Taylor returns to discuss the complex topic of the Intersection of Christianity and Narcissism. 


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12459399 Wed, 03 May 2023 06:00:00 -0400 3480 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 80 full false Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse with Trey Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse with Trey What does Narcissistic Abuse look and feel like? I dive into that question with Trey as we explore his journey in healing.

Trey is a content creator and coach. There are many content creators on Instagram and TikTok, but few speak so you can really hear it. Trey's message spoke to me. I knew little about his story before we recorded and our similarities amazed me.

In this episode, Trey walks us through his story and how he understood he was in an abusive relationship. This is a must listen to episode, especially for those that are in the aftermath of abuse.

You can find all of Trey's offerings here: https://beacons.ai/iwaslikeyo_trey

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What does Narcissistic Abuse look and feel like? I dive into that question with Trey as we explore his journey in healing.

Trey is a content creator and coach. There are many content creators on Instagram and TikTok, but few speak so you can really hear it. Trey's message spoke to me. I knew little about his story before we recorded and our similarities amazed me.

In this episode, Trey walks us through his story and how he understood he was in an abusive relationship. This is a must listen to episode, especially for those that are in the aftermath of abuse.

You can find all of Trey's offerings here: https://beacons.ai/iwaslikeyo_trey

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12550565 Wed, 26 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2820 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 79 full false When You're Stuck in Love with an Abuser When You're Stuck in Love with an Abuser What can you do when you're convinced that you're in love with a Narcissistic or Abusive person?

This topic unpacks that complex topic. If you are looking to get Right with Reality and leave an abusive relationship. If you need support, check out my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Program: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What can you do when you're convinced that you're in love with a Narcissistic or Abusive person?

This topic unpacks that complex topic. If you are looking to get Right with Reality and leave an abusive relationship. If you need support, check out my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Program: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12468946 Thu, 20 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0400 625 78 full false How Do You Know You're Not the Problem? {aka not a Narcissist} How Do You Know You're Not the Problem? {aka not a Narcissist} Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12306992 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1149 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 77 full false Signs You're Co-Parenting with a Narcissist + Q&A Signs You're Co-Parenting with a Narcissist + Q&A When married to a narcissist, separating is only the first step to finding peace and starting your healing journey. There’s still the divorce, and most court systems encourage you to work with your abuser to find a peaceful resolution. Working with a narcissist can be an emotionally straining journey and almost always ends in a High-Conflict Divorce.

This podcast discusses some signs you're co-parenting with a Narcissist. It ends with a Q&A of common questions on this topic. 

If you want to learn more, read this blog post I wrote on High Conflict Divorce: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/strategies-for-divorcing-a-narcissist/

Learn more here: https://www.hcdivorcecoach.com/divorce-coach-jessica-knight


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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When married to a narcissist, separating is only the first step to finding peace and starting your healing journey. There’s still the divorce, and most court systems encourage you to work with your abuser to find a peaceful resolution. Working with a narcissist can be an emotionally straining journey and almost always ends in a High-Conflict Divorce.

This podcast discusses some signs you're co-parenting with a Narcissist. It ends with a Q&A of common questions on this topic. 

If you want to learn more, read this blog post I wrote on High Conflict Divorce: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/strategies-for-divorcing-a-narcissist/

Learn more here: https://www.hcdivorcecoach.com/divorce-coach-jessica-knight


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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12091378 Wed, 05 Apr 2023 06:00:00 -0400 1903 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, coparenting, parallelparenting, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing 76 full false Shame, Blame and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor Shame, Blame and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor Ben Taylor, a self aware Narcissist, joins me to dive deep into shame, blame and guilt. In this episode, we discuss Ben's healing journey, how Ben defines shame, and how Narcissists will do anything to avoid feeling shame. We also touch on how to know if a Narcissist changed (spoiler alert, they haven't).

Ben is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way to break down some complexities of narcissistic abuse in a way that we can actually really understand it. 

You can find Ben here:

https://rawmotivations.com/

https://rawmotivations.com/podcast

https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations/

https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/

https://www.youtube.com/rawmotivations

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ben Taylor, a self aware Narcissist, joins me to dive deep into shame, blame and guilt. In this episode, we discuss Ben's healing journey, how Ben defines shame, and how Narcissists will do anything to avoid feeling shame. We also touch on how to know if a Narcissist changed (spoiler alert, they haven't).

Ben is a wealth of knowledge and has an amazing way to break down some complexities of narcissistic abuse in a way that we can actually really understand it. 

You can find Ben here:

https://rawmotivations.com/

https://rawmotivations.com/podcast

https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations/

https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/

https://www.youtube.com/rawmotivations

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12269202 Wed, 29 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2943 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 75 full false Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Ashlee Levitch Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Ashlee Levitch Ashlee Levitch, the host of the popular podcast, The Narc and Me, joins me to discuss her story of surviving Narcissistic Abuse. 

You can listen to Ashlee's podcast here: https://tr.ee/lTfSY1VJ-b

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Ashlee Levitch, the host of the popular podcast, The Narc and Me, joins me to discuss her story of surviving Narcissistic Abuse. 

You can listen to Ashlee's podcast here: https://tr.ee/lTfSY1VJ-b

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12177659 Wed, 22 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2554 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 74 full false Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist with Kind Mama Divorce Coaching Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist with Kind Mama Divorce Coaching Divorcing a narcissist requires you to be prepared - mentally, physically, financially AND emotionally.  Tessa of Kind Mama Coaching joins me to talk about the ins and outs of divorcing a Narcissist and what it's like to Co-Parent with one. We talk through strategies to keep yourself sane while navigating insanity. I highly recommend listening to this episode with a pen and paper in hand, especially if you are co-parenting with a narcissist.

Tessa Noel is a certified divorce transition and recovery coach  and certified co-parenting specialist with extensive knowledge in multiple life coaching frameworks. She holds a degree from California State University of San Marcos and  has firsthand experience in the family courts of California.

You can connect with Tessa here: https://beacons.ai/coachkindmama/

Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Divorcing a narcissist requires you to be prepared - mentally, physically, financially AND emotionally.  Tessa of Kind Mama Coaching joins me to talk about the ins and outs of divorcing a Narcissist and what it's like to Co-Parent with one. We talk through strategies to keep yourself sane while navigating insanity. I highly recommend listening to this episode with a pen and paper in hand, especially if you are co-parenting with a narcissist.

Tessa Noel is a certified divorce transition and recovery coach  and certified co-parenting specialist with extensive knowledge in multiple life coaching frameworks. She holds a degree from California State University of San Marcos and  has firsthand experience in the family courts of California.

You can connect with Tessa here: https://beacons.ai/coachkindmama/

Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/coachkindmama/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12218926 Wed, 15 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0400 2270 highonflictdivorce, highconflictdivorcecoach, hcd. domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psy 73 full false Love Bombing Love Bombing Love bombing is a controlling and manipulative tactic most often used by narcissists and abusive people.  In this episode, I unpack Love Bombing: what it is, how it feels, how to know if you're being love bombed, and how to begin to let go of the false-potential it creates.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Love bombing is a controlling and manipulative tactic most often used by narcissists and abusive people.  In this episode, I unpack Love Bombing: what it is, how it feels, how to know if you're being love bombed, and how to begin to let go of the false-potential it creates.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12287200 Wed, 08 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0500 1402 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, lovebombing, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, np 72 full false Sexual and Marital Coercion with Nat/Mending Me Sexual and Marital Coercion with Nat/Mending Me Nat joins me to discuss sexual and marital coercion within marriage. Sexual coercion is an insidious form of abuse in which one person routinely uses guilt, shame, feelings of depression and sadness, as well as anger and frustration to manipulate their partner into unwanted sex and physical touch. Nat breaks down what sexual coercion is and how it shows up in marriage.

Nat emphasizes that sexual coercion can happen in any relationship dynamic, but it seems to be harder to spot in marriage, where society tells us sex is a naturally occurring thing and a great deal of importance is placed on our frequency of sexual encounters. This is a must-listen to episode -- and then go find her on TikTok!

