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Strong Female Character: Nero Book Awards Winner Hardcover – 16 Feb. 2023
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THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER
'I tore through this hilarious, smart, sad, revealing book' - Bob Odenkirk
'Funny, sharp and has incredible clarity' - Jon Ronson
'An absolute riot. I'm literally going to read it again once I've finished, and I'm a miserable bastard...it's a belter' - FRANKIE BOYLE
'Strong Female Character is a testament to the importance of self-knowledge.' - Rachael Healy, The Guardian
A summary of my book:
1. I'm diagnosed with autism 20 years after telling a doctor I had it.
2. My terrible Catholic childhood: I hate my parents etc.
3. My friendship with an elderly man who runs the corner shop and is definitely not trying to groom me. I get groomed.
4. Homelessness.
5. Stripping.
6. More stripping but with more nervous breakdowns.
7. I hate everyone at uni and live with a psycho etc.
8. REDACTED as too spicy.
9. After everyone tells me I don't look autistic, I try to cure my autism and get addicted to Xanax.
10. REDACTED as too embarrassing.
'Fern's book, like everything she does, is awesome. Incredibly funny, and so unapologetically frank that I feel genuinely sorry for her lawyers.' - PHIL WANG
'Of course it's funny - it's Fern Brady - but this book is also deeply moving and eye-opening'
- ADAM KAY
'It made me laugh out loud and broke my heart and made me weep...I hope absolutely everyone reads this, and it makes them kinder and more curious about the way we all live' - DAISY BUCHANAN
'Glorious. Frank but nuanced, a memoir that doesn't sacrifice voice or self-awareness. And it has brilliant things to say about being autistic and being funny' - ELLE MCNICOLL
'A set text for all of us in 2023' - DEBORAH FRANCES-WHITE
'Fern is a brilliant, beautiful writer with a unique voice and even more unique story. Astute, honest and very, very funny.' - LOU SANDERS
'So funny and brilliant' - HOLLY SMALE
'Witty, dry, and gimlet-eyed, Strong Female Character is a necessary corrective. Brady offers a compelling, messy, highly resonant portrait of what masked Autism feels like.' - Devon Price, author of Unmasking Autism
- Print length288 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherBRAZEN
- Publication date16 Feb. 2023
- Dimensions13.8 x 3 x 21.8 cm
- ISBN-101914240448
- ISBN-13978-1914240447
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Fern Brady is a woman. She is also autistic. She was born in Scotland (no, not Glasgow). She has no presets for being a 'good woman' - she never hated her body or indulged in messy millennial shame. She now lives out of wedlock in London. She has zero children.
Fern's caustic wit, exceptional writing and electric stage craft has made her one of the UK's hottest comedy stars. As seen on Live from the BBC, Live from the Comedy Store, The Russell Howard Hour, and Live at the Apollo. She's had viral success with her BBC Life Lessons and supported Frankie Boyle and Katherine Ryan on tour. She can currently be seen on Taskmaster on Channel 4.
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- Publisher : BRAZEN
- Publication date : 16 Feb. 2023
- Language : English
- Print length : 288 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1914240448
- ISBN-13 : 978-1914240447
- Item weight : 404 g
- Dimensions : 13.8 x 3 x 21.8 cm
- Best Sellers Rank: 242,021 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- 70 in Social & Health Issues Biographies
- 150 in Psychology & Psychiatry
- 313 in Social Sciences (Books)
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- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 5 April 2026Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseEnjoyed this - good solid, honest, genuine account. Plenty of fairly dark and light sort of humour. It's also an account that should be taken seriously for its contribution to biography in general and of autistic experience in particular. It's also a good educational piece for those who want to learn more about the ways in which autism is experienced by someone - though remember that key traits manifest in different quantities and are affected by different environments in different autistic people. Fern has plenty good quality chat and an interesting and engaging perspective on life! Interesting that though she didn't / hasn't (yet?) found solace in religion though I wonder if spirituality and faith is something that could fill a gap and provide an interpretive key on many of life's ups and downs?
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 2 February 2026Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseStrong Female Character by Fern Brady is a wonderfully funny and humane book that delves into the reasons and mechanisms behind the differences between individuals with autism and those with neurotypical thought processes, thinking, and behaviours. As a comedian who has appeared on our the television screen, Fern shares some of her comedic routines on YouTube, which are definitely worth seeking out.
