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It'll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting (Okay, picture this... Book 1) Kindle Edition
In this rollicking good memoir, author Lisa Orban is upfront that the reader shouldn't dive into her world expecting resolution and recovery by the end of the book, and it's a refreshing way to discover beauty and inspiration from the unconventional.
Lisa Orban consistently illustrates this possibility through her reminiscences of both circumstance and consequence. Although her life is an emotional rollercoaster of ups, downs, twists and turns, she manages to keep the reigns steady on chaos and retains balance between tragedy and hilarity throughout her tales.
While some may argue that there may be peace in finding normality, Orban demonstrates how deviating from social obedience encourages us to define the world we live in by giving it meaning, and she does just that.
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateSeptember 30, 2015
- File size17.9 MB
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"I laughed, I cried and most of all, I FELT. Sorrow, joy and amusement in equal measure...This is a book like none other I've read." - Sandy Toes Amazon Top 1000 Reviewer
"The author refers to this book as a roller coaster of emotion, and she couldn't be more accurate. This book made me laugh, cry, and feel disappointed, sad, angry, happy....a whole range of emotions!" - Teresa Kandar, author of Heartbreak and Happiness
"An excellent, powerful read. Lisa's writing is truly alive. At turns disturbing and hilarious, the book's larger message is this: It's possible to courageously face the darkness in life, and not just find the light, but create it." - Tracy Knight author of The Astonished Eye
"It's a complex book that left me happy, sad, exasperated, amused, horrified, frustrated and completely wrung out...you've written a book that defies my ability to categorize and whose impact on me I cannot adequately describe. Kudos."
"She opens windows onto foster care, child abuse, domestic violence, teenagers' angst at what exactly is an 'adult' and yet mixes all of this grim reality into a memoir that is profoundly involving and moving - and entertaining and full of some zingers that will have you howling." - Grady Harp HALL OF FAME TOP 100 REVIEWER VINE VOICE
"A Must-Read. Should be Mandatory for All Participants in Foster Care & Faculties in the Educational System. Laughs & Tears." - Andy Anderson HALL OF FAME TOP 10 REVIEWER
About the Author
She currently lives in her hometown, in the house she loves, and at the center of the chaos she enjoys so much. Often surrounded by her children, her loves, friends and the strays (both two legged and four) she takes in. She continues to seek out new adventures, misadventures and new mistakes to fill the pages of her next book, laughing as she goes.
Product details
- ASIN : B0160LJXNC
- Publisher : Indies United Publishing House, LLC
- Accessibility : Learn more
- Publication date : September 30, 2015
- Edition : 2nd
- Language : English
- File size : 17.9 MB
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Print length : 279 pages
- ISBN-13 : 978-1644560310
- Page Flip : Enabled
- Book 1 of 2 : Okay, picture this.
- Best Sellers Rank: #5,379,680 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #358 in Children's Abuse books
- #1,421 in Children's Books on Abuse
- #2,045 in Children's Nonfiction Social Issues
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About the author

I had a more formal bio to begin with on here, but I'm not a very formal person. So, let's get to know each other, shall we?
I suppose we should start with why should you care and what makes me so important that you should be compelled to spend some time with me.
Well, I am an Indie author. I write memoirs, they are dark, funny, tragic and hilarious. If you don’t feel better about your own life and your own choices after reading about my misadventures in living, I’d be surprised. I am the reigning champion of “Jerry Springer, the Home Game” after all.
Let's see, what else would you like to know? I mean, my life is pretty much an open book at this point. I guess we could start with I was born in Galesburg, IL. I had a mother and a father, they didn't really get along and that's a whole different story that would take an entire other book, and since it's not my story to tell, we'll let it go at that.
Shortly after my birth, my mother moved to Quincy, IL where I (mostly) grew up after she married husband #2. I received a brief tour of Illinois curtsey of foster care and at 18 ran away with my friend Cindy to Phoenix where I lived for three years. I returned to Quincy after my disastrous marriage came to a grinding halt, put my life back together, went to school, earned an Associate in Art in Psychology with a minor in Art. I got a job, well, I've had a lot of them to be honest, and some of them have been pretty weird, but they paid the bills.
I’m the mother of five (yes, you read that correctly, five), all of which are grown and gone except my youngest who has a few more years yet before she is let loose into society. I’ve recently become a grandmother, and I expect that will happen more often as the years go by. One of these days I’m going to write a book about my children, much to their impending regret, but that what memoir writers do, they share their lives and their stories. And let’s face it, children are ripe fodder for the funny and the tragic, often all at the same time.