You can follow Nat here: https://www.instagram.com/mending.me/

And learn more about her here: https://bio.site/alwaysmending

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Nat joins me to discuss sexual and marital coercion within marriage. Sexual coercion is an insidious form of abuse in which one person routinely uses guilt, shame, feelings of depression and sadness, as well as anger and frustration to manipulate their partner into unwanted sex and physical touch. Nat breaks down what sexual coercion is and how it shows up in marriage.

Nat emphasizes that sexual coercion can happen in any relationship dynamic, but it seems to be harder to spot in marriage, where society tells us sex is a naturally occurring thing and a great deal of importance is placed on our frequency of sexual encounters. This is a must-listen to episode -- and then go find her on TikTok!

You can follow Nat here: https://www.instagram.com/mending.me/

And learn more about her here: https://bio.site/alwaysmending

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12236581 Wed, 01 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2689 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 71 full false Can the Abuser and the Victim Learn to Love Healthy? {Interview with Paul Colliani} Can the Abuser and the Victim Learn to Love Healthy? {Interview with Paul Colliani} What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? What does healthy look like?

Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior.

Where you can find Paul:
Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain
MEAN Workbook

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change? What does healthy look like?

Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior.

Where you can find Paul:
Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain
MEAN Workbook

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11860871 Wed, 22 Feb 2023 05:00:00 -0500 3164 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 70 full false Fawning: What is it and why do we do it? Fawning: What is it and why do we do it? Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12027296 Fri, 17 Feb 2023 06:00:00 -0500 504 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 69 full false Healing After an Abusive Relationship with Emmy Marie Healing After an Abusive Relationship with Emmy Marie Emmy Marie is a trauma survivor and Certified Trauma Informed coach with the mission to help others reclaim their power, reject shame, and walk boldly towards a life of balance, freedom, and joy. I found Emmy through her Instagram, @bloomingwithemmy, where she posts frequently on healing from abuse. This episode is about learning to heal from abuse and what healthy can look like.

You can find Emmy here: https://www.emmymarie.com/


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Emmy Marie is a trauma survivor and Certified Trauma Informed coach with the mission to help others reclaim their power, reject shame, and walk boldly towards a life of balance, freedom, and joy. I found Emmy through her Instagram, @bloomingwithemmy, where she posts frequently on healing from abuse. This episode is about learning to heal from abuse and what healthy can look like.

You can find Emmy here: https://www.emmymarie.com/


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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12015032 Wed, 15 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500 2292 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 68 full false Fawning Explained - What it feels like Fawning Explained - What it feels like Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


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]]> Do you appease an abusive person because it's the only way to stop the abuse and protect yourself? You may be operating in the Fawn response. You can develop a fawn response anytime in life if you’ve ever been with an emotionally abusive partner and dealt with narcissistic abuse from anyone in your inner circle. This episode unpacks the Trauma Response, Fawn.

You can read more about it here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.medium.com/fawning-the-trauma-response-of-emotional-abuse-4f8dd5901ab4

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]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12015059 Fri, 10 Feb 2023 06:00:00 -0500 886 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 67 full false Pamela Anderson Documentary Pamela Anderson Documentary I found the Pamela Anderson Documentary tremendously impactful -- especially through the lens of Domestic Violence. This podcast covers my initial thoughts and realizations. I highly recommend you watch it on Netflix.

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I found the Pamela Anderson Documentary tremendously impactful -- especially through the lens of Domestic Violence. This podcast covers my initial thoughts and realizations. I highly recommend you watch it on Netflix.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12221994 Thu, 09 Feb 2023 17:00:00 -0500 699 pamelaanderson, pamelaandersondocumentary, tommylee, domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, p 66 full false The Narcissists Perspective with a Diagnosed Narcissist {Interview with Lee Hammock} The Narcissists Perspective with a Diagnosed Narcissist {Interview with Lee Hammock} Lee Hammock (MentalHealness) the Self Aware Narcissist, joins me to dissect the Mind of the Narcissist. Lee is a diagnosed Narcissist and we discuss so many aspects of NPD including common questions that come up in client sessions.

We also get into a larger conversation about the danger of Narcissistic Abuse and what can happen/what we've seen happen. This is a really important part of the podcast and I really recommend listening.

You can connect with Lee here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mentalhealness

Website: https://mentalhealness.net/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MentalHealness

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Lee Hammock (MentalHealness) the Self Aware Narcissist, joins me to dissect the Mind of the Narcissist. Lee is a diagnosed Narcissist and we discuss so many aspects of NPD including common questions that come up in client sessions.

We also get into a larger conversation about the danger of Narcissistic Abuse and what can happen/what we've seen happen. This is a really important part of the podcast and I really recommend listening.

You can connect with Lee here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealnesss/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mentalhealness

Website: https://mentalhealness.net/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MentalHealness

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12015034 Wed, 08 Feb 2023 06:00:00 -0500 3112 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, npd, leehammock, selfawarenarcissist, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder 65 full true No Contact with a Narcissist No Contact with a Narcissist I'm going to dive into an enormous topic today: No Contact. I carry a different perspective than others because it was so hard for me to get to. It felt like I was literally trying to saw off my hand with a butter knife.

In this podcast, I explain why we go No Contact in abusive relationships and some strategies if the all or nothing feels possible right now.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I'm going to dive into an enormous topic today: No Contact. I carry a different perspective than others because it was so hard for me to get to. It felt like I was literally trying to saw off my hand with a butter knife.

In this podcast, I explain why we go No Contact in abusive relationships and some strategies if the all or nothing feels possible right now.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12046626 Fri, 03 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500 1403 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, nocontact, 64 full false The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse with Psychologist Kerry Kerr McAvoy The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse with Psychologist Kerry Kerr McAvoy On todays podcast, Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., joins me to discuss the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. Dr. McAvoy is a psychologist and writer, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. She's been featured on Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project.

Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She’s also recently published a workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance, designed to help those struggling with a paralyzing mental fog to break free from the confusion and find greater clarity and direction.

You can listen to her podcast here: https://breaking-free-from-narc.captivate.fm/listen

Her books:

Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, and Double Cross: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction-ebook/dp/B09LJ26B5J/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1671138323&sr=8-1

First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance: https://www.amazon.com/First-Steps-Leaving-Narcissist-Dissonance/dp/1956631011/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ZHY0XBLCRKJD&keywords=first+steps+to+leaving+a+narcissist&qid=1671138420&sprefix=First+Steps+to+Leaving+%2Caps%2C100&sr=8-1



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> On todays podcast, Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., joins me to discuss the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse. Dr. McAvoy is a psychologist and writer, an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. She's been featured on Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project.

Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She’s also recently published a workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance, designed to help those struggling with a paralyzing mental fog to break free from the confusion and find greater clarity and direction.

You can listen to her podcast here: https://breaking-free-from-narc.captivate.fm/listen

Her books:

Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, and Double Cross: https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-More-Harrowing-Addiction-ebook/dp/B09LJ26B5J/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1671138323&sr=8-1

First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance: https://www.amazon.com/First-Steps-Leaving-Narcissist-Dissonance/dp/1956631011/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ZHY0XBLCRKJD&keywords=first+steps+to+leaving+a+narcissist&qid=1671138420&sprefix=First+Steps+to+Leaving+%2Caps%2C100&sr=8-1



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12015038 Wed, 01 Feb 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2899 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, nocontact, 63 full false 10 Signs You're in a Trauma Bond 10 Signs You're in a Trauma Bond If you are in an abusive relationship and are struggling to get out, you are likely trauma bonded. Trauma bonds are part of abusive and Narcissistic relationships.

When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling.

How do you know it is a trauma bond?

Do you feel you need to leave...but you just can't do it? Do you have a deep-rooted feeling of "I know I need to leave. I know he is mean. But if he would just stop yelling and listen to me. If I could just get him to understand that it's abusive, then things could be better...."

If you are accepting poor treatment but can't leave, you are likely in a trauma bond.

This podcast will unpack 10 signs of a Trauma Bond.

You can learn more about my Trauma Bond Recovery Group: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/trauma-bond-recovery-live-course/



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> If you are in an abusive relationship and are struggling to get out, you are likely trauma bonded. Trauma bonds are part of abusive and Narcissistic relationships.