- One particularly insightful line in the book explains masking, which involves attempting to emulate the traits of normality and sociability. However, this constant effort can be incredibly exhausting, akin to speaking a foreign language for 24 hours a day, leading to complete exhaustion.
- Fern recounts an amusing story where she attends a wedding and finds herself in a dress that is uncomfortably tight and requires her hair to be raised into a bun. This sensory overload triggers her hyper-sensory feelings, which are often a characteristic of autism spectrum disorder. Imagine wearing a cloth made of barbwire—the intense pain it could cause would likely lead to a meltdown. This anecdote provides a valuable glimpse into how an autistic person might perceive the world and the potential consequences of such experiences.
- Throughout the book, Fern also discusses her special interests, which she prefers to refer to as her preoccupations and passions. In her case, these interests revolved around her boyfriends, and she would become exceptionally focused on discussing and explaining them to anyone she met. It’s fascinating to note that fascinations and preoccupations can extend beyond objects, such as trains, dinosaurs, numbers, shapes, colours, and letters, to encompass individuals as well.
- Fern also delves into the concept of the amygdala in many individuals with autism, explaining that it can be overly active and contribute to extreme responses to situations that require calming down. An enlarged amygdala can heighten responses, leading to anxiety and depression in social situations. To cope with these hyper-sensory responses and emotions, one must convince themselves that they are likely not real. However, this can be challenging, especially for individuals on the autistic spectrum, which is a broad spectrum. She describes having a meltdown as being like banging an analogue TV on the verge of breaking down. While it may appear that she is in a rage, she explains that she is actually trying to regulate herself.
- Fern asserts that she now relies on data to reassure herself. She explains that if someone starts making unpleasant comments at a party, regardless of how frightening or uncomfortable it feels, it’s statistically highly unlikely that violence will occur. This is because most people have a strong desire to avoid negative social consequences and the loss of things like their freedom, money, or status. She learned all this through extensive reading and studying humans, which she describes as being like being a Martian. However, none of this information is intuitive.
- The author shares a fascinating insight into how she achieves A*s in English while simultaneously struggling with the concept of sensitivity around swear words. For instance, she might use swear words when a family of one of her boyfriend’s plays a game around them, wanting to impress them. To do so, she comes up with something so outrageous that it elicits laughter while also conveying her plight. She thinks that this was what the family wanted.
- The author also discusses some of her strategies that have helped her manage her sensory processing issues and autism. These include walking, yoga, taking better care of herself, and taking supplements.
- The book offers an excellent overview of what it’s like to be different. The next time you find yourself wondering, “Why would someone do that?” it might be because some of us process information differently. This book helps you understand that not everyone is the same, and some people must process and make sense of the world in unique ways. Autism spectrum disorder can affect our ability to form relationships and understand social situations and cues that others find natural. For some, these challenges can significantly impact their ability to form relationships and how they make sense of their world through their sometimes-intense interests and rigid thinking.
- Fern’s book is remarkable and has taught me a lot, even though I’ve worked with autistic children for many years. She’s done a great job of explaining what autism is like in more able individuals who don’t the associated learning difficulties that many of those I work with do have, and how masking works, especially for girls who present differently from boys, which is often misunderstood. People with ASD often try to behave normally, even when they’re struggling internally.
- Fern’s story also provides insights into certain aspects of autism, which are explained clearly. It’s also a personal account of her life, and the book is quite humorous. Highly recommended, especially if you work or know someone with autism or you have autism. After reading this book, I also read “Why Can’t I Just Enjoy Things?” By Pierre Novellie , and I highly recommend that just as highly also.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 20 February 2024Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseStrong Female Character by Fern Brady is a bold and beautiful memoir, This nonfiction book is a personal and emotional journey charting the author’s experiences growing up before her late autistic diagnosis. Fern was told that she couldn’t be autistic because she could make eye contact and had many boyfriends. It was a sadly common misunderstanding of a complex spectrum disorder. This book is a frank and honest account which explores themes of class, mental health, sexism, social pressures, sexuality and coming of age. The writing is sharp, funny and engaging as the author explores how she tried to cope with seeing and experiencing the world differently. It is an informative and vital work which I think everyone should read to help understand and connect with someone with autism and the importance of self knowledge, diagnosis and maintaining hope. It deals with difficult topics with humour and heart and examines how misdiagnosis can cause unnecessary harm. A powerful, important read from a woman who writes with a compelling and raw voice 4 Stars ✨.
- Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 25 April 2026Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseA brilliant book that takes what is a very tough story for the writer and turns it into something educational (without ever being patronising), funny, and eminently accessible. I found it to be a total page turner, cannot recommend it enough.
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CherylReviewed in France on 21 February 20235.0 out of 5 stars Fern Brady is a brave voice
Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseI fell in love with Fern Brady (as many others did) during her time on Taskmaster. She was adorably awkward and funny and just a breath of fresh air without any pretense whatsoever. Her unique approach to each task was so fun to watch because it would almost always be surprising but never boring. I speak for many when I say thank you to Fern for having the courage to ‘out’ herself as autistic. While she has said in multiple interviews and even on a Reddit AMA that she could see how blatantly her autism was showing, it was only blatant to her, as to the rest of us, she was just amazing. My only disappointment whatsoever with this book was the length. I wanted more stories about other aspects of her life and career. But that’s a very, very tiny complaint. Bravo , Fern! I look forward to hearing more from you in the future!
Felipe Rezende CrispiReviewed in Brazil on 27 March 20255.0 out of 5 stars Uma obra visceral, divertida e afiada
Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseA visceral, funny and painful work, Fern has a sharp sense of humor that will cut you deep.
Loved the book, love her humor. Hugs from Brasil
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Andrea N.Reviewed in Germany on 6 April 20265.0 out of 5 stars Herausragend! Mutig, offen, ungeschönt - und hilfreich!
Format: Kindle EditionVerified PurchaseFern Brady schreibt ungeschönt, ehrlich und so witzig. Ich habe mitgelacht und mitgeweint und so viele Aha-Erlebnisse gehabt.
Nachdem ich mir „Strong Female Character“ zunächst als Hörbuch in deutscher Sprache gekauft hatte, habe ich nun nochmal die Gelegenheit ergriffen, es in der Originalsprache lesen zu können.
Insbesondere weiblicher Autismus kann sich ungewohnt, sehr versteckt zeigen, das ist mittlerweile viel beschrieben und kann ich aus eigener Erfahrung leidvoll bestätigen; Fern Brady bringt das so gut auf den Punkt und nimmt dabei auch wirklich kein Blatt vor den Mund.
Ja, das ist teilweise erschreckend und schockierend - aber es ist ehrlich.
Und genau das braucht es, um Autismus wirklich zu verstehen und auch dessen Tragweite - insbesondere die extremen möglichen Auswirkungen und Behinderungen, die entstehen, wenn Autismus nicht diagnostiziert wird.
In genau solche Situationen, wie Fern Brady sie so grandios offen teilt, geraten undiagnostizierte Autisten ( und auch andere, beispielsweise ADHSler und AuDHSler), wenn sie sich selbst nicht kennen, verstehen und keine adäquate Unterstützung bekommen.
Insofern bin ich außerordentlich dankbar für dieses mutige und mitreißende Buch und kann es jedem empfehlen, der sich selbst besser verstehen will oder eine Ahnung davon bekommen, wie das Leben mit Autismus, ganz besonders spät- und undiagnostiziert, ungeschönt aussehen kann.
Wer denkt, die Frau übertreibe: Nein, keineswegs.
Das zu verstehen und validieren ist von immenser Bedeutung für unser Gesundheitssystem!
David SReviewed in Australia on 19 September 20255.0 out of 5 stars A frank and engaging read
Format: PaperbackVerified PurchaseFern pulls no punches in this book, which explores her relationship with autism as a working-class Scottish girl/woman, both before and after her diagnosis. It's well written, thoughtful and accessible. I gained fresh perspective, and I was entertained along the way.
chigginsReviewed in the United States on 16 April 20265.0 out of 5 stars Funny and Interesting, but insightful and important too
In addition to being a great read from an _really_ funny person, this gave me more insights into what's going on with my Aspie peeps than just about anything else I've read or seen. It's a great read, and I'm grateful for it.