I live in a house where chaos is on the menu of the day, every day. For over a decade now I have taken in people in need, the homeless, the helpless and the lost. They come to me broke, and often broken, I give them a clean slate when they walk through the door, and a place to rebuild their lives. I have taken in pregnant women, vets, ex-cons, families and many others who all have one thing in common, somewhere along the way life has pushed them down to the point that they could no longer cope, and their world collapsed around them. When they leave my house, be it weeks or years later, each of them is ready to face the world again, and have gone on to scatter across the states in search of their dreams. (My not so secret dream is that maybe one of these days I will become a moderately successful writer and finally be able to put in that second bathroom I’ve always dreamed of having. In a house of sometimes 12 or more people, that’s no small thing!)
Also, I’m pretty funny.
So, I hope you will give me a chance to make you laugh, maybe roll your eyes at me, snicker, and on occasion, maybe shed a tear as I continue to share my journey with you.
Forever hopeful...
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- Reviewed in the United States on October 15, 2015Format: KindleVerified PurchaseLength: 302 pages.
When the author contacted me seeking a review, I agreed to read this as a free borrow through my Kindle Unlimited account. Within 50 or so pages, though, I was so overtaken by the trials and travesties within this story that I bought it for my Kindle library. It is a hard book to put down and forget about.
Although I am giving this first edition five stars due to its immense potential value to society, as should be apparent in the paragraphs below, there is a visible need for professional editing that I hope the author will understand and employ.
Most of the editing errors concern commas or, what I call, autocorrect stumbles. Before I discuss that, I often commit these types of mistakes myself. Often I commit glaring spelling errors, myself, because I have vision problems while writing on my iPhone, and because I’m afraid to turn off the autocorrect. Further, unlike the errors I can’t miss seeing that are committed by others, no matter how hard I try, I am unable to successfully proof my own typing. If and when I write a Kindle book I hope I have the sense to search for and employ a professional editor.
That brings us to our discussion of this otherwise terrific book It’ll Feel when it Quits Hurting. The author commonly uses the possessive sense, or the apostrophe, in places where it is not proper, or does not use it when it is needed, but far less frequent is this mistake. And, on a very few occasions, such as location 2246, (the last line just before the chapter heading My Kingdom For a Story, the word shallow is used instead of swallow – this is the sort of typo I refer to, correctly or not, as ‘an autocorrect’ error.
But please don’t let such mistakes and oversights spoil your opportunity to gain an insight that is of utmost value in our society. The stories of this writer have likely been on for eons, but, as our society slips and slides through the current phase, these tragedies are gaining frequency. At least, that is my belief. At any rate, more of us should get her perspective into adolescence during foster care.
Yes, I know it is tough being a parent, and still tougher being a foster parent. After all, manuals and procedures and studies and installation/operating instructions are prevalent for most anything in our society, except as regards raising a child or in maturing into middle age or into the status of becoming a senior citizen.
Also, the faculties in our school districts should be required to read this book. There is a bit in this memoir that, while it is hilarious in the reading, it speaks volumes in terms of the prejudice and inherent profiling (racial and otherwise) that pervades our educations system.
But, even those instances are not adequate summaries as to why I rate this a must-read, five star triumph.
The author’s life is much that of a character in a Stephen King masterpiece. She is almost Carrie in the flesh. Yet, despite failed parenting and failures by most of those caring for her in her years as a foster child, and despite the snafus within her school years, Lisa Orban, the author, grew up and bettered herself by attending college and earning an Associate of Arts Degree in psychology.
I suppose one reason I can so readily identify with her growing up is, my first wife (of 26 years) had also spent time in foster care in Ohio. She also had a horrid experience in her home, with her step father, after she was recovered from her nightmare in that previous foster care. Her siblings also experienced hardship and tragedy under the same roof.
But, unlike my first wife, Orban was born during a later period, a society only beginning to trudge through the result of the sexual revolution and racial/sexual/sexual preference issues, and, itself, a victim of the Supreme Court decisions regarding school prayer and abortion. I know my fellow liberal democrats will not look kindly on that statement, but, I believe in candor and openness. Our society has been reaping what earlier Supreme Court decisions sowed.
Anyway, I know this is a review of Orban’s works, not a platform upon which I should pontificate. My opinion, as stated above, though, has pertinence to the appreciation of a rollicking good roller coaster ride through life by someone who has dared to open herself up to ridicule in order that we can enjoy the trip with her, or share the joys, heartbreaks and fears with her.