When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling.

How do you know it is a trauma bond?

Do you feel you need to leave...but you just can't do it? Do you have a deep-rooted feeling of "I know I need to leave. I know he is mean. But if he would just stop yelling and listen to me. If I could just get him to understand that it's abusive, then things could be better...."

If you are accepting poor treatment but can't leave, you are likely in a trauma bond.

This podcast will unpack 10 signs of a Trauma Bond.

You can learn more about my Trauma Bond Recovery Group: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/trauma-bond-recovery-live-course/



Support the show

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12091373 Fri, 27 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0500 1048 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, traumabond, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd 62 full false Understanding Narcissism in South Asian Culture Understanding Narcissism in South Asian Culture Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns.

You can connect with Misha: www.therapywithmisha.com
And on social media @therapywithmisha 



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Narcissism is very present in South Asian (Indian) Culture and effects the lives of many. Misha Patel is a British-born South Asian therapist and coach, specializing in supporting South Asians all over the world who have experienced narcissistic abuse and trauma to heal. She explains why it's happening, what it looks like, and how you can begin to take space from the Narcissistic patterns.

You can connect with Misha: www.therapywithmisha.com
And on social media @therapywithmisha 



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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11852175 Wed, 25 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2836 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, nocontact, 61 full false Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Manjit Kaur Ruprai Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Manjit Kaur Ruprai Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field.

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1

Instagram: https://instagram.com/manjit_ruprai

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/manjitkaurruprai

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai
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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Manjit Kaur Ruprai joins me to discuss Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We discuss what it looks like, what it feels like, and signs to look out for. This is a very important, in-depth episode with an expert in the field.

Manjit supports many to figure out who they are dealing with and to move forward with their lives. She offers global service via zoom and work with many throughout the world. You can find her:

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@manjitruprai?_t=8UO6VsNGHv4&_r=1

Instagram: https://instagram.com/manjit_ruprai

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/manjitkaurruprai

YouTube: https://youtube.com/c/ManjitKaurRuprai
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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11875353 Wed, 18 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0500 2234 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 60 full false The Yellow Rock Method for Communicating with a Narcissistic Co-Parent The Yellow Rock Method for Communicating with a Narcissistic Co-Parent Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method. This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Are you Co-Parenting with a Narcissist? The yellow rock method is a spin on the gray rock method. This episode unpacks and explains Tina Swithin's Yellow Rock Method which is designed to diffuse conflict while setting boundaries with your ex. If you listened to my episode on Parallel Parenting, this one is really important to listen to 2nd.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-12027007 Wed, 11 Jan 2023 20:00:00 -0500 572 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, highonflictdivore, hcd, divorce, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healin 59 full false Parallel Parenting Explained Parallel Parenting Explained I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do, they do not sit together and are not expected to communicate. This is contrary to co-parenting which involves more of a team approach. 

When you are in a toxic situation, or a relationship with a narcissist, co-parenting can be a breeding ground for the high-conflict partner to control or manipulate. When you try to co-parent with them, it can leave you feeling exhausted, constantly trying new things to “keep the peace” – but failing. You may feel at a loss because nothing will work as easily as it “should.”

This episode breaks down parallel parenting. I hope it is helpful and sheds light on a very tough topic.

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*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I define parallel parenting as a method of parenting that allows each parent to use a separate approach to when they have the kids. Their parenting does not intersect, as each parent is independent (versus more of a team approach). It’s mostly used when co-parents want little to no contact with each other. Parents rarely attend the same functions, appointments, or child-related events. If they do, they do not sit together and are not expected to communicate. This is contrary to co-parenting which involves more of a team approach. 

When you are in a toxic situation, or a relationship with a narcissist, co-parenting can be a breeding ground for the high-conflict partner to control or manipulate. When you try to co-parent with them, it can leave you feeling exhausted, constantly trying new things to “keep the peace” – but failing. You may feel at a loss because nothing will work as easily as it “should.”

This episode breaks down parallel parenting. I hope it is helpful and sheds light on a very tough topic.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11553378 Wed, 11 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0500 1235 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, parallelparenting, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, he 58 full false What I Learned from Being in a Relationship with a Narcissist What I Learned from Being in a Relationship with a Narcissist Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and admiration.

I am a completely different person than I was when I was with my ex - and while I do not wish the pain of a Narcissistic relationship on anyone - this podcast covers a few lessons I learned in healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Most people don’t even realize they are getting into a relationship with a Narcissist. They are skillfully manipulative - which allows them to come off as charming and loving. But Narcissistic relationships are always emotionally abusive - which includes put-downs, accusations, criticism, gaslighting and threats. The end goal is always to keep their Narcissistic supply of constant attention and admiration.

I am a completely different person than I was when I was with my ex - and while I do not wish the pain of a Narcissistic relationship on anyone - this podcast covers a few lessons I learned in healing from Narcissistic Abuse.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11459201 Wed, 04 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0500 657 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 57 full false Is it Abuse or Toxicity? 3 Tools to Understand Is it Abuse or Toxicity? 3 Tools to Understand Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship. 

I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship.

This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Is it toxicity? Is it abuse? Are you "too sensitive?" Do you "attract difficult people?" In this episode, I describe three tools I used to identify when I was in an abusive relationship. 

I also discuss how hard the New Year can be for many of us trying to break out of an abusive relationship.

This is the link to the MEAN workbook: https://theoverwhelmedbrain.gumroad.com/l/jkSo

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11946905 Thu, 29 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500 576 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychology 56 full false 5 Reasons Narcissists Ruin the Holidays 5 Reasons Narcissists Ruin the Holidays The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> The Holiday Season with a Narcissist can be incredibly challenging and dizzying. On the one hand, they may promote the "most wonderful time of the year" while tearing you down and making the entire season miserable for you. In this episode, I share three stories of Narcissistic abuse before going through 5 reasons why Narcissists ruin the holidays.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11903660 Wed, 21 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0500 1445 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 55 full false Did the Narcissist Love Me? Did the Narcissist Love Me? This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This is a question asks; did they love me? I offer two answers to this question that are short but gives some perspective to the topic. I plan to do a longer, in depth, episode on this. Send questions to me on Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11893330 Sun, 18 Dec 2022 15:00:00 -0500 165 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 54 full false Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Q & A Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Q & A Questions and answers on Emotional Abuse and Narcissism

1. Is calling names, pointing fingers and degrading me during a fight when things go wrong abuse? Why do they pretend all is well during the calm cycle? How does one get out?

2. I love the Relationship Recovery Course. Did you always want to be a Life Coach?

3. Is it normal that I'm suddenly obsessed with learning more about Narcissism since I see these traits in my husband?

4. He's trying to hoover me back after I went no contact, but I can't help but feel guilty. What do I do?

5. I'm fresh out of an insanely toxic, abusive in every way relationship, and I can't stop cycling through the good memories. How do I make it? I want to call him.

6.  I found out last night that my Narc-ex is now engaged to a new girl while I'm still recovering from all the trauma. He caused me to throw away all the plans we made, he threw away so easily.  Do you have any advice? I was doing better until this pushed me down again.

7. I'm having a hard time accepting that what would happen to me is emotional abuse. Other people have had it worse than me. My situation has caused me a lot of anxiety and depression. Any advice?

8. Can you heal from a trauma bond if you stay with the same person who caused it?

9. Is it normal to care about my narcissistic ex that I hope they get the proper mental health?

10. My narcissistic ex somehow still knows everything I'm doing and is now accusing me of stealing his friends. We're supposed to be at a wedding this weekend, and he lied and said they didn't want me there, so I opted not to go. Is this normal behavior? Will he stop? 

11. My narcissistic spouse makes me highly anxious, and I've developed high blood pressure and a fast heart rate, but he says I just have anxiety issues. Is it normal to have physical symptoms of emotional abuse? 

12. Can an emotional abuser change?

13. Did you ever date again?

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Questions and answers on Emotional Abuse and Narcissism

1. Is calling names, pointing fingers and degrading me during a fight when things go wrong abuse? Why do they pretend all is well during the calm cycle? How does one get out?

