I analyzed 700971 bytes worth of journalling data for 2025. Here are the most common patterns, ready to use as sticky note reminders for myself.

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Insight is to experience what a theorem is to a proof. We know that 2+2=4, but to understand that on a deeper level¹, we need to look at the proof.

Similarly, these insights are checkpoints of some destinations I reached during my travels. If you are curious more about the journey rather than the compressed insight, I wrote it in more detail in my fourth book, The Mirrors In Us.

We suffer when we substitute cognition for love, and we heal when cognition serves love.

1: In some cases, the depth of understanding I needed was too large, burdening me. Accepting a specific depth rather than spiralling forever was crucial 🙂

Right after waking up, I didn’t remember exactly what I had dreamed about, but I did remember the system: Do Kinder Acts. It is a very simple system, where everybody is inspired to do better, ever kinder acts.

It isn’t about doing grand things. It is about the small, simple things. For example, John helps Jennifer carry her groceries. After this act, Jennifer feels inspired to reciprocate by doing better, kinder acts, perhaps by helping two people carry their groceries, Bob and Alice, instead of one.

This isn’t a utopian fantasy, either. A personal example: While driving my car once, another driver started using their horn aggressively. At the moment, I chose to move my palm up and down to indicate “slow down, we’ll fix this”. The driver shook his head in disbelief and leaned back slightly, as if he were waking up from some sort of trance. He became calmer. Now, imagine an opposite reaction, where I react with aggression; then we would both fall into the same trance. Aggression transmits aggression. Calm transmits calm.

What’s a kinder act? How can I do something that the other will perceive as kind? Those are the questions worth directing our energy toward.

I wrote about On Positivity. The tl;dr is that when people are positive, when they feel heard, understood, and accepted, their world and perspectives become wider; they start accepting more, growing more flexible, and their love and understanding expand. In a negative state, they contract, the world becomes narrower, their focus shifts to the negative; naturally, to get rid of it.

A system like this could change the default tone of human interaction, resulting in peace, harmony, and love.

Starting is simple, too. Reflect on these two questions daily:

1. What kinder acts did I perform today?
2. How can I perform better tomorrow?

Sit with me. Take a breath. Slow your thoughts down. Breathe deeper. Slow down.

Have you slowed down yet?

Now read this positivity: You are amazing. You are beautiful. You are special. You are full of love. You are interesting. You are needed. You are heard. You are felt. You are understood.
You hear. You feel. You understand. You are loved. You love. You are special. Read it all again, slowly, and feel the love.

Now, reflect: Do you feel the expansion? Do you feel the beauty? Do you feel the colors? Do you feel the connection to yourself?

Stay with it. In this positivity is where we become flexible, and growth happens.

Next, contrast that to reading and experiencing negativity.

Do you notice how the expansion shrinks? How the focus narrows on the negative? How our focus turns only on getting rid of that negativity? In this negativity is where we become rigid, and either fight or flight happens.

You can’t fully choose when you experience positivity or negativity, but you can choose your environment and some of your reactions. Based on your experiences, you can optimize for positivity.

You don’t have full control over it, but with the power that you do have, how do you use it? And, knowing this, in what ways can you let some positivity in yourself?

As I grow older
I become wiser
But also more crooked

Experiences are lessons
That help us learn
But also, sometimes taint our soul

Through God’s love
Through God’s mercy
And through His grace
I pray, I repent

For the purification of my soul
And my heart
I pray

To be cleansed
To be shown the way
To be pure
Just like when I was a child

To be grateful
To be loving
To be able to love everybody
And to be able to love myself