I pray, though, that a sufficient number of readers gain an insight into her topsy-turvy life and rejection and love so that we can make a better system for the care of children, especially in foster homes, and in schools, for the children she and her children bring into our world.
Oh, her story of her grandfather is terrific, reminding me of one of my mother’s boyfriends when she was quite young. He was a twiddler and my grandmother asked him if he could do something besides twiddle like that. His reply? He reversed the twiddling.
The overarching message I took from her narrative of grandfather was that it instilled in her a certain innocence and love that, deep down, permitted her to survive the grief that was to come.
Again, this is a must-read story that should be compulsory to all foster-dare homes and the entire educational system. There is a wealth of education between the covers of It’ll Feel Better When It Quits Hurting.
- Reviewed in the United States on June 3, 2016“It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting” is a collection of narrative essays and a brilliant debut from author Lisa Orban. Part coming-of-age, part coming-to-grips, Orban tackles growing up in dysfunctional families, foster care and transitioning into adulthood through personal anecdotes told in a brisk style that makes it hard to put the book down once you pick it up.
Orban is upfront that the reader shouldn’t dive into her world expecting resolution and recovery by the end of the book, and while this might be refreshing for cynics like myself, it's also fresh way for the optimist reader to discover beauty and inspiration from the unconventional. Orban consistently illustrates this possibility through her reminiscences of both circumstance and consequence. Although her life is an emotional rollercoaster of ups, down and twists, she manages to keep the reigns steady on chaos and retains balance between tragedy and hilarity through her tales. While some may argue that there may be peace in finding normality, Orban demonstrates how deviating from social obedience encourages us to define the world we live in by giving it meaning, and she does just that.
This is an essential read for teens and young adults, particularly those dealing with family dysfunction - and for us older folks, it helps to repair the disconnect many of us experience between adolescence and adulthood because it’s easy to forget that we’ve actually been there. “It’ll Feel Better when it Quits Hurting” is an entertaining narrative that will stay with you long after you read it.
- Reviewed in the United States on May 14, 2017This book was a memoir about Lisa's life. It Held my attention and some of the chapters were cute while some were just basic and I felt could have been skipped. I thought the telling of the story bounced around quite a bit and the timeline was difficult to piece together. I did feel for Lisa and her relationship with Nev, I was glad she chose to leave, as hard as it was. I really didn't like the illustrations in this book. I thought it took away from the story. I didn't think her memoir need it drawn or striction's. The telling of the story is more of a painted picture.
- Reviewed in the United States on July 20, 2018Format: KindleVerified PurchaseThis is an eye-popping account of what it is like to be a foster child in the Illinois system. As a former English teacher and a college instructor in a "Writing Your Memoirs" class, I can honestly say this is a book that will make you sit up and pay attention. Though not as graphic as "A Child Called It," it does give a good insider's view of the bounce-around crap foster children are put through. .Orban helps us out by making it move fast with short chapters and her own illustrations . If you are a teacher and want to get a feel for what baggage many modern kids are bringing to school with them, or if you just want to read a good tale of someone beating the odds, read this book!
- Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2023Format: KindleVerified PurchaseLisa Orban creates a memoir of a young girl desperately looking for happiness while bouncing between cruel family forces that lead to life in foster care. Surviving that turmoil eventually gives her strength to lift herself out of a dependency that threatens to destroy her. A good read for anyone who wants to understand how family trauma shapes young life.
- Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2017Amazing story of the roller coaster of life well told in a way that made me feel like I was in the room. The book had me pulling for the author as she made interesting and often very brave choices. Related with candor and self reflection, this was a very worthwhile read.
- Reviewed in the United States on February 22, 2016An excellent, powerful read. Lisa's writing is truly alive. Reading this book is like spending time looking through a scrapbook or photo album, and it is its episodic approach is exactly the proper way to share this story. At turns disturbing and hilarious, the book's larger message is this: It's possible to courageously face the darkness in life, and not just find the light, but create it.
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Dennis CardiffReviewed in Canada on March 25, 20175.0 out of 5 stars Heart Wrenching
Format: KindleVerified PurchaseThis is the heart wrenching story of a childhood that none of us should be forced to experience. The author has always had a very positive outlook on life. She describes herself as a Ming vase held together with Elmer's glue, but hold together she does through an escalation of abuse that takes it's toll on her self esteem.
This is a must read.