2. I love the Relationship Recovery Course. Did you always want to be a Life Coach?

3. Is it normal that I'm suddenly obsessed with learning more about Narcissism since I see these traits in my husband?

4. He's trying to hoover me back after I went no contact, but I can't help but feel guilty. What do I do?

5. I'm fresh out of an insanely toxic, abusive in every way relationship, and I can't stop cycling through the good memories. How do I make it? I want to call him.

6.  I found out last night that my Narc-ex is now engaged to a new girl while I'm still recovering from all the trauma. He caused me to throw away all the plans we made, he threw away so easily.  Do you have any advice? I was doing better until this pushed me down again.

7. I'm having a hard time accepting that what would happen to me is emotional abuse. Other people have had it worse than me. My situation has caused me a lot of anxiety and depression. Any advice?

8. Can you heal from a trauma bond if you stay with the same person who caused it?

9. Is it normal to care about my narcissistic ex that I hope they get the proper mental health?

10. My narcissistic ex somehow still knows everything I'm doing and is now accusing me of stealing his friends. We're supposed to be at a wedding this weekend, and he lied and said they didn't want me there, so I opted not to go. Is this normal behavior? Will he stop? 

11. My narcissistic spouse makes me highly anxious, and I've developed high blood pressure and a fast heart rate, but he says I just have anxiety issues. Is it normal to have physical symptoms of emotional abuse? 

12. Can an emotional abuser change?

13. Did you ever date again?

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11777227 Wed, 14 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0500 1821 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 53 full false The Rules of a Non-Abusive Relationship Do Not Apply to a Narcissistic Breakup The Rules of a Non-Abusive Relationship Do Not Apply to a Narcissistic Breakup This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or even reply, to the comments, but I will not act like they aren't part of the problem because they are. This is how people react to victims of abuse and it PERPETUATES THE PROBLEM OF ABUSE.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This is a rant. The rules of the game are not the same. The abuse is real. This page is called Emotional Abuse Coach so if this content is not for you, please go elsewhere, like Not Emotional Abuse Coach, and comment there. You are showing how un-empathetic you are to those who are going through Narcissistic Abuse. This has been happening since I created the page and I do not wish to argue, or even reply, to the comments, but I will not act like they aren't part of the problem because they are. This is how people react to victims of abuse and it PERPETUATES THE PROBLEM OF ABUSE.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11793113 Fri, 09 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0500 299 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 52 full false How to Leave (Part 1) How to Leave (Part 1) A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should  think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach

If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship, I highly recommend signing up for my Relationship Recovery program (link in bio, or on emotionalabusecoach.com). It will guide you through identifying abuse, understanding the cycle of abuse, understanding the bare bones of a trauma bond, and learning how to set boundaries and the first steps of healing, so you can feel like yourself again.



Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A listener asked me this question: how do I leave an abusive relationship? It is different for everyone. This is an introductory episode on how to leave and what you should  think about. I named it Part 1 because there could be endless episodes on this topic. I would love if you send any follow-up questions to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or DM me on Instagram @emotionalabusecoach

If you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship, I highly recommend signing up for my Relationship Recovery program (link in bio, or on emotionalabusecoach.com). It will guide you through identifying abuse, understanding the cycle of abuse, understanding the bare bones of a trauma bond, and learning how to set boundaries and the first steps of healing, so you can feel like yourself again.



Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11698936 Wed, 07 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0500 1211 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 51 full false 5 Qualities of a Healthy Partner 5 Qualities of a Healthy Partner A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship. 

If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A lot of my clients will ask, what is a healthy relationship? What is a safe relationship? It can feel impossible to know after you've suffered from Narcissistic or Emotional abuse. This podcast covers 5 qualities of a safe relationship. 

If this podcast is triggering to you, I invite you to unpack it further by joining my Relationship Recovery program. https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11579085 Fri, 02 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0500 436 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 50 full true "Don't Rock the Boat" is Toxic "Don't Rock the Boat" is Toxic The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> The phrase "don't rock the boat," is toxic. People say it all the time, and you think they're being supportive, but it actually can be another way abuse is enabled.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11502972 Wed, 30 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0500 409 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 49 full false Working to Control Your Thoughts is Important Working to Control Your Thoughts is Important You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> You have more control over your thoughts than you think. Even though it's hard, it is important for us to take responsibility for our thoughts. This episode unpacks why that is important and how you can start having more control.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11524591 Wed, 23 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0500 222 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 48 full false A Meditation to Help You Connect to Yourself A Meditation to Help You Connect to Yourself It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again.

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> It can be very hard to connect to your wants, needs and feelings when you are in an Emotionally Abusive or Narcissistic Relationship. This 8 minute meditation is intended to help you begin connect to you again.

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11659516 Sun, 20 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500 480 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 47 full false Am I Responsible for Feeling Abused? Am I Responsible for Feeling Abused? "When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings."

This was a question that came in through my Instagram. I answer this question in the episode.

Here are the resources I mention in the episode:
Free PDF - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://emotionalabusecoach.com/why-does-he-do-that/

Link to Book - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://amzn.to/3EhCurh


Website: www.EmotionalAbuseCoach.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Heal: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/communication/

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> "When reminding my partner that he needs to take responsibility for his emotions, and that I can't be blamed for his anger, he responded that it should be the same for me and that he shouldn't be held responsible for my feeling abused, and that I should be responsible for those feelings."

This was a question that came in through my Instagram. I answer this question in the episode.

Here are the resources I mention in the episode:
Free PDF - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://emotionalabusecoach.com/why-does-he-do-that/

Link to Book - Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That" - https://amzn.to/3EhCurh


Website: www.EmotionalAbuseCoach.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Heal: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/relationship-recovery-course/
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner: https://emotionalabusecoach.com/communication/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11709334 Fri, 18 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0500 433 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 46 full false Understanding Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni Understanding Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave.

Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded, and what impedes healing. 

As a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, Lisa's experience led her to become a certified Life & Relationship Coach who helps clients of all genders and walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. 

You can learn more about Lisa here: https://strongerthanbefore.ca/

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> When you're in a Trauma Bond it feels impossible to break. It feels like love. When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling, but we can't leave.

Lisa Sonni is an expert on Trauma Bonds. We explore trauma bonds and why they’re so hard to break, how you feel when you are trauma bonded, and what impedes healing. 

As a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, Lisa's experience led her to become a certified Life & Relationship Coach who helps clients of all genders and walks of life overcome challenges stemming from traumatic partnerships. 

You can learn more about Lisa here: https://strongerthanbefore.ca/

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11601529 Wed, 16 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0500 2715 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 45 full true Emotional Abuse on Netflix Love is Blind (Matt and Colleen) Emotional Abuse on Netflix Love is Blind (Matt and Colleen) Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse.

Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victims of abuse.

Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770

Netflix "Love is a Rollercoaster": https://www.instagram.com/p/CkyVAlnOdMm/?hl=en


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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Matt's behavior on Love is Blind is the text book definition emotional abuse. Their interactions triggered me all season long, and after seeing Colleen visibly scared on the reunion, I wanted to record a podcast breaking down the behavior and looking at their interactions through the lens of Emotional Abuse.

Netflix should add a trigger warning to the episodes and provide resources for victims of abuse.

Cycle of Abuse: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1916632/10300770

Netflix "Love is a Rollercoaster": https://www.instagram.com/p/CkyVAlnOdMm/?hl=en


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11671667 Thu, 10 Nov 2022 14:00:00 -0500 1019 loveisblind, loveisblindseason3, netflix, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabondin 44 full false Post Separation Abuse and the Family Court System {Interview with Tina Swithin} Post Separation Abuse and the Family Court System {Interview with Tina Swithin} Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System.

Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or another high-conflict individual escalates family law cases to levels few can comprehend.

This episode is beneficial to anyone navigating the Family Court System. It will help you feel seen, heard and validated.



Tina's website: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

Additional Resources: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/resources

National Safe Parents Organization: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Tina Swithin, the founder of One Moms Battle and Advocate in the Family Court System, discusses her story, post-separation abuse, strategies a safe parent can employ to cope, and some of the current issues in the Family Court System.

Tina survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that divorcing a narcissist or another high-conflict individual escalates family law cases to levels few can comprehend.

This episode is beneficial to anyone navigating the Family Court System. It will help you feel seen, heard and validated.



Tina's website: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

Additional Resources: https://www.onemomsbattle.com/resources

National Safe Parents Organization: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11553280 Wed, 09 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500 2759 gaslighting, highconflictdivorce, hcd, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, custody, family court, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traum 43 full false Narcissistic Projection Explained Narcissistic Projection Explained A Narcissist projects their feeling onto you. Projection is sometimes an unconscious way of dealing with the presence of something inside of yourself, yet it gets externalized because it is so uncomfortable to be within yourself. A healthy person will notice they do this (or accept it when they are called out). A Narcissist continues to use it as a tool and project it onto you. This episode unpacks this concept and offers tools to help you see it for what it is. 

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*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A Narcissist projects their feeling onto you. Projection is sometimes an unconscious way of dealing with the presence of something inside of yourself, yet it gets externalized because it is so uncomfortable to be within yourself. A healthy person will notice they do this (or accept it when they are called out). A Narcissist continues to use it as a tool and project it onto you. This episode unpacks this concept and offers tools to help you see it for what it is. 

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11576379 Fri, 04 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0400 444 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 42 full false When you don't know you're being Gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly When you don't know you're being Gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly Gaslighting affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To gaslight someone is to plant seeds of doubt in their mind, and make them question their own sense of reality, their perception, and their feelings. Since gaslighters lack self-awareness and empathy, they may not even realize that they're being manipulative. 

But when you don't know that you're being gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly. And  the problem arises when they realize it (whether or not you told them) and don't change it. When they are hurting you and you see it. We can't control how someone treats us - but if you see the gaslighting and see what it is, you will stop defending yourself. 

This episode will help you understand why that is so important and how you can start to see gaslighting for what it is and disengage.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Gaslighting affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality. To gaslight someone is to plant seeds of doubt in their mind, and make them question their own sense of reality, their perception, and their feelings. Since gaslighters lack self-awareness and empathy, they may not even realize that they're being manipulative. 

But when you don't know that you're being gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly. And  the problem arises when they realize it (whether or not you told them) and don't change it. When they are hurting you and you see it. We can't control how someone treats us - but if you see the gaslighting and see what it is, you will stop defending yourself. 

This episode will help you understand why that is so important and how you can start to see gaslighting for what it is and disengage.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11564159 Wed, 02 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0400 967 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 41 full false Conversations with a Narcissist Conversations with a Narcissist A conversation with a Narcissist can be extremely frustrating and dizzying.  The communication tools you'd engage with a healthy person do not work. Promises are not kept. Words are not aligned with actions. 

In this episode, I discuss how hard a conversation with a Narcissist can be, and why you continue to try.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A conversation with a Narcissist can be extremely frustrating and dizzying.  The communication tools you'd engage with a healthy person do not work. Promises are not kept. Words are not aligned with actions. 

In this episode, I discuss how hard a conversation with a Narcissist can be, and why you continue to try.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11511018 Fri, 28 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0400 233 40 full false Identifying a Trauma Bond Identifying a Trauma Bond How did you end up in an abusive relationship? You are likely trauma bonded. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. 

When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling.

This episode will give you some insights on how to identify a Trauma Bond.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How did you end up in an abusive relationship? You are likely trauma bonded. When you're in one it feels impossible to break - and it feels like love. 

When we are in it, we don't really know that we want to break a trauma bond. We just know that we want to stop feeling the way we're feeling.

This episode will give you some insights on how to identify a Trauma Bond.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11459841 Wed, 26 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0400 655 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 39 full false The Difference Between Therapy and Coaching The Difference Between Therapy and Coaching This episode explores the difference between a therapist and a life coach. 

A life coach helps you look at the present and the future. We help you identify patterns in your past behavior so you can work towards a healthy future. We work on specific goals and actions to keep you motivated in your journey and unpack things when you get stuck. Most times, the work is tailored to you, and will help you work through limited beliefs and unhealthy patterns.

You can sign up for a Clarity Call here to see if Coaching is for you: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> This episode explores the difference between a therapist and a life coach. 

A life coach helps you look at the present and the future. We help you identify patterns in your past behavior so you can work towards a healthy future. We work on specific goals and actions to keep you motivated in your journey and unpack things when you get stuck. Most times, the work is tailored to you, and will help you work through limited beliefs and unhealthy patterns.

You can sign up for a Clarity Call here to see if Coaching is for you: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11511013 Fri, 21 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0400 310 38 full false What Emotional Abuse Looks and Feels Like What Emotional Abuse Looks and Feels Like Emotional Abuse is not easily understood by those who haven't been through it. Some common signs include: you may feel insecure and have a low self-esteem. You might be depressed or anxious (or both). You may feel you need to justify everything you say.  You may withdraw from people even when you're around them. You might no longer go out and socialize.

In this episode, I discuss signs of verbal, psychological and emotional abuse, and how it feels to be in it. 

You can also share this episode with a friend who may not understand what you're going through.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Emotional Abuse is not easily understood by those who haven't been through it. Some common signs include: you may feel insecure and have a low self-esteem. You might be depressed or anxious (or both). You may feel you need to justify everything you say.  You may withdraw from people even when you're around them. You might no longer go out and socialize.

In this episode, I discuss signs of verbal, psychological and emotional abuse, and how it feels to be in it. 

You can also share this episode with a friend who may not understand what you're going through.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11498036 Wed, 19 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0400 524 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 37 full false The Mind of the Abuser, Interview with Paul Colaianni, Host of the Love and Abuse Podcast The Mind of the Abuser, Interview with Paul Colaianni, Host of the Love and Abuse Podcast What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change?

Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior.

We talk through these questions in depth and I give real examples from my story of going through, and healing from, an emotionally abusive relationship.

Where you can find Paul:
Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain
MEAN Workbook

Connect with me:
Emotional Abuse Coach

Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What does it take for an Emotional Abusive person to change? What do they have to do to change? How did Paul know he had to change?

Paul is a Relationship Coach and founder of The Overwhelmed Brain and the Love and Abuse podcasts. He created the MEAN workbook, a 200 point assessment to identify manipulative behavior.

We talk through these questions in depth and I give real examples from my story of going through, and healing from, an emotionally abusive relationship.

Where you can find Paul:
Love and Abuse
The Overwhelmed Brain
MEAN Workbook

Connect with me:
Emotional Abuse Coach

Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11420434 Wed, 12 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400 4031 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 36 full false The Relationship Recovery Program The Relationship Recovery Program While the title may infer you are healing your relationship with your partner…that is actually not the intent of this course that I talk about in todays Podcast. This course is to help you heal your relationship with yourself if you're in a toxic relationship.

In this episode, I break down what I offer in the Relationship Recovery course.

  • Understand the level of emotional abuse in the relationship.
  • Identify your needs and where you have compromised.
  • Identify if you are Trauma Bonded.
  • Understand the Cycle of Abuse.
  • Understanding Boundaries
  • Look forward to the next steps in healing.

You can sign up for the course and take advantage of special pricing for October (only) here: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery

Connect with me:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> While the title may infer you are healing your relationship with your partner…that is actually not the intent of this course that I talk about in todays Podcast. This course is to help you heal your relationship with yourself if you're in a toxic relationship.

In this episode, I break down what I offer in the Relationship Recovery course.

  • Understand the level of emotional abuse in the relationship.
  • Identify your needs and where you have compromised.
  • Identify if you are Trauma Bonded.
  • Understand the Cycle of Abuse.
  • Understanding Boundaries
  • Look forward to the next steps in healing.

You can sign up for the course and take advantage of special pricing for October (only) here: https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/relationship-recovery

Connect with me:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11447595 Wed, 05 Oct 2022 22:00:00 -0400 294 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 35 full true Types of Abuse in Domestic Partnerships Types of Abuse in Domestic Partnerships Abuse is not just physical. There are many types of abuse within domestic partnerships that have been normalized in our society. This episode breaks down emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and post separation abuse.

If you feel you may be in an abusive relationship, you can reach out to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or use the resources below to get support.

Website: http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/emotionalabusecoach

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Emotional Abuse is Abuse. If you are in danger or need immediate help:

  • Call a help line: Toll FreePhone: 800-799-7233 / 800-799-SAFE
  • Shelters do accept women who are emotionally abused and have not been physically abused. Go here (http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/help/its-not-your-fault/) for a list of resources, or ask the help line for shelters near you.
  • If you have been threatened with harm or death, or are being stalked (followed and harassed) by your partner or ex-partner, you can call the police for help.
  • Plan for your safety if you are considering leaving your relationship. Sometimes leaving can increase your risk of harm. You can find resources to help you create a safety plan here (http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/help/develop-a-safety-plan/).



Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Abuse is not just physical. There are many types of abuse within domestic partnerships that have been normalized in our society. This episode breaks down emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and post separation abuse.

If you feel you may be in an abusive relationship, you can reach out to me at jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com or use the resources below to get support.

Website: http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/emotionalabusecoach

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Emotional Abuse is Abuse. If you are in danger or need immediate help:

  • Call a help line: Toll FreePhone: 800-799-7233 / 800-799-SAFE
  • Shelters do accept women who are emotionally abused and have not been physically abused. Go here (http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/help/its-not-your-fault/) for a list of resources, or ask the help line for shelters near you.
  • If you have been threatened with harm or death, or are being stalked (followed and harassed) by your partner or ex-partner, you can call the police for help.
  • Plan for your safety if you are considering leaving your relationship. Sometimes leaving can increase your risk of harm. You can find resources to help you create a safety plan here (http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/help/develop-a-safety-plan/).



Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11427866 Wed, 05 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400 1359 domesticviolence, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabus 34 full false Season Break Update Season Break Update A quick season break update :)

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@emotionalabusecoach.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

I will email them to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A quick season break update :)

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@emotionalabusecoach.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

I will email them to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11262216 Mon, 05 Sep 2022 08:00:00 -0400 1011 33 full false End of Season Updates End of Season Updates 30 episodes and 1000+ downloads later and Season 1 is complete! I didn't intend to have a "season" but I am feeling a need (and want) to refocus the podcast, work on my episodes, and plan out what I will talk about next season.

This has been a really great learning process for me. I totally ripped off the bandaid and just started doing it. I leaned on the information I've learned, what I've gone through, and trusted that if I keep showing up, everything will align.

Season 2 will begin in October! Until then, I will be sharing some clips from the most popular episodes on my Instagram ❤️

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> 30 episodes and 1000+ downloads later and Season 1 is complete! I didn't intend to have a "season" but I am feeling a need (and want) to refocus the podcast, work on my episodes, and plan out what I will talk about next season.

This has been a really great learning process for me. I totally ripped off the bandaid and just started doing it. I leaned on the information I've learned, what I've gone through, and trusted that if I keep showing up, everything will align.

Season 2 will begin in October! Until then, I will be sharing some clips from the most popular episodes on my Instagram ❤️

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11207945 Fri, 26 Aug 2022 09:00:00 -0400 176 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 32 full false A Purgatory A Purgatory Narcissistic Abuse feels like living in a purgatory. This podcast explores what that feels like, hoping to validate your experiences.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Narcissistic Abuse feels like living in a purgatory. This podcast explores what that feels like, hoping to validate your experiences.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11076614 Wed, 10 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400 393 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 31 full false How to Stop Feeling Bad for a Narcissist How to Stop Feeling Bad for a Narcissist You are likely an empathetic person. You have compassion when you hurt someone. You have feelings and don't want to hurt people. This is exactly what the Narcissist takes advantage of. This episode will help you learn how to see the whole picture so you can protect yourself.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> You are likely an empathetic person. You have compassion when you hurt someone. You have feelings and don't want to hurt people. This is exactly what the Narcissist takes advantage of. This episode will help you learn how to see the whole picture so you can protect yourself.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11023274 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400 597 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 30 full false Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse A description of the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A description of the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-11012016 Thu, 28 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400 500 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 29 full false How to Break a Trauma Bond How to Break a Trauma Bond Trauma Bonding is a very well-known phrase for good reason: it is a universal experience for almost everyone that experience Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. 

On today's podcast, I discuss 3 ways to break a Trauma Bond.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Trauma Bonding is a very well-known phrase for good reason: it is a universal experience for almost everyone that experience Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. 

On today's podcast, I discuss 3 ways to break a Trauma Bond.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10977055 Sun, 17 Jul 2022 21:00:00 -0400 727 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 28 full false Why Other Peoples Opinions Do Not Matter Why Other Peoples Opinions Do Not Matter Other people will claim to know what is best and give you advice based on their history and perspective, but most people, who have not been through emotional abuse, will not understand emotional abuse.

I hope this episode is a permission slip for you to let the opinions of others fade -- so you can focus on your own reality.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Other people will claim to know what is best and give you advice based on their history and perspective, but most people, who have not been through emotional abuse, will not understand emotional abuse.

I hope this episode is a permission slip for you to let the opinions of others fade -- so you can focus on your own reality.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10955993 Wed, 13 Jul 2022 13:00:00 -0400 196 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 27 full false Books that Helped Me Heal Books that Helped Me Heal I have been traveling and a little MIA.  I give you a quick update on where I've been, why Clarity Calls are so hard to book right now, and I go over the key books that helped me identify emotional abuse so I could heal. 

This is a list of the books:

"Why Does He Do That?" - Lundy Bancroft

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse - Jackson MacKenzie

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Lundy Bancroft

Women Who Love Too Much - Robin Norwood

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I have been traveling and a little MIA.  I give you a quick update on where I've been, why Clarity Calls are so hard to book right now, and I go over the key books that helped me identify emotional abuse so I could heal. 

This is a list of the books:

"Why Does He Do That?" - Lundy Bancroft

The Verbally Abusive Relationship - Patricia Evans

Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse - Jackson MacKenzie

Should I Stay or Should I Go - Lundy Bancroft

Women Who Love Too Much - Robin Norwood

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10936253 Sun, 10 Jul 2022 17:00:00 -0400 554 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 26 full false Interview with a Love Witch Interview with a Love Witch Interview with Sensual Coach Gwen Walsh. Gwen is a Tarot Reader, Intuitive and Sensual Coach. Working with Gwen throughout my Emotionally Abusive and Toxic relationship helped me experience my life as a viewer and step out of my own way - offering a new perspective on my situation when "thinking" through it didn't. 

I've worked with Gwen through all areas of life, including my romantic relationship, business, my daughter and my former marriage. 

This episode explores how working with Tarot can help inform relationships, how we work with relationships, and how Gwen approaches specific issues in relationships. We also get geeky and talk about specific Tarot cards and how we interpret them. 

I highly recommend booking a reading with her if you feel stuck and need to shake things up. You can learn more about Gwen's work and the specific offerings she mentions here: https://www.gwenwalsh.com/work-with-me

Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/gwenwalsh/

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Interview with Sensual Coach Gwen Walsh. Gwen is a Tarot Reader, Intuitive and Sensual Coach. Working with Gwen throughout my Emotionally Abusive and Toxic relationship helped me experience my life as a viewer and step out of my own way - offering a new perspective on my situation when "thinking" through it didn't. 

I've worked with Gwen through all areas of life, including my romantic relationship, business, my daughter and my former marriage. 

This episode explores how working with Tarot can help inform relationships, how we work with relationships, and how Gwen approaches specific issues in relationships. We also get geeky and talk about specific Tarot cards and how we interpret them. 

I highly recommend booking a reading with her if you feel stuck and need to shake things up. You can learn more about Gwen's work and the specific offerings she mentions here: https://www.gwenwalsh.com/work-with-me

Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/gwenwalsh/

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10809460 Fri, 17 Jun 2022 09:00:00 -0400 2656 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 25 full false How to Use Canned Responses as a Boundary How to Use Canned Responses as a Boundary Canned Responses for Toxic Relationships.

Using Canned Responses is often the first step in creating boundaries. Boundaries allow you to draw a line between you and another person - and you and yourself. However, setting boundaries in an abusive relationship is almost impossible. You'll find yourself in endless text, calls and emails with no way out having the same conversation again and again, explaining the same things repeatedly and getting absolutely nowhere -- often.

Using Canned Responses can help you start to set boundaries and get out of toxic conversation patterns.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Canned Responses for Toxic Relationships.

Using Canned Responses is often the first step in creating boundaries. Boundaries allow you to draw a line between you and another person - and you and yourself. However, setting boundaries in an abusive relationship is almost impossible. You'll find yourself in endless text, calls and emails with no way out having the same conversation again and again, explaining the same things repeatedly and getting absolutely nowhere -- often.

Using Canned Responses can help you start to set boundaries and get out of toxic conversation patterns.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10800769 Wed, 15 Jun 2022 18:00:00 -0400 405 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 24 full false Wait, do you only work with 20-30 yr olds? Wait, do you only work with 20-30 yr olds? I clear up the question of my work because if you head to my other website, you'll likely be a little confused :)

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I clear up the question of my work because if you head to my other website, you'll likely be a little confused :)

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10751812 Tue, 07 Jun 2022 10:00:00 -0400 298 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 23 full false 7 Ways to Starve a Narcissist 7 Ways to Starve a Narcissist Starve them of your interest. If you keep giving them your attention and engaging with them, their toxic presence will stay in your life. If you stay emotionally neutral, uninterested, and unengaged, the narcissist will turn to someone else to get their needs met.


I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Starve them of your interest. If you keep giving them your attention and engaging with them, their toxic presence will stay in your life. If you stay emotionally neutral, uninterested, and unengaged, the narcissist will turn to someone else to get their needs met.


I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10747604 Mon, 06 Jun 2022 16:00:00 -0400 669 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 22 full false Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behaviors - Part 3 Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behaviors - Part 3 On this Podcast I continue unpacking Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> On this Podcast I continue unpacking Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10715727 Tue, 31 May 2022 20:00:00 -0400 890 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 21 full false Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 2 Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 2 Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10682528 Wed, 25 May 2022 16:00:00 -0400 675 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 20 full false Understanding the Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 1 Understanding the Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 1 A lot of clients are seeking to understand Narcissistic Behaviors, so I am going to spend the next few podcast discussing Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> A lot of clients are seeking to understand Narcissistic Behaviors, so I am going to spend the next few podcast discussing Narcissistic traits, how they present themselves, and how you might feel when engaging with them.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10636268 Tue, 17 May 2022 18:00:00 -0400 845 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 19 full false 5 Strategies To Help You When Dealing with a Narcissist or Emotional Abuser 5 Strategies To Help You When Dealing with a Narcissist or Emotional Abuser 5 ways you can protect yourself - even if you are still in the relationship.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> 5 ways you can protect yourself - even if you are still in the relationship.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10614508 Fri, 13 May 2022 19:00:00 -0400 867 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 18 full false What is the Difference Between a Narcissist and an Abuser? What is the Difference Between a Narcissist and an Abuser? Many people who are in an abusive relationship will refer to their Abuser as a Narcissist - which is problematic because it put all abusers in the narcissism category when it's much more complex than that.

In todays episode, we talk about the difference between an abuser and narcissistic traits, the 9 traits of a Narcissist as defined by the DSM, and the effects of calling all abusers Narcissists.

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I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Many people who are in an abusive relationship will refer to their Abuser as a Narcissist - which is problematic because it put all abusers in the narcissism category when it's much more complex than that.

In todays episode, we talk about the difference between an abuser and narcissistic traits, the 9 traits of a Narcissist as defined by the DSM, and the effects of calling all abusers Narcissists.

---------

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10556505 Wed, 04 May 2022 08:00:00 -0400 1124 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 17 full false Emotional Abuse Q & A Emotional Abuse Q & A The top 10 questions I've received since starting this podcast.

  1. I don't think he means it or knows what he is doing. Is it still abuse?
  2. Am I being gaslit? How do I know? What if I'm just too sensitive?
  3. Have you experienced a Narcissist or Abuser changing?
  4. How can I start to step away?
  5. Can I tell him that he's abusive?
  6. Can he really change?
  7. How do I start dating after an abusive relationship?
  8. How do I ask for help? My family and friends don't understand.
  9. Was I wrong to not apologize?
  10. What is the difference between a Narcissist and an Abuser?

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> The top 10 questions I've received since starting this podcast.

  1. I don't think he means it or knows what he is doing. Is it still abuse?
  2. Am I being gaslit? How do I know? What if I'm just too sensitive?
  3. Have you experienced a Narcissist or Abuser changing?
  4. How can I start to step away?
  5. Can I tell him that he's abusive?
  6. Can he really change?
  7. How do I start dating after an abusive relationship?
  8. How do I ask for help? My family and friends don't understand.
  9. Was I wrong to not apologize?
  10. What is the difference between a Narcissist and an Abuser?

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10517822 Wed, 27 Apr 2022 19:00:00 -0400 1011 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 16 full false What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back? What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back? What to do when an Emotional Abuser comes back into your life and tries to reconnect. I share a personal story, how I was stuck in flight or fight and how I could use all the healing and personal work I did for months to help me in that moment.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What to do when an Emotional Abuser comes back into your life and tries to reconnect. I share a personal story, how I was stuck in flight or fight and how I could use all the healing and personal work I did for months to help me in that moment.

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10475392 Wed, 20 Apr 2022 18:00:00 -0400 1219 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 15 full false How to Diffuse a Narcissist How to Diffuse a Narcissist How do you communicate with a Narcissist? Most of the time, using communication tools (that are all the rage on Instagram) will not help you with communicating with a difficult partner. 

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> How do you communicate with a Narcissist? Most of the time, using communication tools (that are all the rage on Instagram) will not help you with communicating with a difficult partner. 

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10434525 Wed, 13 Apr 2022 18:00:00 -0400 355 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 14 full false How to Set Boundaries with an Abuser How to Set Boundaries with an Abuser Setting a boundary with an abusive person is almost impossible.

Today we are going to go over 3 things:

  1. Why it is so hard to set boundaries with an abuser
  2. How to regulate yourself so you can get in touch with what you need and how you feel
  3. How to actually set a boundary with an abuser

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Setting a boundary with an abusive person is almost impossible.

Today we are going to go over 3 things:

  1. Why it is so hard to set boundaries with an abuser
  2. How to regulate yourself so you can get in touch with what you need and how you feel
  3. How to actually set a boundary with an abuser

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10385885 Tue, 05 Apr 2022 18:00:00 -0400 1657 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 13 full false Learning to be There for Yourself Learning to be There for Yourself No matter what stage of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship you are in, you will need to learn how to put your oxygen mask on, and doing that starts with no longer living to expectations set by others or society. This episode talks about how to start to be there for yourself.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> No matter what stage of leaving an emotionally abusive relationship you are in, you will need to learn how to put your oxygen mask on, and doing that starts with no longer living to expectations set by others or society. This episode talks about how to start to be there for yourself.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3


Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10328840 Sun, 27 Mar 2022 22:00:00 -0400 1350 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 12 full false Understanding the Cycle of Abuse Understanding the Cycle of Abuse The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship.

The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy one.

On this episode, I will talk through the 4 stages and how you can understand them.

You can find the diagram here: http://jessicaknightcoaching.com/the-cycle-of-abuse/

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship.

The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy one.

On this episode, I will talk through the 4 stages and how you can understand them.

You can find the diagram here: http://jessicaknightcoaching.com/the-cycle-of-abuse/

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10300770 Tue, 22 Mar 2022 22:00:00 -0400 1198 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 11 full false An Abusers Apology and How to Know if they are Truly Sorry An Abusers Apology and How to Know if they are Truly Sorry An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology - and you shouldn’t accept it.

A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt someone you love.

Have you ever noticed how some apologies make you feel worse after getting them? You thought you were getting the apology you so longed to have; but you got an excuse and a justification?

Often in abusive relationships, we see abusive partners apologizing with little to no willingness to make changes towards nurturing a healthy relationship, or behaving differently in the future.  On todays episode, we unpack an abusers apology and how to know if someone is actually sorry.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> An apology from an abuser never feels like a true apology - and you shouldn’t accept it.

A real apology is remorse followed by silence, space and changed behavior. A real apology is less speaking and more personal work on yourself. A real apology is looking within and addressing what caused you to hurt someone you love.

Have you ever noticed how some apologies make you feel worse after getting them? You thought you were getting the apology you so longed to have; but you got an excuse and a justification?

Often in abusive relationships, we see abusive partners apologizing with little to no willingness to make changes towards nurturing a healthy relationship, or behaving differently in the future.  On todays episode, we unpack an abusers apology and how to know if someone is actually sorry.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10257007 Tue, 15 Mar 2022 17:00:00 -0400 1102 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 9 full false I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love Most people don't know how to build up their own self worth. I've had my own battles with self love, self worth, self esteem and self care. I certainly didn't resented all of the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to be able to trust myself.

When I work with clients on this, I always come from a place small steps. I don't use the words "self love." I don't tell them they need to love themselves to move forward. I tell them I want to help them feel proud of themselves. 

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Most people don't know how to build up their own self worth. I've had my own battles with self love, self worth, self esteem and self care. I certainly didn't resented all of the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to be able to trust myself.

When I work with clients on this, I always come from a place small steps. I don't use the words "self love." I don't tell them they need to love themselves to move forward. I tell them I want to help them feel proud of themselves. 

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10204736 Mon, 07 Mar 2022 13:00:00 -0500 293 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 8 full false What it Feels Like to be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship What it Feels Like to be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship What it feels like to be in an Emotionally Abusive relationship. MAID helped me conceptualize my journey. I hope this gives you the courage to understand what is happening in your life.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> What it feels like to be in an Emotionally Abusive relationship. MAID helped me conceptualize my journey. I hope this gives you the courage to understand what is happening in your life.

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10170670 Tue, 01 Mar 2022 20:00:00 -0500 1058 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 7 full false What it's Like to Work with Me What it's Like to Work with Me I am traveling this week so I took a step back from the larger topics and explain what it's like to work with me when dealing with Emotional or Narcissistic Abuse.

Use this link to schedule a free Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> I am traveling this week so I took a step back from the larger topics and explain what it's like to work with me when dealing with Emotional or Narcissistic Abuse.

Use this link to schedule a free Clarity Call: https://jessicaknightcoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=2523892

If you need support:

Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com

Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10129525 Wed, 23 Feb 2022 10:00:00 -0500 855 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 6 full false Common Signs of Gaslighting and How to Ungaslight Yourself Common Signs of Gaslighting and How to Ungaslight Yourself Gaslighting is incredibly painful and it's an actual form of psychological manipulation that affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality.

To Gaslight someone is to basically plant seeds of doubt in their mind to make them question their own sense of truth and reality, like memory or sense of judgement, and their perceptions and their feelings.

So my hope is that this podcast simplifies the concept of gaslighting to something that you can digest, because a lot of people talk about gaslighting, but not a lot of people talk about exactly how it feels and how it shows up. I also hope it helps you un-gaslight yourself.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com


Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Gaslighting is incredibly painful and it's an actual form of psychological manipulation that affects your memory, your perception, your sanity, and your reality.

To Gaslight someone is to basically plant seeds of doubt in their mind to make them question their own sense of truth and reality, like memory or sense of judgement, and their perceptions and their feelings.

So my hope is that this podcast simplifies the concept of gaslighting to something that you can digest, because a lot of people talk about gaslighting, but not a lot of people talk about exactly how it feels and how it shows up. I also hope it helps you un-gaslight yourself.

If you need support:

Website: emotionalabusecoach.com


Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching

Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10061457 Sat, 12 Feb 2022 10:00:00 -0500 1810 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 5 full false Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of domestic violence. 

If you are in a trauma bond, I personally believe that you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure his best was really good. I am sure it was sweet, kind, and raw. When you say you know who they really are inside, I know you mean it. 

But when we are in trauma we are not completely in reality.

A trauma bond convinces you that you are in love with your abuser. You will feel like he is your soulmate. That the mistreatment is not that bad. That he really loves you despite this mistreatment. That he means his apologies. That when he says he is trying to change, he is, and you are actually not noticing any of the changes he’s made.

This episode focuses on what a Trauma Bond is and how you can start to heal from it.

Teal Swan video mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_lakRMIA7Q

Cycle of Abuse in Domestic Partnership: http://jessicaknightcoaching.com/the-cycle-of-abuse-in-domestic-partnership/

Contact me:
jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com
http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed as a result of the cycle of domestic violence. 

If you are in a trauma bond, I personally believe that you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure his best was really good. I am sure it was sweet, kind, and raw. When you say you know who they really are inside, I know you mean it. 

But when we are in trauma we are not completely in reality.

A trauma bond convinces you that you are in love with your abuser. You will feel like he is your soulmate. That the mistreatment is not that bad. That he really loves you despite this mistreatment. That he means his apologies. That when he says he is trying to change, he is, and you are actually not noticing any of the changes he’s made.

This episode focuses on what a Trauma Bond is and how you can start to heal from it.

Teal Swan video mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_lakRMIA7Q

Cycle of Abuse in Domestic Partnership: http://jessicaknightcoaching.com/the-cycle-of-abuse-in-domestic-partnership/

Contact me:
jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com
http://www.emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-10022992 Sun, 06 Feb 2022 19:00:00 -0500 2411 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 4 full false What are Signs of Emotional Abuse? What are Signs of Emotional Abuse? Signs of Emotional Abuse. We discuss Anger, Contempt, Control, Blame and Gaslighting. This podcast only scratches the surface of what is Emotional Abuse.

Free Copy: Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men"

Email me if you need support.

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]]> Signs of Emotional Abuse. We discuss Anger, Contempt, Control, Blame and Gaslighting. This podcast only scratches the surface of what is Emotional Abuse.

Free Copy: Lundy Bancroft, "Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men"

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{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-9976148 Sat, 29 Jan 2022 20:00:00 -0500 2486 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 3 full false Will My Emotionally Abusive Partner Change? Will My Emotionally Abusive Partner Change? Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change.

This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people.

Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change is a deeply transformative process requiring “deep work” and committing to living amends for a lifetime.

Few men choose to take this road. Staying in your relationship because he might be changing or has committed to change may not be the best option for you.

This episode scratches the surface of what a toxic person would need to do to move from abusive to respecting you.

Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: Can He Change

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

If you need support, you can find me at emotionalabusecoach.com

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Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change.

This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people.

Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change is a deeply transformative process requiring “deep work” and committing to living amends for a lifetime.

Few men choose to take this road. Staying in your relationship because he might be changing or has committed to change may not be the best option for you.

This episode scratches the surface of what a toxic person would need to do to move from abusive to respecting you.

Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: Can He Change

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

If you need support, you can find me at emotionalabusecoach.com

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-9907728 Tue, 18 Jan 2022 12:00:00 -0500 990 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 2 full false My Story My Story My story used to sound like this: "In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke, ‘assholes are just my type.’  But I quickly learned that THAT kind of guy would never care for me more than his friends, or the gym, and he didn’t care if he treated me like shit. I needed to learn how to go for the nice guy, who maybe didn’t have the initial jab and or the 6 pack, but would treat me like a princess…if I let him."

I am here to tell you that story is actually bullshit. That story doesn’t even scratch the surface of what was going on. This episode dives deeper into my story.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> My story used to sound like this: "In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke, ‘assholes are just my type.’  But I quickly learned that THAT kind of guy would never care for me more than his friends, or the gym, and he didn’t care if he treated me like shit. I needed to learn how to go for the nice guy, who maybe didn’t have the initial jab and or the 6 pack, but would treat me like a princess…if I let him."

I am here to tell you that story is actually bullshit. That story doesn’t even scratch the surface of what was going on. This episode dives deeper into my story.

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3

Support the show

*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*

Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy

*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse


{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

]]> Jessica Knight Buzzsprout-9857622 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 22:00:00 -0500 630 gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, narcissist, emotionalabuse, narcissism, sociopath, toxicrelationships, manipulation, narcissisticabusesurvivor, psychopath, nocontact, narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, traumabonding, healing, domesticabuse, npd, psychologi 1 full false